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Originally Posted by TruckersBish
He is starting training in a couple of wks with a company that does all 48 states and canada. I am really happy for him about his job....yet at the same time I haven't been apart from him over night in our whole 3 yr marriage. We also have a 5 & 3 yr old and the 3 yr old is very attached to his daddy.
My hubby is always worried about "US" when he leaves I haven't cheated andhe has never cheated but yet we are both worried about the other cheating on the other. How can I ease his mind about me not leaving him no matter what? And how did some of you ladies handle the first goodbye? Cause I am already crying, depressed, and upset about it. I know this isn't forever.
Thank you.
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I am still very new at this also, on our second goodbye so to speak ( the first for school, this for orientation and training). You sound very much like us except kid's ages and how long you've been married! We had only been apart once in 8 years of marriage before this, and that was for 4 days (hardly touches 3-5 weeks).
I found at least for me, that the day before he left was the worst. Once he was actually gone (bus for us) we all cried and talked for several hours, but then life just seems to take over, and you move on. As far as the actual goodbye, do your best to stay cheerful and enjoy every minute you still have with him. Easier said then done I understand.
I have a 3 yr old boy who is also very much a Daddy's boy. He has actually done remarkable well so far. I've taken over several things that Daddy used to do with him all the time (wrestling, reading, etc) and do my best to spend more time will all my children while he is gone (7,3, and 1). Best thing I have found so far, is forums like this, where others truly understand, and to stay busy.
It will take some adjusting to having "seperate lives", I know we are just starting to figure that part of it out. There's just no way you can cover all day's events in 30 minutes of talking to each other once a day. Use a notepad or other place to write down things that happen during your day that you want to tell him, and be sure to include some of the "routine" Homey kindof things, as that is what he will be missing.
I know some of the more seasoned wives have some better ideas for the long haul of it, just wanted to let you know you're not alone, and share what I've discovered thus far. Sorry if I ended up rambling!
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