[Kensbabydoll]

Ok, I haven't been on this site for quite a few days, but I just thought I'd check the replies to this. First of all, to Bimbo, I do not appreciate you "suggesting" that I get a job. You do not know me, you know nothing about me other than what I've written here, so what gave you the idea that I don't work? For your information, I don't have a "job", I have a "career" as a paralegal in a law office. I am at work 40 hours a week, work out 6 days a week, go to church, raise kids, takecare of a house and animals, pay bills, and when I find time, I read. So don't make it sound like I am some lazy sloth who doesn't work and has no hobbies.
As for wanting time alone with him, is that a crime? I am with the kids 24-7, and when he's home, I want some time for just the 2 of us to go out and do the stuff we used to do, as a couple. You're making me sound like some evil person who doesn't want her kids around, and I really do not appreciate it.
I came to this site for support from other women who are in the same boat as me, but apparently I'm not going to get it here.

[Twilight Flyer]

I came to this site for support from other women who are in the same boat as me, but apparently I'm not going to get it here.

With the kind of attitude you just displayed, I would be hard pressed to think you even deserved any support. :roll:

For cryin' out loud, Bookbimbo put together a well-thought out post, both supporting AND complimenting you. Where do you come off dropping such a nasty reply back to her?

My advice isn't quite as sugar-coated. If you're that uptight and going to slash on someone that was trying to be helpful, maybe you shouldn't be looking for support on a messageboard.

:roll:

[Uturn2001]

Your original post made it sound like you were a full time stay at home Mom. Bookbimbo suggested finding something outside of the home to help pass the time, such as a job or volunteer work, as keeping busy will give you less time to think about how little you see your loved one.

As Twilight Flyer said, her post was full of good advice.

[Ridge Runner]

I too thought you were a stay-at-home mom. There must be some other issues that brought on this response. I quess better it is us than the kids to be on the receiving end. I think it would be wise to speak to someone that is better equipped to deal with these kind of feelings.

[BookBimbo]

I really didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Really, I didn't. You didn't mention that you work, just the other things that you did, so I wrongly assumed that you didn't work. Although I do have to admit that I didn't think suggesting things that might keep someone busy would be so offensive.

Oh and by the way, thanks for posting your outrage about my response on MTAT without including your initial post. You know, the one where you stated that you think that not knowing what's going on and when he'll be home is harder than him being gone.

I informed you that that uncertainty is something that we all have to understand. There aren't any tricks to it, it's just something that you get used to.

I told you about some other sites where people are supportive, although I did caution you that unlike this site, they can be overly sympathetic. While they're full of good advice at times, often they're full of things like, "My daughter in law wants to divorce my son who is in jail! How dare she!", "I got a DUI because I drove while impaired on a prescription drug and totaled my car but I want you to feel sorry for me because I had to walk to the courthouse today.", "My husband only makes $14,000.00 a year, we have twelve kids and I'm pregnant again and the tranny on my 1972 Ford LTD with the peeling vinyl roof just died." and the like. Okay most of the posts aren't like that. Others include, "There's a wreck on a highway that I've only ever seen four trucks on in three years, everyone be careful!", "My dog had kittens!", "What should I make for dinner?", "What is your favorite color?", "My father in law is a maniac." and "We went to the mall today!". Actually most of them are like that. And the now infamous, "I'm going to repost someone's reply on a forum without including the original post in the thread that she's replying to!" threads. For those of you who are interested, http://www.marriedtoatrucker.com/for...ead.php?t=6345

As to the assumption shared by the women on MTAT, that I don't have a good marriage. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. I have a good marriage. I adore my husband. We talk often while he's gone and spend time together when he's home. We don't have children, so this is easier for us than it is for people with kids. Hell, I think we have more alone time than my friends with kids whose husbands work 9-5 jobs do! We appreciate each other more now that he's not home as much, so I would say that his going into this industry has strengthened our marriage even more.

Of course you said on MTAT that you won't be coming back here, so chances are that you won't be reading this.

[shyykatt]

Oh brother... :roll:

[Twilight Flyer]

Of course you said on MTAT that you won't be coming back here, so chances are that you won't be reading this.

That's probably a good thing, too. Nothing like wearing out your welcome by being a complete psycho to someone that was offering help and support.

:roll:

Just let it roll off your back. Some people tend to want to to stir up trouble for no reason.

BTW, I read through that linked post just for giggles. Stuff like that makes me want to go out and buy a case of Kleenex. :roll: :roll:

Bottom line, this is primarily a for-truckers trucking site. Yes, there are some at-home spouses that ask for opinions from time-to-time, but on THIS site, you don't get any sickly sugar-coating on things. We feel that here, if you're not big enough to handle the truth, you probably shouldn't be here.

[Sheepdancer]

I don't have a "job", I have a "career" as a paralegal in a law office. I am at work 40 hours a week, work out 6 days a week, go to church, raise kids, takecare of a house and animals, pay bills, and when I find time, I read. So don't make it sound like I am some lazy sloth who doesn't work and has no hobbies.

And then.....

As for wanting time alone with him, is that a crime? I am with the kids 24-7,

Im still trying to figure out how she works a 40 hour a week job, works out 6 days a week and spends 24 hours a day 7 days a week with her kids. She must live in another time/space continuum where there are more than 24 hours in a day. I want to live there too.

[Scoe]

You don't want to live there Sheepdancer, the tax rate is hell.

[Uturn2001]

Welcome to the Troll Zone. :?: :roll: