I have to agree with flatbed, we don't expect to be romanced, or even realize it when we are being romanced. But the reality is it is going to be different for everyone, you really have to get to know the person, what they like, what they don't like to really be able to come up with an answer.

Reb - I'm not really "romantic" either. If I had more $$ and time, I could probably think of a lot of romantic ideas. You should be the one who is getting romanced, anyway. I mean, as women, we can do certain things - like cooking that favorite meal or "setting the stage"...so to speak, but otherwise, I don't have a lot of input. I should stay tuned to this post to get ideas, also!!

However, I'm in a totally different situation as you, also...I still have kids at home and am separated...so I don't have the motivation to try to romance my hub...and, in the event that it (that little "fire") ever "came back", the kids would probably certainly make sure we had no time alone, anyway!

Really, the only things I have done to make sure that my partner knew that I loved him was...go to work everday to relieve financial stress (half the time, I was the only one doing this), keep the laundry done...with whatever detergent/fabric softener is his favorite, cook special things (coconut or chocolate creme pie, strawberry pie, brownies, etc...) so he could call his dad and rub it in, search out clothing that would fit him AND look good (he's 6' 11" so it's hard to find things that really fit him nicely), keep the oil changed in my truck/clean it out (because I knew it was important to him), etc...

I'll be glad to get some tips, too...for the "next time"...if there is a next time!!

I'd like to know that, too. Is he telling you that you are not romantic?

May I make the suggestion that maybe the problem isnt with you ladies? Maybe you ladies were just with the wrong guy who couldnt see romance if you smacked him in the face with it? Some guys think that sex IS romance. I call them knuckle dragging mouth breathers. Lets face it. Young ladies are pumping their own gas ( and washing the windows) while their bf sits in the car. Every lady wants a nice guy, So why are the nice guys single?

Great description there Jumbo, I've known a few of those!:crossbones: As to why the nice guys are still single, I don't know. Maybe they're as picky as I am. I'm still trying to figure out why some of the nicest women I know are single or with one of those knuckle dragging mouth breathers.

And Bloo, no he isn't telling me I'm not romantic, he is actually trying to convince me that I am. But after a lifetime of being told that I'm not, it's a hard sell. He actually appreciates the things I do, even when I don't think they are that big of a deal.

Why is all the Nice guys are single I will give you a reason. I was considered a NICE guy in HS and the girls n HS and Colledge are NOT looking for the so called NICE guy they want the Party Animals. Next thing they know they are Pregnant that happened to my wife before I met her and she and her EX got married because of that. Well he ended up breaking my stepsons arm at 4 months ecause hewas crying because he was hungry and had a dirty diaper what 4 month old WOULD NOT CRY with those 2 problems. I met her at irst she was like HE CAN NOT BE REAL then it hit her I WAS AS NICE AS I WAS. Now she is like I hit the Jackpot won the lottery and struck gold all at the same time. Name one other husband that will cook clean do the Dishes laundry and take care of the kids without complaints 24/7 and all he asks for in return is some cuddles every now and then. That and I get to keep my 150 gallon fish tank.

That isn't that hard to find.

What has two thumbs and did all that? (thumbs pointing towards me) This guy.

Oh wait. My brother, the stay at home dad and college student, wants me to point at him also.

With some it is. I know of some families where the husband refuses to do anything with the kids and leaves it all up to the mother of them and then he wonders why she is always tired. Guys if your idea of romanceis lift your FEET when she is a Vacuming CALLED you need a wake up call. For me the most important people in my life go in this order my wife and kids FIRST then my other family then my friends.