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MACK
Joined: 22 Apr 2005
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| Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 2:33 pm Post subject: Help with teenage son |
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| When I was in AL picking up a truck for my Dad I get a call and it's my wife she says my oldest son 16 had stole my KW W900 and has taken it to a party that we told him not to go to apparently trying to impress his friends. Any how he gets drunk gets in the truck and tries to drive it back ends up getting in a wreck and abandons the since thank fully the guy he ran into was a friend of mine and is not pressing charges as long as I pay for getting his car fixed. But I still don't know what to do the KW is also going to need some work done to the front of it witch will cost me close to $2,500. So what should I do. |
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EQMC
Joined: 29 May 2005
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| Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 2:54 pm Post subject: |
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| Is this a joke? What you do is get that boy to work and make him pay for his 'mistake'. Your friend shouldnt have to wait for repairs and if hes keeping your kid out of trouble, pay the man his money and get it back (every cent) from your son. A summer of working to pay his debt and not doing much of anything else sounds right to me. |
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MACK
Joined: 22 Apr 2005
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| Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 3:27 pm Post subject: |
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| No it is not a joke. I have thought about him working it off trying to get him a job some where but not having much luck also thinking about sending his A$$ to military school. And I also have cut my friend a check today for $6,542.32 |
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Twilight Flyer
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| Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 4:05 pm Post subject: |
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| Military school would be right up there with the best suggestions. Whatever you do, it should be drastic...just having him work it off probably isn't enough. Just be thankful he didn't kill somebody. |
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Scoe
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Location: Portland, OR
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| Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Maybe your friend is NOT doing you a favor by not pressing charges. Perhaps this is exactly what your son needs to be held accountable for his actions. |
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Dougnddeb
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2005 11:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Man if I was you I would make him get a job and pay for all the damages. |
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yoopr
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2005 11:11 pm Post subject: |
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I know it's hard but have you ever heard of Tough Love?
Too late now but you should have had his butt thrown in Jail for awhile and NOT bail his ass out. |
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sanchez498
Joined: 24 Feb 2004
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Location: Arkansas
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| Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2005 4:27 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree. A nice night or two in jail and then military school would have been in order. If I had pulled a stunt like that when I was 16 I wouldn't be here typing this now. But I guess that is why kids are like they are now days. No real discipline. |
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MACK
Joined: 22 Apr 2005
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| Posted: Sat Jun 18, 2005 9:54 am Post subject: |
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| I am going to send him to military school but he can't go for about 2 months so every evening and weekend he is going to wash the trucks and clean out the trailers and every one of those trucks and trailers are going to look like their brand new or he is going to have to do every one of them again. |
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Dougnddeb
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| Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2005 8:08 am Post subject: |
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| Yea that's a good idea. |
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GMAN
Joined: 13 Feb 2005
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Location: Tennessee
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| Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2005 5:39 pm Post subject: |
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| I think I would have him work everyday after school and on weekends until the repairs were reimbursed. Once school was out, I would have him work night and day to pay you back. If he has a car, you could sell it and apply the money to what he owes you. He needs to learn that there are no free rides. Even after he goes to military school, he could still continue working to repay this debt. 8) |
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Dougnddeb
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| Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2005 5:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Thats a good idea to. |
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greasemunky
Joined: 21 Apr 2005
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Location: Baltimore
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| Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 5:21 pm Post subject: |
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| My dad woulda beat my butt half off and then I would have worked and did nothing else til it was paid off. No TV no phone no going out nothing. |
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bentpole
Joined: 12 Jun 2005
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Location: N.Alabama
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| Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 6:41 pm Post subject: |
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Sometimes Kid's will be Kid's,Military school is a little harsh,just another word for reform school.
First ask your self,Has he gave trouble before?What kind of grades does he make in his school?Basically is he a good kid?
An I know this one will hurt,& we don't need an answer,But answer this one truthful to yourself,What kind of father have I been?(not just material thing's.
Sure hope you don't think of me as being smarta#$,Because I raised a son also.>>>>Bentpole |
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sunshine
Joined: 25 Jun 2005
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Location: utah
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| Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 11:22 pm Post subject: wow |
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| i have had problems like thet with my soon to be step daughter she did not still the truck but she was doing it beacuse she misses her dad and wants attention from him my suggestion is that you take him with you for the summer make him help you n the truck so hes doing mos of the hard stuff like dropping trailors and so on dont let him sleep if your not show him what its like to be you and how important your truck is to your life style also it will make him fill important and he will learn from it but dont make it to much fun rember he is being punished |
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