should rename this thread "Battle of the sexes" lol

I like Scoe's new avitar.

Apparently, even a caveman can use a computer! lol

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What fun would that be?? :lol: :lol:

How are u doing??

I'm doing o.k. I think,, Some days are hard.

He has came home only twice since this hapened, once to take a shower and the second time to check the house after I moved out. The house is on the market, divorce papers were filed with grounds ( which made him mad )

He spends all his off time in MI with one of his gf's, but he still wants to keep our joint checking account open, his address as mine, and for me to pay all his bills for him.

he still hasnt told me what happened, which I could deal with things better if I could only hear it out of his mouth. There are still day's that I fill as though he stomped me into the ground, but it is slowly getting better.

I assume you have closed the account? If not, do it immediately. If the bank is still open, do it TODAY. Otherwise, be waiting for them to unlock the doors tomorrow morning.

Bills? Make certain you get the ones you are responsible for in your name and get your name OFF the ones that are his.

Address? If he's using the house that is on the market, bully for him. Tell him to find someone to get his mail.

I tried to close the account but the bank will not allow me to. They said that sinse it is a joint account that we both have to sign to close it. I then tried to take my name off of the account and again they wouldnt allow it. They said it could only be closed, plus since his payroll is d. d, that even if I were able to close it, that every friday it would reopen when his check was depoisted, untill he changes that where he works.

As to the address thing, No he wants to use my new address. His CDL has to be renewed in may and he wants to put my new address on them. I asked him why not use the one in MI, and his answer was that he didnt know where he would be living!!!!! His company does has the new address though, for Insurance and contact info.

Me taking care of the bills, I dont understand him there, he knows that I could ruin him if I wanted to, I could just stop paying the bills that are in his name only...and my lawyer suggested that. I cant understand where he is coming from. Why does he want to use my address, keep a joint checking account, and have me over see his bills and payroll? He is just out there!

Don't mean to sound too harsh, but it sounds like he is just using you.

Freeze your assets. Your divorce attorney should have done this for you already.

Because he knows he can use you. Tell him to shove it.

I agree with Rev. Do anything and everything in your power to get that account closed any way possible. The last thing you need is for him to bounce a bunch of checks. Actually both of you could go to jail for check fraud.

Do not let him use your new address. If he has given the company his new address, then let him use that one for his bills also. He will have to start taking care of them now whether he is gone or not. He will have to find a way. Anything that comes to you in his name, do a return to sender through the post office the same day if possible. I think you may even be able to tell the post office to return any piece of mail that arrives in his name. You will have to go up to the front desk and talk to them about it.