Just imagine how she is feeling. She never seen this coming. You on the other hand were sort of prepared for what may happen.

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you, your daughter and your parents. Now don't blow it! ;)

i had never hear of it either roses, but low and behold......Facebook tests paid messages to strangers - CNN.com

congrats hobo, i'm glad she's gotten over that initial shock and seems to be accepting of the whole idea. i wish you all the luck with this, it's so nice to hear hope in your voice. i will still check in, i just have to work you in around big rig bounty hunters on history channel. ;)

roadie,
for shame.....to cast aside audrina like that without so much as a look back. is this a case of your right hand not knowing what the left is doing? :eek1: ;):D

Hobo.....I am sure glad I checked in today to see how you were doing on connecting with your daughter! Good for YOU!! And hopefully for your daughter....AND your grandchildren!!

Now.......IF you tell them about CAD.....YOU are gonna have to post a much more appropriate avatar.......don't ya know!!


:p



Oh yeah! 1000 text messages?? If you connect well with her....and the grandkids.....your gonna need Unlimited texting......Unlimited calling.......and Unlimited data (loosen the purse string tightwad).....and a SKYPE capable phone too!

hobo this is awesome ... I'm very happy for you and your daughter. I hope it works out so Everyone is blessed.

You're right. I was just shocked because she hadn't BEEN answering, and then all of a sudden a big 180! She was really in shock because she never even knew about me. In the explanation she posted on her wall for her friends, she talked about how it was actually devastating news because the REAL shock, to her, was that the man she knew and loved as her father.... was not. It was probably only due to her maturity level that she was able to deal with the news.... AND then to decide there was no option but to find out where things would go with me.

Thanks, Reb. I'm doing my best. I'm even sober tonight! ;)

According to that article, I might have even just been "lucky" to be one of the select few that they tested this on, which is amazing since I have barely used the service at all! From the info in the article, everything makes sense now. All my messages to others were going thru just fine, but... I believe the ones I sent to her WERE received, but immediately, and automatically, routed to her "OTHER" messages box. Once I paid the dollar, they must have been shifted to her inbox. If they had tested this last May, she might have gotten my FIRST message!

Yeah, all that is planned, in fact... I'm going out tomorrow to see about upgrading to a smartfone and/or a tablet with aircard. But, I was still on the road the other day when I realized I might be approaching the 300 text limit after which each text would cost 20 cents. That's $20 per hundred! I pay $5 for the 300. I just needed a quick fix to keep me from busting the bank before I could upgrade phone AND plan (to unlimited.) The lady was real nice. She actually cancelled the 300 plan for the current month (that I only had 100 left on,) and changed it to the 1000 text plan for $10. So.... I only paid $5 more for this month, and I should be okay even if I don't upgrade this week.

Thanks again, Roses. I knew you'd be pleased. I know how much you love a happy ending.

I can tell you from someone who found his father after 40 years of not knowing where or who he was. I tried finding my father for many years through different means ,writing letters to all kinds of agencies military and government from federal to local without any success and then one day I found a letter in my moms trunk with a name of a small town on it.. I proceeded to look in the phone book and call everyone in it with my last name until I finally found the right one. And I haven,t looked back since ,, my dad and I have a great relationship and I never regretted calling that number 20 years ago. So never assume that your daughter doesn't,t want to hear from you or talk to you. Let her know your out there and let her decide the next step you might be surprised.

Wow, wow wow. It's been a while since I've checked this thread, but I'm glad (actually elated) that I did. I wonder how much of the information you have given her has matched with the mother's "explanation". Which also brings up an interesting question, what does her birth certificate say about her parents. Once again, Hobo, congratulations this certainty looks like its coming to a closure. I can't wait to hear about what happens at the reunion.

Wow, GolfHobo I don't even know you;but after reading your story it's heartwrenching to say the least!! I just joined the site, & I must say your story is very profound.I wish you the best of luck, & hope things work out for you!!!

Thanks, DLE. Your first 3 words sum it all up! Her mother's version has differed a little but not too much. (She certainly didn't forget to tell her I hit her!) But she made it sound like that was why she left the last time and never came back. I have explained "logically" how that couldn't be possible for a couple of reasons. Basically, Denise has just accepted that we remember things differently, and she will never know the exact truth. We're moving forward.

Didn't ask her about the B/C but that is a good question. They CAN be altered, but if they had hers altered to add HIS name (to support the lie) I would think that would be illegal. More than likely, they just left it blank like it was before, and that supports the fact that they DID tell her she was born before they married. But, apparently, all these years, they've been putting too many candles on their anniversary cake! lol.

As for the reunion... I got another update of sorts coming.

Thanks Money! Yes... my life has been hell. You go on with it... you live day by day. But, there is always a hole, and you never really feel joy about living.

Welcome to CAD. You won't find me around here as much from now on.... but, there are more capable truckers here to help you with any questions you might have.

Quick Update:
 

Just a quick update about our reunion - which hasn't even happened yet:

I remembered playing golf with my Dad and a buddy of his that used to be a V.P. or something at Wachovia HQ in in Charlotte. Of course, Wachovia was bought by Wells Fargo, and our friend has since retired from there. NOW... he runs (or works with) a company that audits banks... many banks.

He has agreed to (or suggested) a lunch with the 4 of us, followed by a one on one with Denise. IF they don't have an opening at HIS company, he said he will forward her resume (and hopefully a recommendation) to as many banks as he can.

I've seen her resume and it is quite impressive.

Wish us luck!

Great.Its always beautiful when things turn out for the better.Keep us posted on how things work out between the 2 of you.

It is amazing what can happen in a few days. I am glad that things seem to be working out with your daughter. Do keep us posted.

hobo as for the B/C .... mom could of left it blank for who the father is, which You can always have your name added to it. But if she put the other man's name on it ... that very 'illegal' ... I made out B/C's while working in a Hospital for a while. .. That's a Big nono. But I guess the main thing is that You and Your Daughter are back together now. Enjoy, live life and be happy.

Another update:
 

Well, things really are happening fast! Only one week from today she'll be HERE! But... she couldn't wait that long I guess. Last week, I got a run through K.C. to Phoenix. took me right thru ABQ. Had to stall her on the way out cuz I needed to get there ASAP to get a good run back. But, I had some time to spare on the return trip, so I stopped in ABQ for about 3 hours... and had dinner with her! Good thing, too... cuz, my co-driver just quit and I probably won't be getting back out there again anytime soon. I'm probably going to shift to a SOLO run for a long while... maybe, permanent.

Anyway... it was the perfect "ice breaker." With her friend there, she felt more at ease... and we had a wonderful time. Now, she'll be less stressed over coming here to meet me and my family. Talked to my Dad the next day and he asked (jokingly,) "Well... now that she's met YOU, is she still coming to see US?" LOL!

I DID tell y'all that she is planning on moving here, right? So... now I see why I bought the boat! ;)

Things couldn't be better for me right now. I've wanted this ALL of HER life! Hate that it took so long, but... I still have a few good years left. Now, they won't be so lonely, and I won't be so depressed. I might even get to LIKE some of you! LOL!

I won't be wasting so much time arguing with idiots on the politics thread, but... I guess you've noticed that. But, I still want to be part of the board and will help new drivers if they are stupid enough to take my advice. ;)

I just want to thank ALL of you, once again, for your advice and support in this crucial matter in my life. I couldn't have asked for a better group of "friends" to lean on!

I will keep this thread going so I can give more updates. Many of you have almost as much invested in this as I have. I hope I'm not boring anyone.

If you want to see what "we" look like, or follow our friendship/relationship.... here is MY facebook page link: (I don't really wear those glasses. They are for reading.)

http://www.facebook.com/dennis.harris.9480

[Sorry I am so ugly. I know most of you thought I must be a GOD or something! lol! just friggin' KIDDING!]

Thanks again everyone! Be back soon.

Gnaaah.... :roll3: I'm sorry, I guess I wasn't braced hard enough.

***me... why did I look. :mad: ... I can't undo that either, I suppose.

Sorry, Hoggie. I should have "blocked" you for your own good! In your condition... I could have killed ya! :p

Sounds like everything is going good. Sounds like good news hobo..
Glad to hear it.

Hey, I sent you a friend request on fb..

I at least try to hide my mug with my hump.
I had to glance twice at you Hobro, to see if it was a mask. :eek1: ;) eerrg... oOooFf....dag....

.... you eat with that face? :roll3:

Yeah, I saw it and accepted it. Almost didn't cuz I didn't know your name at all, and that guy sure didn't look much like a trucker at first! lol. But, when I saw Wichita Falls, I knew it had to be you. I'll get back to you there soon. As you might imagine, I'm getting a ton of requests at the moment... due to people telling people I USED to know about me and my daughter. Life sure is different now!

Who KNEW "the Hobo" could be so popular, eh?

Yep, sure do! But, I HIDE it with a mask of YOU.... so as not to scare off the food! ;)

Of course, that usually means I have to eat alone! Food or wimmin'.... tough choice!

Thanks, GMAN. We may see some things differently, but I've always known you were a good family man. Your support in this is very much appreciated. I just don't know HOW I'm going to explain that blue mask if she ever checks in here! lol.

I know many of us asked for God to help you, and I'm giving God a prayer of thanks, and that He may continue to strengthen and enrich your family! :)
Even friendships are being enriched, by this powerful blessing. (two thumbs up) :)

You do have a lot of green chicklets. :)

I KNOW that, too, Hog. And I absolutely appreciate that! If there IS a God, everything I KNOW of HIM tells me that your prayers did not go unnoticed. And... my situation certainly NEEDED them... and has (possibly) been resolved, in part, by them. And Facebook! ;)

But, I want to know where God was when I was first going thru the separation with my child? What did I do so WRONG that I deserved this? What was he so "involved" in, that he couldn't HELP me for the last 30 years? You think maybe that I wasn't "ready" for it then? I've thought that many times.

But... within 6 months of the time my wife left me for the 5th time in less than a year... I got a GREAT paying job in the "Intel" business, and was making MORE than enough money to support my "family," and in a position that made me feel "good" about myself. God's timing was just MORE than a bit off! :roll3:

I just don't see enough "real" evidence to support your belief at this time. But, I don't have a problem with your belief. I think religion is a great "balm" (maybe even a pacifier) for those who need it. Although I've been surrounded by it ALL my life... I just don't.. "need it."

Does that make me a BAD person? A sinner or a heathen? Anti-"American" or... a BAD father? Then, WHY did your God answer your prayers for me? Oh, don't answer that... I already KNOW all the answers to THAT question! lol.

Suffice it to say that YOU feel your prayers (and those of others) were answered. You ONLY started praying for me recently. Was my (preacher) father NOT praying for me long before you and others on this site ever MET me? I'm sorry but THIS man has "pull" with the Man upstairs! I don't know. Don't know that YOUR prayers might not carry more weight than HIS .... because you are just a "concerned friend." ... and not my father.

But, you are a real GOOD friend, and therefore, i accept and honor your beliefs to the BEST of my ability. Dangit! THAT didn't come out right either. Sorry, Hoggie... I am just a bit screwed up at the moment.

Wow. TWO "angry faces." lol! So... you are ANGRY that you have to give God the glory for something we have BOTH cared about? NO problems here, Hoggie. YOU have to deal with how you feel (and were taught) about "praying" for what you call "liberals." LOL! But, if it's any comfort... I am a Centrist! ;)

Yes. MANY are. Mostly outside of THIS forum. But, that is another life. But, I am thrilled if this situation has brought me closer to my "friends" here on CAD!

Finding my daughter has changed my life... no doubt! But, it has not changed my politics, and as of YET.... my religious beliefs. But, (as a Centrist,) I am open to discussion and debate. ;)

All that being said... and with my beliefs considered.... I am SO appreciative of ALL who have said prayers for me, or had positive thoughts (and posts) for me!

You guys really ARE the greatest! [Yeah, I could have done it all WITHOUT you, I suppose...] But... I sure wouldn't have WANTED to!

You had MORE, when I first encountered you on the board. But, YOU took a break. Those chicklets just mean I talk too much! lol.

Sorry, I dont know WHY this site found it necessary or PRUDENT to include two "angry face" emoticons in Hoggie's post! They were NOT there originally! [or so it seems... I guess he COULD have removed them.] WTF do I know... or care?

It won't let me on to your Facebook page :(

That is strange, as the angry faces didn't come from me, either.

btw, I was referring to the new friendships being enriched, by your reunion with your daughter. :)

Wait 'till they find out aboot us, eh! :) We're like the relatives you see wading waist deep in flood water holding an umbrella.

Probably gonna cost you a dollar! lol! Seriously, I just clicked the link and it worked for me. But, if you can't get on, PM me with YOUR f/b link, and I'll try to friend YOU.

Meanwhile, tomorrow I will try to find the help page and check out my privacy settings. There's GOT to be an override to let "shady Truckdrivers" access! lol!

Hell...they let Hoggie on there! :eek1:

Naw.... you're the smart ones that know that an umbrella makes no sense in that situation! What could happen? You get WET? ;)


Lol... The Ring II anyone? :eek1:

haha. :D

Thanks...
Yeah, you will find people, or they will find you that you grew up with, etc.. The longer you stay on facebook, the more you'll like it. My wife talked me into getting on it, and all of a sudden, I saw people that I haven't seen I 10, or even 20 years.

Update: She is HERE!
 

She came into town last evening. We had dinner at the Outback. Then, since we had already broken the ice in ABQ, she agreed (or wanted) to go over to the house and see my folks and my sister. We had a good evening!

She is having a "shopping day" with my mom and sis today. And we'll have a simple BBQ dinner at the folks house tonight. Tomorrow, we are all going to the Biltmore Castle in Asheville. Thursday.... the meet and interview with my Dad's friend, followed by birthday dinner/party for my sis. [Brother and Sis-in-law coming down for that.]

Friday, I get to meet my grandkids for a short time before she leaves. But, she'll be back in June and I have a place at the beach reserved for all of us.

Thanks again to all who have cared so much.

I'm glad it's all finally working out for you.

I am glad that you were finally able to make contact with your daughter, hobo. I have always felt that family was the most important thing that we have on this planet. Family gives us a sense of who we are and provides a good support system. Not only have you found your daughter, but are now a grandparent, as well. You should have her check in for a visit. I would hate to give up my blue mask.