Hey Ladies,
I had a nice message that took several minutes t o type in response to the last two Ladies posts. Would you believe that I reached up to get something and hit the delete button? I couldn't even get it back by hitting the back arrow. SIGH!!! Let's see if I can reconstruct some of that message....
It was so nice hearing from other women who have gone through dead marriages. Ladies don't beat yourselves for staying too long. Most of us were brought up to be successful at what we do. Therefore, the one thing that we really want to work is our marriages. We usually end up staying too long because we keep hoping "it will work out."
You know it's better to try to make it work than to just let it go. We all know that. However, some of us stay way too long hoping for the best. My marriage was dead probably at least 6 years before it was finally over. I have two friends now in the same place I was in 6 years ago. It's excruciating to see them going through exactly what I went through 6 years ago.
They both have kids and that's what seems to keep people together longer. I chose never to have kids. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I knew from a young age that I never wanted any children. Although, one of my friends has grown kids. I wish she'd realize that life is too short to "hang tough" in a dead marriage. She's so afraid of being alone she won't let it go. The other one is so used to being "emotionally abused" I don't think she can possibly muster the strength to leave. She hasn't worked most of her life and is worried about being able to support herself. Get your Engineering Husband to pay Alimony. I wish I'd done that now. I gave up a lucrative career as an Accountant to support his career in the backwoods of Missouri.
I regret everyday that I didn't take alimony. Let's face it how much is giving up a career worth-certainly at least Alimony. I just never believed in it. Now I do, now that I've chosen to be a driver making much less than I would back as an Accountant. I stayed up many nights typing his papers while he was obtaining his Master's and Doctorate degrees. SIGH!!
Oh well, life is much brighter now. I'm fighting for my job as I type this. Not sure it's worth it. Long story short-I left last year couldn't find better benefits and came back. The idiots are trying to get all the drivers to sign forms saying they'll idle at only 28%. They should be ashamed of themselves drivers are going to die in the extreme heat and cold. They must have decided that the impending lawsuits from deaths would be far lower in dollar amounts than the profit they'll make by low idling. Class Acts for sure. Remember what goes around comes around. You can't give bad and not eventually get it back.
Happy trails Ladies....
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