Perhaps hobo's daughter, if she does contact him, will bring him out of the darkness of liberalism into the light of conservatism.

 

Update: Very minor one, but she changed her picture again. I have a theory of how it MIGHT be related to, or indicative of, the fact that she may have read my message. But... it is probably just wishful thinking. On the other hand... I think she MAY have given up her internet connection like so many have since using a Blackberry or Iphone or something to access Facebook. I wonder how prominent the message "alert" is on that system?

 

Maybe this has been asked, but why aren't you getting in touch with her mother first, and asking her to help you reunite with your daughter?
I think that would have been my approach, if it were as easy to contact either one. Unless you can't trust her mom to help you. I don't know, just asking.

 

I have wondered about contacting her mother as well. I would expect that she is in contact with your daughter. It might be an easier way to introduce you to your daughter, if her mother were willing to act as an intermediary and perhaps be present if you could arrange a meeting.

 

I have the FB app on my phone and the message is fairly prominent...bright red icon at the top of the app bar. However, if you don't pick it up on that visit, the icon disappears, even if the message is unread.

 

Roadhog said:

I don't think it has been asked, but I thought I made it clear (maybe not.) I have had NO contact with my daughter OR my ex-wife since before our divorce.

My ex wouldn't even contact me to let me know when they were "in town" so that I might SEE my daughter (even when I was paying.) Others told me now and then.

My Ex almost immediately married the NEXT guy who got her pregnant, and took my child to Germany with them when he joined the Army and got stationed there. NO word to ME about it. 4 yrs.... 8 yrs... later, they returned to SOMEWHERE in America.

I've said before, and I will cling to the belief, that my EX never trash talked me to our daughter. I believe that she was clear and honest with my daughter about her father. She just ISN'T the kind that will help me in this.... for whatever reason.

Furthermore, I couldn't find my EX any better than I could find my daughter. To find ONE... is to find the other. But, I have had little luck in that until now.

No... there was no "intro" thru my ex-wife.... even if I'd known how to contact HER! And yes.... I was afraid that if I HAD contacted HER first... for an intro... she would have quashed the whole deal.

This HAD to be between my daughter and me. That is one reason I had to wait until she was an adult.

Of ALL the helpful posts here, one thing was a constant. SOME kind of contact with the EX. Good or bad.... a conduit to negotiate parental rights.

NONE of this happened, or was possible, in my situation.

I HAVE considered the possibility of talking to my EX, and having her make the "intro." I even thought that after ALL these years, she would no longer feel the need to "protect" her precious daughter from my reach. But... I strongly believe it would NOT end as well as direct contact with my daughter.

And I have no other "contact" with HER than HER Facebook page (locked) as a "friend" on my daughter's page.

No... this will HAVE to be direct contact, Dennis to Denise... father to daughter.

 

I'm feeling a little anxious, and can't imagine what your going through.
Must feel like insomnia.

 

I HAVE been having trouble sleeping lately. I HAVE to go now, and try to get 6 hours sleep before driving out in the morning. Be home Sunday late morning. 16 hours of driving.

See ya.

 

Have a safe trip, and hope you get word from Denise soon! Sleep well tonight.

 

Well, I got up at 4 to make my third trip this week to Ft. lauderdale. Not enough freight... run cancelled. Another 3-day weekend! And another 2/3rd paycheck! But, I can handle it.

But, I got a shower! So... I'm clean and mean, and ready to do battle (on other threads.)

Did I fully answer the questions about why I don't feel that I can contact my daughter THROUGH my Ex? I really wished that was an option. But, unlike many of you here, I did not have HER as a partner in any discussions about my daughter since the day I last saw her. [Even tho years later, I acquiesced to an ANNULMENT of my marriage under the Catholic Church... for the benefit of my wife AND my daughter.]

About her picture.... and my theory:

She has changed her profile picture several times recently. The last 2 or 3 have been good pics of her, but obviously, ones taken in a "party" mood. I've seen all of her albums, and I see she likes a beer now and then herself. Who am I to judge?

I have had no response from her yet on my private message, assuming (as I do) that she has SEEN it. But, her newest update to her profile picture is NOT a "party" type picture, but a full frontal face... almost professional... hair combed, face made up, (sober) passport type picture.

Did she do this for me? I don't know. But, it's not the kind of picture MOST on Facebook post for their profile pic.

I know.... I'm probably "wishing" too much into this. Heck... she'll probably change it again in a few days! But, in light of the fact that she has not responded yet.... it is all the hope I have.

I don't have a pic of me on MY profile page. Neither does her mother. Could this be some kind of "challenge?" Does she need to know what I look like before answering me?