I consider someone to be romantic by sharing my interests as much as they want me to share in theirs. I love to hunt so someone who can shoot as good as I do and doesn't squeal is romantic.

Good point Snowman! My Dad was a trucker, not around a lot. Me, I've always worked so I'm not around a lot either. My only marriage (many years ago and quite brief) was a disaster and since then I don't think I've taken any relationship serious enough to contemplate trying to make it last. It was pretty much take me as I am or there's the door. They were a 'convenience' so to speak. But recently I find myself in new territory and am at a loss as to how to proceed. My best friend calls me 'relationship r-e-t-a-r-d-ed', and she's pretty much nailed me with that one. I don't have a clue!

To be philosophical here...

Love is nothing that can be quantified with any formula, specific set of actions, or even by logic! Love is an emotion, however relationships are real and quantifiable. Relationships based on love can be very complicated because emotion and logic don't mix. What works in a relationship depends solely on the two people involved. I honestly don't think a relationship can truly last on love alone. This is why I think a lot of people get married and find out that life afterwards is completely different then before. As I already said, love is an emotion, it can cause two people to be attracted, which will start a relationship, but it will not hold one together. Relationships take work, they take sacrifice, and they take understanding both yourself and the other person. After marriage it is more then just love, the act of marriage itself is a commitment that the two will join their lives together! This means all the responsibilities of life are now joined together.

You need to keep your relationship alive and healthy in order to keep your love alive and healthy in relation to that relationship.

This is one of the reasons why I have never persued a serious relationship, because I can hardly be responsable for my own life, let alone anyone elses. I have experienced the emotion of love plenty of times, but never put much effort into the relationship aspect of it. Not that I don't think I could, but because in reality I am just not responsable enough for it. Although the older I get, the more I start to regret some of my choices...

At either rate, I just wanted to do a little philosophical ranting, I haven't done much philosphical writing in a long time, and for some reason today I felt the desire too. Perhaps that happy pill last night does have a lingering effect...

As Reb said, you are probably on to something.

men dont want romance,just sex, that's why I have a girlfriend, she knows how to be romantic

I have to disagree with that. Sex is great, but it is not everything. All the sexual partners I have had that didn't involve any real love to me where just empty and meaningless encounters.

It could just be I am getting older and see things differently though...

Wow. What a bigot.

LOL. I have nearly come to that conclusion, myself...maybe what I need is a good wife...

No you don't need a wife!!!

ROFLMAO!! Tell me what I need, mat