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That said, if she came into the relationship knowing you didn't want anymore, then its her turn to bow out..and decide between kids and you, as she has no room to push you for something you both originally agreed on.
At that I will shut up, as I hold a lot of other unpopular beliefs I'm attempting to not let influence this discussion.
madii'swife... Don't sweat it. This guy was just waiting for someone to come along and make a statement like Rev.Vassago did.Originally Posted by madii'swife
Ok..I soo should not answer this but here I go. I will start out by repeating to myself the phrase my mother taught me "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything". That said, your post leaves me to question why when we women change our minds about something we're changing the "rules"? Can you honestly tell yourself (doesnt' matter what you tell anybody else) that you haven't changed one single "rule" or idea that you had when the 2 of you got together? It seems absurd to me to throw away a long relationship over a thing such as this.That said, if she came into the relationship knowing you didn't want anymore, then its her turn to bow out..and decide between kids and you, as she has no room to push you for something you both originally agreed on.
At that I will shut up, as I hold a lot of other unpopular beliefs I'm attempting to not let influence this discussion.
I knew from his first post he was waiting for someone to say move on, so he could blame someone else for his mistake. What he should do is seek counseling with his girlfriend, and he knows it.
This is just his easy out.
I showed this topic to my wife, and she said " what a moron " and knew he was looking for an easy way out. If you love someone, you don't just walk away, you hash it out or get counseling and hash it out there. Then decide.... Not come to a message forum and ask complete strangers.
That being said jdg, my advise is counseling, then decide.
Also jdg... I was in your shoes. 1 wife was the devil reincarnated, had 2 kids with her. I got custody kids were 10 years old and 18 months old. Met my wife I have now, she had 1, 5 years old. We both said we didn't want any more kids, but guess what.... We had 2 more and I wouldn't trade them for the world.