Rokk,
It sounds like you still harbor a great deal of bitterness and anger for your ex-wife I sincerely hope you get over it and move on.
As far as Lee I have stood behind him through thick and thin. I do have a stake and am a partner in this marriage. I am the one who knows what bills we have and the stress of getting them out falls on me. When things were very difficult I was the one who went down to the food bank for food.
And when the times were difficult yes I did look for work that would still allow me to drive my children to school but could not find work with those hours so I resorted to looking for graveyard work but had difficulty finding that many jobs which I could apply for to work a graveyard shift. I just wanted to add this because with your negativity I am certain it would have been brought up.
And I was the one who initially spoke to his friend who was in driving. He then spoke to Lee. Lee was excited and made the decision to drive as a career. His first post on this board also evidences this.
The decision to go with System Transport was his and I supported him with that decision also. I did however point out the facts and realities of the job and the differences between what he was use to doing vs. what he would be doing at System Transport. I asked him if he was up to tarping allot more. Yes, I did help make the calls for him and get the paper work for him. I guess you think I should not have aided him in anyway even though he was on the road.
At times he will make suggestions to me regarding things that I am doing or handling or I will even ask him what his feelings or opinions are on things this is called a relationship. If I felt I could not have any discussion and he was a dictator and I could not have any input I don’t think we would be married very long either.
Chaining will more than likely be a reality in short haul loads in the Northwest. If he is not willing to do that then he may have to find another type of job. Yes he has responsibilities at home and sitting on unemployment is not an option but it is something he would not be happy doing anyway, as he wants very badly to be able to sufficiently meet the needs of this family. He is a man and that is what he wants to be.
And while he was annoyed at the thought of having to chain I did not tell him to do it. I told him that the guys that had chained early that morning had already put some miles behind them. And I did point out the fact that he would more than likely have to chain with System Transport.
There was not a major blow out or fight regarding chaining or what he should do he was more annoyed with the thought of chaining than me.
I hope one day you can find peace and contentment in your life and let go of the bitterness and anger you still harbor. I am sad that you felt that you had to direct your anger to me as I always thought highly of you and have always wished for the best for you.
Goin Fer It's Wife