Hobo after reading your post and the replies .... it lays close to my heart.
Short story ~ The last man I was engaged to was also a trucker, as a matter of fact we drove team ( he's now in heaven ). But before he crossed over he had told me of a 'son' he once had. Because of the bad blood between him and the mother - he broke off all ties. Also thinking it would be best for the Son ~ he didn't get to watch him grow up and enjoy his youth. I encouraged Ken to try and contact his Son, just to let him know where he was so if he wanted to talk or get to know him. Ken refused. .... The day of his funeral ~ his Son showed up to say "hello and goodbye", the young Man weeped buckets of tears ... when Ken's Son walked into the room everyone's mouth dropped to the floor. He looks so much like Ken, it was amazing. This young Man wanted all his life to meet his Father and get to know him. He didn't need to know all the trouble why his parents broke up and mess between them. He only needed to Know that his Father Loved Him ... Ken's Son placed an Award that he had gotten in school in his casket, so Ken would have a part of his Son forever. ....
The reason I tell you this ..... is because of the children ! They don't need to know of the bad words exchanged between their parents, or who's fault it was - - if any - - - why they couldn't make it as a family. It's not about pointing fingers ... That's not of great importance to them ............ They just want to know Their Loved. Start a new relationship with your Daughter .... Yes you can send a 'private message' to your daughter on facebook and don't have to be accepted as a 'friend' first. ................. Write her a short letter - without blaming anyone - and let her know how to contact you. When she is ready ~ she will respond to you. Remember one thing hobo .... No One .... has all the answers, and she just needs to know she has always been thought of and loved from a far. I hope the best for both of you ... A Daugher will ALWAYS need her Father ....