my husband of 7 years, has never been a talker, but since he has been driving truck for almost 3 years i find i want him to talk with me more. i have discussed this with him serveral times and i always get the answer "i will try" needless to say it never happens.
now within the last month i find he has lied to me 2 times, small lies but lies never the less. i have asked him 2 times in 3 days (that he was home) to please call the insurance comp. and check about his truck insurance, he told me "he called and they would get back to him in a couple of days", well a couple of days wasn't soon enough for me so i called myself and eventually found out that he never did call, when i confronted him about it he said "he lied to get me off his back".....needless to say there were no words spoken for a few days.
now last night i noticed that our home felt kind of cool (we have an outdoor wood furnace) and i said something to him and he immediately got up and went out to check it. i went to the basement to turn on our back up LP furnace and noticed the pipes for the outdoor wood furnace were cold (they are suppose to be 160 degrees), he came in a few times for cardboard and newspaper and went back outside. when he finally came in and appeared he was finished after 1/2 hour i asked him if the furnace had went out as the pipes in the basement were cold? he said..."no it didn't and they aren't cold, it must be your imagination" i confronted him about why he felt so compelled to lie to me lately and if he was going to lie to me about all the little things what was going to happen when something big came up? he said nothing.....
i don't know what is going on here.....he doesn't talk to me about where he is driving with the semi unless i ask questions, he doesn't volunteer any information at all anymore. it seems like everything is such a secret, from where he is going to what needs to be fixed on the truck, to well it just seems like everything... i trust him and he trusts me i don't think he would ever mess around. but i am lost, hurt, and feel stupid for letting him do this. i just don't know what to do anymore or how to feel. i came from a 12 relationship where it was nothing but lies and i don't want to go threw that again. please help anyone.