((((((( golfhobo ))))))))) hang in there sir. It will all work out ok.

 

I'm sorry to see the bleed over from crb here. I think it's going too far, and out of line.
The family support forum deserves better than this nonsense from the political forum.

On this forum, Hobo is my friend, and I'm siding with him on this.

I hope and pray Hobo reunites with his daughter, and that they can enjoy a future together.
She may have to be "hardened off" a little... because he is one contentious old know it all. hahahahaha

 

Deleting some items out of here, absolutely no need for outright verbal assault's like this. This is a support section not an axe grinding section.

 

Grrrrrrr.


I have half a mind to make my way back to North Carolina, so I can grab your dang index fingers and start typing out a "Contact" message!!!

 

Life is messy.
I'd brace for the stuff you already expect, Hobro, because you can't turn back now.

I've lost a sister to family drama. She doesn't want anything to do with us.
I have to let her go, but my door is always open, and that's all I can do.

That's about it, you just do your best, and keep faith things will be okay.
I don't know any perfect family.

 

Roadhog said:

Thanks. I know I've never introduced political arguments into responses on this forum.

Thanks again. Maybe, I should just STAY on this thread. Maybe, part of my indecision is based on my desire to be liked... and my fear that my daughter might see me the way some HERE see me.

From your lips to God's ears. Or, if there IS no God... to HER ears! (wink.)

I agree completely... which is why I questioned the sanity of me contacting her NOW that I found her. Like MOST parents on here, I always felt that she had inherited my "smarts." I felt that, IF and when the time came, I would be able to "relate" to her in a way I've somehow failed to do with so many of you.

I don't mean that as any kind of insult! I simply mean that she and I would "see" things in a similar fashion, and I wouldn't have to ARGUE with her so much.

 

I bet that's very possible. I'm wired the same as my Dad. Disposition I think is part of genetics, so even if you didn't live together, I think it's likely.
I don't know if personal beliefs will come up right away, so you might get a break there.

(it doesn't always pass on)
My brother-in-law just got back from St.Louis visiting his son, and they had a huge blow up over politics. His son got so angry and frustrated, it got titanic.
It can really divide people... so I think it's not worth it, if you can avoid it, unless of course you are simpatico.

Get intouch with her, and trust things will be okay. You can do it... you are a good man, and she will see that.

 

I can see it now, Hobo will write her a quick little note and just because of genetics she will reply with a 10 page response.

 

hobo, you started this thread on 3/6 here we are 5/8 thats two months more you have keeped yourself from her. keep it simple send her your contact and you would like to get to know each-other. no more no less, get out of your own head and do it now!!

 

Just saw this one myself...glad to see you talking about it, Hobo. You know my story...it was very similar. Estranged from my eldest daughter for some 18 years. Ran into the SAME thing...found her on FB. After agonizing over it for a while, did the FB message. It was simple and to the point. "Been a long time, just wanted to let you know that I'm here if you ever want to talk."

A couple months later, she did. After some very long emails and then phone calls, I saw her for the first time in 18 years. Today, she's been living with us for the past 9 months and actually getting ready to move out into her own apartment this weekend. Been great having her with us. More than awesome to have her back in my life.

The best thing I can tell you is that the past is the past...you cannot change it. But you can dictate the direction of your future. Make the message...keep it short. Then let her make the decision when she's ready. Maybe she is now...maybe she will be in the future....maybe she never will be. But the bottom line is, if you do NOT reach out, then you'll never know. It would be unfair to you and quite possibly unfair to her, depending on her feelings.

Get it done...then let things happen the way they will.