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Sizzle
Joined: 10 Oct 2006
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Location: Colorado
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:43 am Post subject: Has anyone found an honest male driver out there? |
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| I've been driving for three years and have found that most guys will telly you anything to get into your pants. They can be married 20 years and have 5 children and they all claim to be single. Do you gals have the same problem? |
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Sizzle
Joined: 10 Oct 2006
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Location: Colorado
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:48 am Post subject: |
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Oops, hate it when I don't spell check well. Sorry for the miss-spelling in the last post.
I guess I'm just sick and tired of being lied to when I meet men. Yes, I am happily single but don't expect to have every guy who wants a woman in his life to lie about whether he is single or not.
I am not religious so don't want some far right conservative person either. However, I would think that honesty and being forthright shouldn't be such hard attributes to find. Why do men find it necessary to constantly lie to be with a female?
Perhaps I just meet the majority of "dawgs" out here but surely there must be some honest single guys out here some where?!? :) 8) :roll: |
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terrylamar
Joined: 25 Apr 2006
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Location: Austin, TX
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:28 am Post subject: Re: Has anyone found an honest male driver out there? |
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Sizzle wrote: I've been driving for three years and have found that most guys will telly you anything to get into your pants. They can be married 20 years and have 5 children and they all claim to be single. Do you gals have the same problem?
I am not a gal, I am an honest, male driver who is single. I have never and will never lie to get in a womans pants. I am sure there are many men just like me. |
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COLT
Joined: 03 Jan 2006
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Location: FT ST JOHN
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 5:56 pm Post subject: Re: Has anyone found an honest male driver out there? |
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terrylamar wrote: I have never and will never lie to get in a womans pants. I am sure there are many men just like me.
Good one terry, :wink: |
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Bigmon
Joined: 13 Jan 2006
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Location: S. Cal.
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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Sizzle wrote:
surely there must be some honest single guys out here some where?!? :) 8) :roll:
Right here. |
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wot i life
Joined: 16 Feb 2006
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Location: Edinburghski, Scotzlandizc
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:56 pm Post subject: |
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| I never tell lies! Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth and I were just discussing the false perception of drivers being dishonest the other day when I called to the Palace for tea |
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4roses
Joined: 28 Aug 2004
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Location: BrokenArrow, Oklahoma
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:56 pm Post subject: |
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Sizzle ... does there seem to be a pattern of the men you attract ? .... I don't want to sound mean, but if it is .. maybe you might consider the way your presenting yourself too. :wink: ....
At one point in life all I met were males like the ones you described ... a wise person suggested I take a close look at myself and change what ever I was doing to attract these kind of people ..... A hard thing to do, but over time I started attracting males with more self pride and morals. .... Everyone walks around with an invisiable sign on their body which tells others how they can treat us and what kind of person is welcome in our life. :wink:
There's alot of quality men out there, the kind that won't lie to you ... you just need to be more picky about who you talk to. ... Start to read the sign their carrying across their chest . :wink: ...
Be true to Yourself ... |
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Sizzle
Joined: 10 Oct 2006
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Location: Colorado
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks for your responses. Well if Terrylamar and Bigmon are telling the truth Yahoo to you guys!!!
Colt and Wot I Life, I obviously side with your reponses. So we'll see....
for4roses: Perhaps you're right, about how we present ourselves. However, I don't think looking like a female and acting like a female and looking more like the Accountant that I was for most of my life is presenting myself other then the way that I am.
Perhaps saying that I'm single and don't want commitment makes me look like an easy target. I do agree with that much. However, I have no intention of meeting the far right conservative crowd either. Have some of those in my family and that's just not me. My last boyfriend was a bible thumper and he apparently realized that quoting scripture was a waste of time on me. Particularly, since I have no interest in all the chapters or books or whatever you call them.
So, I've seen the entire gamet of guys from the shabby to the bible thumpers. I must say I do meet far more story tellers than actual bonafide honest guys.
Funny how when guys go home they can't talk on the phone until they're back in their trucks. Gee, you don't suppose there's a wife or girlfriend do ya?
I think I've met someone honest. However, he has a zillion problems with the Ex that interfere with his life. I can't imagine everyone that's divorced has Ex issues. I don't even speak to mine so I definitely don't have any issues. Other than the fact that I let it go without any settlement. I deserved it and walked away. Sick and tired of being sick and tired. I put him through two degrees and he made oodles before the divorce. So not every woman takes "the man" when they get divorced.
So I don't know for4roses perhaps you're right but I don't think that presenting yourself honestly, looking and acting like a lady deserves liars. UM!?!
Perhaps I should lie and say I want commitment. That wouldn't make me any better than the guys with the stories right?!? :) 8) :roll: |
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mommee
Joined: 04 Oct 2007
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 8:46 am Post subject: |
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Sizzle wrote:
for4roses: Perhaps you're right, about how we present ourselves. However, I don't think looking like a female and acting like a female and looking more like the Accountant that I was for most of my life is presenting myself other then the way that I am.
Perhaps saying that I'm single and don't want commitment makes me look like an easy target. I do agree with that much.
Perhaps I should lie and say I want commitment. That wouldn't make me any better than the guys with the stories right?!? :) 8) :roll:
I think there is a fine line between wanting to look like a lady and not wanting to be an easy target, especially in an area dominated by men. You want to be taken seriously, as a professional equal, and not as a "gal". You should dress how want to dress, but maybe as for4roses stated earlier, just tweeking your self image a little.
But...there will always be those "dawgs" who will sleep with anything that moves, as you know. They are in every work place. I have encountered quite a few in my day. Even if they are married or have a girlfriend, they try because they don't think they will get caught. |
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LadyNorthStar
Joined: 08 Jun 2006
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Location: Whitehorse, Yukon
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 9:33 am Post subject: |
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If you don't want a commitment, then what do you want? Not wanting a commitment makes you an easy target for those who are in relationships, very convenient for them.
Why are you specifically looking for drivers? Those who spend tons of time away from home, making it too easy to say they don't have one? |
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Sizzle
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Location: Colorado
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 10:57 am Post subject: |
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Well Thanks Ladies for your suggestions. I am not specifically looking for a driver. I am home for 4-6 days a month, that makes it difficult to meet people from other professions. I don't drink and don't want to hang out in bars, don't particularly want to go online and meet people who may not be who they claim to be either. So that leaves a very limited range of possibilities in my prospective.
I guess I'm so discouraged because I was white collar all my life until recently and never saw the profusion of "lies" that I have in trucking. Perhaps that's the nature of the "beast" since there aren't wives and girlfriends around usually to "monitor" the male egos. I just thought it shouldn't be so difficult to find someone honest. UM!?! Having serious second and third thoughts about that "little theory."
Why don't I want commitment? As I say, "I've been there, done that didn't work, don't want to go back. Was married to someone for half a life time and not interested in finding someone to "settle down with." Had two serious relationships since the divorce. They were both very dependent on me and I can't stand a man who can't take care of himself. Took care of the ex for years and never wanted nor would/will have children. I contend he took more energy than five children probably would have.
Perhaps that does make me an "easy target" because I say I don't want commitment. However, a friend to "run into once in a while-go out to dinner and a movie or something" that isn't married or has a girlfriend shouldn't be that unattainable?!? :) 8) :roll: |
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shyykatt
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 1:37 pm Post subject: |
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| maybe you are too picky or just looking too hard. |
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GrandpaJohn
Joined: 20 Nov 2007
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Location: Longmont, Colorado
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 3:29 pm Post subject: |
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I'm not yet a trucker but I've been around A LOT and maybe this will help you.
Some years ago Ann Landers or maybe Dr. Laura or someone else explained it this way...
Step 1) Imagine the type of person YOU want to be attracted to .
Step 2) Think through what kind of person that person would be attracted to.
Step 3) Make yourself into that kind of person.
You see, you can really only change yourself. None of us can change someone else.
Good luck and God bless,
Grandpa John |
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vavega
Joined: 26 Feb 2006
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Location: new jersey
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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Quote: Well Thanks Ladies for your suggestions. I am not specifically looking for a driver. I am home for 4-6 days a month, that makes it difficult to meet people from other professions. I don't drink and don't want to hang out in bars, don't particularly want to go online and meet people who may not be who they claim to be either. So that leaves a very limited range of possibilities in my prospective.
i beg to differ. you might not be "specifically looking for a driver", but if that's all that's in the pool, that's all you'll find. you're looking in your comfort range because it's easy. time to get yourself out to meet a different class of people. not necessarily better, just different.
since you're only home 4 to 6 days a month why not make the most of that time. what are your hobbies? any clubs in the area devoted to something you like or would like to take up? great way to meet people, male and female who can introduce you to others. how about a gym? favourite coffee shop? any sports? there's a huge range from hiking to bowling. pick one. it doesn't matter that you might not know too much about it, people always love to teach you what they know if you're truly interested in learning.
one example
notice the single hikers section |
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LadyNorthStar
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Location: Whitehorse, Yukon
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 9:36 pm Post subject: |
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You want someone to just 'run into once in a while', but he shouldn't have someone else? So you don't want a commitment but you want him to be commited to you?
Hum.
Trying to look at this from a mans point of view and I think you are really asking too much. You'd be better off to find someone in your area who would like a girlfriend, yet is independant and busy and doesn't mind you being gone a lot.
Try plentyoffish.com, I hear lots of people have luck there. |
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