My fiance's dad has been OTR for 14 years now, and while my fiance doesn't have his CDL yet, he is riding with his dad to help him unload the deliveries. The plan is for him to get his CDL, start driving and see where things go. He's ridden with his dad in the past, and it wasn't easy then either. Actually, last time he rode with his dad, he ended up rupturing 2 discs in his lower back, resulting in his 3rd back surgery. So, I'm concerned about that. He's been at it this time for about 2 months, and I am having a real hard time with it. It could be worse, right now he's gone a week and home a week due to his dad's increasing age. But the last trip he was on, he was stuck in Idaho for a week waiting for a load back, putting the whole trip at 2 weeks. Prior to that, the longest we'd ever been apart was 9 days.
I am having the most trouble dealing with not knowing when he'll be home so I can't plan anything for us to do together as a couple. We each have kids from prior marriages, and the way his trips are falling right now, when the kids are gone to their other parents for the weekend, I'm home alone because he's gone. That's great for the kids, but what about any time for just the 2 of us? There isn't any, and it really bothers me.
How do you ladies deal with the uncertainty and being in the dark? I know I can't stand not knowing what's going on and when he'll be home. I think that's harder than him being gone. I have things to keep me busy, for instance I work out 6 days a week, we just bought our first house, the kids take up time, as does planning the wedding, but there are only so many things I can do to stay busy.
I am so sorry that this is so long, but I think I have found a place where my feelings will be understood and heard. My fiance's mom just tells me that I'll get used to it, and my friends don't want to keep hearing about how much I miss him. Any advice from you seasoned wives will be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance.