(((Hugs)))Angel(((Hugs)))
I hope everything goes well for you, but I know there is the possibility it won't. My husband never did any of those things to me. The worst trainer he had, was never that rude or crude. If any of his trainers did say anything like that to me, he would have gotten angry. There is no excuse for him to tell others not to talk to you like that. The only time my husband talked to me in a crowded room was at the DMV to take his test before we had cell phones. Someone let him borrow a phone.
From your description of him so far, don't assume he got the point. He more than likely got the point about talking in a crowded room. Too bad you didn't have someone make a degartory remark that was yelled into your end of the phone though. That might have driven home the point. :twisted:
The point where you picked up and did something without him asking may be lost on him. Sounds like he was more steaming about the fact that you did it, and may not have stopped to think that is what he did to you with the trucking decision. He may still not equate it.
You never indicated if he actually heard you when you talked to him about your lump, your fears, or going through menopause. Actually since you are going through menopause, going with him in the truck might just be the worst thing you could do. The last thing you need to do is go bastlistic on the truck. He probablly doesn't realize what all is involved as far as emotions go with menopause. I have a feeling that he will keep the truck comfortable for him and not you. Those hot flashes can get nasty.
The other question I have is why are you going on the truck with him? Is it something you actually want to do? Or is it something he insists on you doing? If it is what you want to do, then it is ok. If he is insisting on you going, then I wonder if he is a control freak? He just wants to make sure you will not pick up and go somewhere again like you did when you went to your friends. All the time he was with you, did he always tell you what to do, and got angry if you didn't do it? Does he usually do what you ask, or brush you off? If he is doing this to control you, then I would seriously think twice before stepping into that truck.
If you do go with him in the truck, take, a credit card, phone number of a person you can trust, or something incase he leaves you to find your way home. You don't want to be stuck where he leaves you. You will want to be able to call a taxi that can take you to a bus station.
This is very important: if you take a credit card or two, make sure they are in your name only. You don't want him to be able to cancle them. Make sure they have alot of room on them. A taxi could be on the expensive side, especially if he leaves you in a truck stop practically in the middle of nowhere. You need to be able to get yourself out of there.
You don't want to be there if he does try to return for you. Leaving you stranded will be a loud and clear end of the relationship. There will be no BS he could tell you to explain his extremely hateful actions. By that time you will be in no condition to deal with him, since your emotions will be going off the deep end. Besides who knows what he will do the next time.
If you do decide to divorce him, try to plan out several possibilities. If you get the house, try to decide what you can do to pay for it. You will not have his income any longer. If it has to be sold in the end, have a plan of where you can go. Try to think of several business and job possibilities. Since you and your husband already started and had a thriving business, there is nothing stopping you from having another one whether it is restarting that nursery, becoming a landlord, or finding your own nitch in your own neighberhood.
Movation on re-starting your own business, visit
www.richdad.com. There is a great community on those forums, and many good ideas floating around.
Be safe, try to keep your head on straight, and hopefully worse will not come to worse. It doesn't hurt to be prepared though.
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