I was just wondering how you, your wife and kids handle your choice of profession? Especially you OTR guys that out for 1-3 weeks at a time. Has your marriage suffered or improved? I was just curious. I think my wife would have issues with it..Thanks.

 

Hi There Anthony!!!

Wondered whatever happened with you.

My better half thinks its great because I'm never home and my check is in the mailbox every Monday just like clockwork.

I think it's great because I suckered HER into walking to the mailbox instead of me... :wink:

 

IMHO, it depends on many factors. The age of your family is an important one. It will be harder if you have young children or a new marriage. Communication with your spouse is important. Can she handle all of the responsibilities of home by herself (kids, finances, upkeep, etc.)? Can your spouse handle the lonliness? Can you handle the lonliness? What kind of support system does your spouse have at home?

Their are a lot of guys on here who have great home lives despite being OTR. I think most of the folks that are happy with it though have older kids that are already raised. However, it is not for everyone. Most drivers will tell you that driving OTR is not conducive to raising a family or family life in general. BOL.

 

I'll be honest and say it has its ups and downs. I'm not sure I'd want to look at him being OTR for the rest of our lives. However, our marriage has improved significantly, as we actually communicate MORE than we used to via the cell phones.
I have days (especially if there's something special going on) where I'd like to see him home more, and days where I really enjoy not having him here all the time, it really just depends. As far as our marriage goes, it works out very well.
Now, the main reason I say I don't want him OTR the rest of our lives is because I do have small children. My youngest will be 3 Sunday, and still has trouble sometimes adjusting to Daddy in and out. My oldest deals fairly well with it (she's 8 1/2), but she can do more talking on the phone with him as well.
I do think support at home makes a big difference. I have family and a wonderful church here, so that really helps the loneliness.

BTW, hubby is long-haul for TMC so gone 11-12 days usually, sometimes is home more frequently.

 

I dont know, let me ask her when she gets back from her cruise to Mexico.

 

I dont know, let me ask her when she gets back from her cruise to Mexico.
Same here on both of those

 

 

ok, have not got this quote thing down yet.

 

there's an excellent post about this here...


http://www.classadrivers.com/phpBB2/...ic.php?t=29448

 

Since otr job,I can only talk to wife through her lawyer now.