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golfhobo
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RebelDarlin wrote: The reason the lock was changed was she came over here yesterday while I was at work , to color her hair, left a mess in the bathroom, and drank the last of the milk. When she showed up today to get her furniture I had already changed the lock. I haven't seen or heard from her in 5 days so I was pretty ticked off that she she comes here when I'm not home. She can come to MY home when I'm here!
Empty nest feeling? No! I've NEVER lived on my own and I'm looking forward to it! :wink:
Reb
I didn't respond to this thread earlier, because I thought it was about you going trucking solo! Since I thought you had already been doing that, I was confused. Anyway....
I think that "thou doest protest too much." I WISH my bathroom didn't look the same way I left it last, and that SOMEONE would drink the milk that I leave putrifying in my fridge!
When I was younger, I couldn't even CONCEIVE of the idea that I could live alone. About 20 years ago, that became a reality. I was mildly surprised at first, at my success. Everyone WANTS to believe that they are self-sufficient and can survive in this world alone. A few years later, the shine was off the apple! I had PROVED my point.... but I was still ALONE.
A few years later, I again involved myself in a relationship with a woman. But, the seeds were sown. I apparently couldn't committ myself fully to NOT being alone. So, once again.... I became alone.
It has now been 17 MORE years that I have been alone. I would KILL for a child (even one I hated) to come and mess up my bathroom, or to drink all my milk, or to ask to borrow money!
As much as I protest against children, I know that they are what keeps us ALIVE! Those of you who HAVE them, and don't understand this, are not FOOLS, but only the "inexperienced" at what life is WITHOUT them.
Those of you who don't HAVE them, I pray you never have to KNOW. Get married....have children! The pain they bring you is a blessing! And if the marriage that spawns them fails? Do your BEST to be civil for ALL cncerned! It is YOUR LIFE that is in the balance!
One can no more blame a child for BEING a child, than one can blame himself for being a child. To do so, is to reject your OWN chldhood. And to do THIS, one would have to reject parenthood. And now that you ARE one.... how can you do this?
I can only say.... if one is blessed enough to BE a "parent," don't ask too many questions.....you may not want to know the answers! ..... and you are not equipped to deal with the options. |
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wildkat
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golfhobo wrote: RebelDarlin wrote: The reason the lock was changed was she came over here yesterday while I was at work , to color her hair, left a mess in the bathroom, and drank the last of the milk. When she showed up today to get her furniture I had already changed the lock. I haven't seen or heard from her in 5 days so I was pretty ticked off that she she comes here when I'm not home. She can come to MY home when I'm here!
Empty nest feeling? No! I've NEVER lived on my own and I'm looking forward to it! :wink:
Reb
I didn't respond to this thread earlier, because I thought it was about you going trucking solo! Since I thought you had already been doing that, I was confused. Anyway....
I think that "thou doest protest too much." I WISH my bathroom didn't look the same way I left it last, and that SOMEONE would drink the milk that I leave putrifying in my fridge!
When I was younger, I couldn't even CONCEIVE of the idea that I could live alone. About 20 years ago, that became a reality. I was mildly surprised at first, at my success. Everyone WANTS to believe that they are self-sufficient and can survive in this world alone. A few years later, the shine was off the apple! I had PROVED my point.... but I was still ALONE.
A few years later, I again involved myself in a relationship with a woman. But, the seeds were sown. I apparently couldn't committ myself fully to NOT being alone. So, once again.... I became alone.
It has now been 17 MORE years that I have been alone. I would KILL for a child (even one I hated) to come and mess up my bathroom, or to drink all my milk, or to ask to borrow money!
As much as I protest against children, I know that they are what keeps us ALIVE! Those of you who HAVE them, and don't understand this, are not FOOLS, but only the "inexperienced" at what life is WITHOUT them.
Those of you who don't HAVE them, I pray you never have to KNOW. Get married....have children! The pain they bring you is a blessing! And if the marriage that spawns them fails? Do your BEST to be civil for ALL cncerned! It is YOUR LIFE that is in the balance!
One can no more blame a child for BEING a child, than one can blame himself for being a child. To do so, is to reject your OWN chldhood. And to do THIS, one would have to reject parenthood. And now that you ARE one.... how can you do this?
I can only say.... if one is blessed enough to BE a "parent," don't ask too many questions.....you may not want to know the answers! ..... and you are not equipped to deal with the options.
Hobo... I think you missed the point of this thread...
As a parent who has grown children & grandchildren, I will try to explain without adding to the pain you so obviously feel.. :cry:
Both Reb & I were single parents, we love our children more than our own lives. We watched them grow, we struggled to teach them right from wrong, prayed that they would turn out to be good, upstanding citizens, & cried when they spread their wings to make their own way in the world, but we also KNEW we had to let them go.
Just because we are happy to have a life of our own, does not mean we don't miss them or never want them to come back, we just wish to have a piece of our life that is actually our own.
I suffered horribly when my girls left... even though they have made their own way & have built their own lives there are times when I miss them so badly I want to cry...would I turn back the clock? Not on your life.! I did the best I could & would probably screw up worse than I did the last time!
We have just come to a point in our lives that our main job is done & it's time for our young ones to make their own way, BUT we will always be there for them if they need us! |
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mommee
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golfhobo wrote:
It has now been 17 MORE years that I have been alone. I would KILL for a child (even one I hated) to come and mess up my bathroom, or to drink all my milk, or to ask to borrow money!
You are more than welcome to babysit anytime, free of charge of course. In exchange you can experience children. :wink: :lol: :lol:
All kidding aside they are a joy most of the time. You who are mothers know what I mean. :wink: |
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ironeagle2006
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I hear you Momme and everyone on here. I never thought I would have the joy of being a parent then almost did not want to be one after a VERY bad relationship with a EX with 5 kids. Then I put my shingle out again and met my wife and she had her son and I knew that but I was willing to try again. We have now been together 2 years and our daughter will be one on April 5th this year and I would not give her up for anything in the WORLD. She has me wrapped around her fingers so tight and KNOWS it. Golf called yes you were burned but take a chance HELL I DID after lets see here Ex wife was an Abuser of all kinds then 1st ex GF all she wanted was a Who The HELL Knows what she wanted maybe my income I think. 2nd ex turned out to be a lesbian using me to get better treatment from her lover 3rd Ex GF said she was wholesome then I googled her and found the X-rated movie of her and 40 men on the internet. Then I met my now wife.
So Golf Pick you butt up and try try again Hell I ashould have been burned to a crisp but what did I do kept trying you will find someone. |
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RebelDarlin
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| Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2008 12:32 am Post subject: |
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wildkat wrote: golfhobo wrote: RebelDarlin wrote: The reason the lock was changed was she came over here yesterday while I was at work , to color her hair, left a mess in the bathroom, and drank the last of the milk. When she showed up today to get her furniture I had already changed the lock. I haven't seen or heard from her in 5 days so I was pretty ticked off that she she comes here when I'm not home. She can come to MY home when I'm here!
Empty nest feeling? No! I've NEVER lived on my own and I'm looking forward to it! :wink:
Reb
I didn't respond to this thread earlier, because I thought it was about you going trucking solo! Since I thought you had already been doing that, I was confused. Anyway....
I think that "thou doest protest too much." I WISH my bathroom didn't look the same way I left it last, and that SOMEONE would drink the milk that I leave putrifying in my fridge!
When I was younger, I couldn't even CONCEIVE of the idea that I could live alone. About 20 years ago, that became a reality. I was mildly surprised at first, at my success. Everyone WANTS to believe that they are self-sufficient and can survive in this world alone. A few years later, the shine was off the apple! I had PROVED my point.... but I was still ALONE.
A few years later, I again involved myself in a relationship with a woman. But, the seeds were sown. I apparently couldn't committ myself fully to NOT being alone. So, once again.... I became alone.
It has now been 17 MORE years that I have been alone. I would KILL for a child (even one I hated) to come and mess up my bathroom, or to drink all my milk, or to ask to borrow money!
As much as I protest against children, I know that they are what keeps us ALIVE! Those of you who HAVE them, and don't understand this, are not FOOLS, but only the "inexperienced" at what life is WITHOUT them.
Those of you who don't HAVE them, I pray you never have to KNOW. Get married....have children! The pain they bring you is a blessing! And if the marriage that spawns them fails? Do your BEST to be civil for ALL cncerned! It is YOUR LIFE that is in the balance!
One can no more blame a child for BEING a child, than one can blame himself for being a child. To do so, is to reject your OWN chldhood. And to do THIS, one would have to reject parenthood. And now that you ARE one.... how can you do this?
I can only say.... if one is blessed enough to BE a "parent," don't ask too many questions.....you may not want to know the answers! ..... and you are not equipped to deal with the options.
Hobo... I think you missed the point of this thread...
As a parent who has grown children & grandchildren, I will try to explain without adding to the pain you so obviously feel.. :cry:
Both Reb & I were single parents, we love our children more than our own lives. We watched them grow, we struggled to teach them right from wrong, prayed that they would turn out to be good, upstanding citizens, & cried when they spread their wings to make their own way in the world, but we also KNEW we had to let them go.
Just because we are happy to have a life of our own, does not mean we don't miss them or never want them to come back, we just wish to have a piece of our life that is actually our own.
I suffered horribly when my girls left... even though they have made their own way & have built their own lives there are times when I miss them so badly I want to cry...would I turn back the clock? Not on your life.! I did the best I could & would probably screw up worse than I did the last time!
We have just come to a point in our lives that our main job is done & it's time for our young ones to make their own way, BUT we will always be there for them if they need us!
WildKat, as usual you nailed it exactly! I love my daughter, sometimes too much. I can't tell you how many times, my life has been put on hold to make sure she had what she needed, or wanted. I have been a single mother for the last 18 years and my daughters welfare always came first.
I've turned down jobs, and men, because they weren't in her best interest.
In those 18 years, she has met 2 men that I dated and only after I was sure they would be around awhile. Not once did she ever wake up to a strange man in the house. I refused to raise my daughter that way. I also called off a wedding when I realized he didn't really want to be a step-father. (He insisted we send her to boarding school.) I've seen too many of her friends have to deal with a step-parent that really didn't want the kids around and I wouldn't put her, or myself through that. I know, I'm not "normal", or so I've been told.
That being said...
I am entering a new phase of my life and I am looking forward to it! I've been single a long time and honestly don't know if I'm too set in my ways to let anyone else in my life or not, but I now have the freedom to make that choice for myself, without it affecting a child who has no choice in the matter.
My children are more than welcome to come and see me whenever, but they are not going to have the run of my house when I'm not home. I don't think that is being unreasonable or un-motherly (I know it's not really a word). :wink:
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wildkat
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Thanks Reb....
To borrow a quote from my mother....
Avenge yourself.... live long enough to become a problem to your children!!!!!
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RebelDarlin
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That's great advice!!!!
BTW, the youngun is sleeping here tonight. She's sick and called me crying to come home. Yeah she's all grown up! :wink: |
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wildkat
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RebelDarlin wrote: That's great advice!!!!
BTW, the youngun is sleeping here tonight. She's sick and called me crying to come home. Yeah she's all grown up! :wink:
Yup, they're *always* our babies, no matter what! Even at 27, my daughter still calls me for advise when she's got something really important going on, funny, I do the same with MY mother! Guess it really never changes does it? :wink: :wink: |
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RebelDarlin
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wildkat wrote: RebelDarlin wrote: That's great advice!!!!
BTW, the youngun is sleeping here tonight. She's sick and called me crying to come home. Yeah she's all grown up! :wink:
Yup, they're *always* our babies, no matter what! Even at 27, my daughter still calls me for advise when she's got something really important going on, funny, I do the same with MY mother! Guess it really never changes does it? :wink: :wink:
We'll always be mothers, that bond never ends...
I was got a new tat yesterday and was over at a friends house when she called, so of course I rushed home. She brought her freakin' laundry with her. LOL
BTW heres the new tat...
Hard to see but those are MY initials (TW) in my handwriting in the heart.. |
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golfhobo
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RebelDarlin wrote: wildkat wrote: RebelDarlin wrote: That's great advice!!!!
BTW, the youngun is sleeping here tonight. She's sick and called me crying to come home. Yeah she's all grown up! :wink:
Yup, they're *always* our babies, no matter what! Even at 27, my daughter still calls me for advise when she's got something really important going on, funny, I do the same with MY mother! Guess it really never changes does it? :wink: :wink:
We'll always be mothers, that bond never ends...
I was got a new tat yesterday and was over at a friends house when she called, so of course I rushed home. She brought her freakin' laundry with her. LOL
BTW heres the new tat...
Hard to see but those are MY initials (TW) in my handwriting in the heart..
MAN am I gonna get FRIED for THIS one! :lol: :lol: :lol:
WHAT "heart?" And WHERE are the initials TW?? :shock: :lol:
And.... is that your elbow??? Or.... dare I say it..... part of your fat azz???
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Cut me some slack... Darlin! I just couldn't help myself!
Oh wait.... wait!!! I got it? That's a "boobie tat!" Right???? :shock: :wink: |
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RebelDarlin
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golfhobo wrote: RebelDarlin wrote: wildkat wrote: RebelDarlin wrote: That's great advice!!!!
BTW, the youngun is sleeping here tonight. She's sick and called me crying to come home. Yeah she's all grown up! :wink:
Yup, they're *always* our babies, no matter what! Even at 27, my daughter still calls me for advise when she's got something really important going on, funny, I do the same with MY mother! Guess it really never changes does it? :wink: :wink:
We'll always be mothers, that bond never ends...
I got a new tat yesterday and was over at a friends house when she called, so of course I rushed home. She brought her freakin' laundry with her. LOL
BTW heres the new tat...
Hard to see but those are MY initials (TW) in my handwriting in the heart..
MAN am I gonna get FRIED for THIS one! :lol: :lol: :lol:
WHAT "heart?" And WHERE are the initials TW?? :shock: :lol:
And.... is that your elbow??? Or.... dare I say it..... part of your fat azz???
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Cut me some slack... Darlin! I just couldn't help myself!
Oh wait.... wait!!! I got it? That's a "boobie tat!" Right???? :shock: :wink:
For old eyes (sorry) that need help I enhanced it a bit. (I'm a bad photographer ok)
It's a half of a heart, the part I keep for myself. The initials are in my handwriting (which sux btw) and it's on my chest, not my boobie! And stop with the fat azz! :wink: I prefer "apple bottom". :wink:
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golfhobo
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OH.... I GET it!! A "halffarted" Tat!! :wink:
And I see you've updated your response for my "old eyes."
Okay, NOW I see the intitials..... and you ain't gonna BELIEVE this but....
The "W" looks JUST like a .... um.... er..... an "apple bottom!" :lol: :lol:
NOW..... there are "fat azzes" and there are "pushin cushions!" :lol:
I'm not totally RIGID in my objections if the proportions are just right!
You can't just "walk away" from me like that! Not without expecting me to follow! Of course.... I'll let you "lead" for a few MILES at least, after which SOME of that should MELT! :lol: :lol: |
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RebelDarlin
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golfhobo wrote: OH.... I GET it!! A "halffarted" Tat!! :wink:
And I see you've updated your response for my "old eyes."
Okay, NOW I see the intitials..... and you ain't gonna BELIEVE this but....
The "W" looks JUST like a .... um.... er..... an "apple bottom!" :lol: :lol:
So I've been told. I went to Catholic High School and was always in trouble for that, my 'obscene penmanship"! I never really thought about it until one of the Priests had a fit about it.:twisted:
NOW..... there are "fat azzes" and there are "pushin cushions!" :lol:
I'm not totally RIGID in my objections if the proportions are just right!
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, of course. I've never had any complaints. Just sayin'...
You can't just "walk away" from me like that! Not without expecting me to follow! Of course.... I'll let you "lead" for a few MILES at least, after which SOME of that should MELT! :lol: :lol:
HHHMMM...I do walk away, and I have been followed, but I never melt. 8) |
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Drew10
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golf wrote:
Quote: A "halffarted" Tat!!
Excuse you... :? :? :lol: :lol: |
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RebelDarlin
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Drew10 wrote: golf wrote:
Quote: A "halffarted" Tat!!
Excuse you... :? :? :lol: :lol:
Yeah, I was IGNORING that one.... |
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