A Serious Question ( about men)

[jonp]

rebdarlin: perhaps when you grow up you'll realize that people can have equally valid opinions and they can also be different. That is why in the marketplace we have 109 different types of computers. Because what one persons opinion of the perfect one for him is is much different from what another persons perfect computer is.

[RebelDarlin]

rebdarlin: perhaps when you grow up you'll realize that people can have equally valid opinions and they can also be different. That is why in the marketplace we have 109 different types of computers. Because what one persons opinion of the perfect one for him is is much different from what another persons perfect computer is.

And perhaps when you learn to read you'll understand that's EXACTLY what I said.


BTW way your numbers are wrong, there are not 109 types of computers. But that isn't what this topic is about, is it?

[RebelDarlin]

Perhaps you can show me where I stated that someone's opinion here was not valid, or was less valid than mine. Because as far as I can see, I simply disagreed with someone's opinion........THE SAME EXACT THING YOU JUST DID.

I'd love for you to point out where I invalidated someone's opinion.

Originally Posted by golfhobo

There IS no right or wrong answer.
But there is.



No, there isn't. Not to my original question. There are only opinions and perceptions.

[RebelDarlin]

Then you have your answer, Reb. Buy the fella Craftmans tools, Budweiser, and a new putter.

If it were only that simple. I'd be willing to bet I own more tools than most men, I hate even the smell of beer, and I know NOTHING about golf. How about a Gift Card?

[Rev.Vassago]

Originally Posted by golfhobo

There IS no right or wrong answer.
But there is.



No, there isn't. Not to my original question. There are only opinions and perceptions.

Still waiting for you to show me where I invalidated someone's opinion on the original subject.....

[Cluggy619]

I am really bad at this kind of stuff (obviously why I'm still single at 50)! What do men consider 'romantic'? I don't mean sexy, I can figure that part out, but what is romantic to a man. Or do they even want, or need, romance?

After reading all of what was said, All I have to say is that if you want romance, or to be romantic, buy a cheap paperback. Read it, then come to the conclusion that trying to be romantic just comes off as being fake.

Romance, true romance, comes natural. It's what you are, and what you shall be. Romance is more of a linguring though of what a person will see when they think of you. If they didn't see you in that light, they probably never will.

You can try to be romantic. Light the candles, cook the meal... tell him he's the only one till the next guy... it's all a matter of perception.

And the right person for you will already have been "romance" by just who you are....

To that guy, you are the most romantic being in their world.

Hope this helps.

Good luck.

[harleypiper]

Well Reb has anyone really answered your question?? IMHO if a man is looking for romance then he probably still takes bubble baths by himself with candles petting his cat.. Uh Oh that wasn't nice now was it? Anyway a man is only in need of having his ego stroked, weather it be his looks (or lack there of) his hair (or lack there of) his teeth (or lack there of) his muscles (or lack there of) to his bowling balls (or lack there of and so on.. Is what you should look for is if a man can romance you. Now we all have are own panty dropping techniques and quotes and so forth, but after the panties come off will the romance continue. Not meant to sound sexist but it's the down right truth, coming from a man. So I guess at 47 thats why I'm' still single. hahahahaha. Cheers!

[Jumbo]

Well Reb has anyone really answered your question?? IMHO if a man is looking for romance then he probably still takes bubble baths by himself with candles petting his cat.. Uh Oh that wasn't nice now was it? Anyway a man is only in need of having his ego stroked, weather it be his looks (or lack there of) his hair (or lack there of) his teeth (or lack there of) his muscles (or lack there of) to his bowling balls (or lack there of and so on.. Is what you should look for is if a man can romance you. Now we all have are own panty dropping techniques and quotes and so forth, but after the panties come off will the romance continue. Not meant to sound sexist but it's the down right truth, coming from a man. So I guess at 47 thats why I'm' still single. hahahahaha. Cheers!

You leave my cat out of this. Lil Jack Jack has done nothing to you.

[RebelDarlin]

Still waiting for you to show me where I invalidated someone's opinion on the original subject.....

By simply stating as fact that there are wrong answers, you invalidate peoples opinions. That is not a fact, it's your opinion, and should be stated as such. At the very least, it should be pointed out so that people will take it as such. IMHO statements like that are arrogant and intolerant and may intimidate some people to the point that it keeps them from posting. Just sayin'.

I'll agree that there may be answers that are wrong for you or me, or someone else, but that doesn't make them wrong.


Nowhere did I state that you invalidated a specific post, or poster.

[Rev.Vassago]

By simply stating as fact that there are wrong answers, you invalidate peoples opinions. That is not a fact, it's your opinion, and should be stated as such. At the very least, it should be pointed out so that people will take it as such.

Sorry I wasn't more specific for you. I figured that a thread which required people to give their opinion on a hypothetical question wouldn't need "in my opinion" before every sentence. But I notice that you haven't chastised anyone else in this thread for giving their opinions without stating beforehand that it was an opinion - just me.

[mike3fan]

You leave my cat out of this. Lil Jack Jack has done nothing to you.

Did you get him from someone?

[Slimland]

I am really bad at this kind of stuff (obviously why I'm still single at 50)! What do men consider 'romantic'? I don't mean sexy, I can figure that part out, but what is romantic to a man. Or do they even want, or need, romance?

Ok RebelDarlin, I will try my hand at this, though this is what I consider Romantic.

The feel of a womans soft hands on the chest, it is that touch that not just feels good on the skin, but IMOP it is saying that "your mine and I give myself to you" not just phisicaly but emotionaly it is kinda like letting a gaurd down.. Instinctivly when My wife does this, it makes me feel like a protector, a lover, and it conveys the most emotional feeling that I cant even put into words that expresses it.. It is like she is giving herself to me, and though it is a phisical touch, it is the emotions that comeout.

Another is laying her head on my lap or chest, and if it is on the chest the hand also is there. That soft warm hand that speaks volums.

The words " I love you" is just as Romantic. Exspecialy comming from a Woman like my wife who puts more stock in action that words. So when she says that, then I am the one on the bow of the boat yelling "I am the king of the world"

It is the small things, the things that some don't even think about until it is gone.
It is the things that make a man feel like a man, the boosting of the ego in a soft suddle way.

As for sexy, Just a long Tshirt will out do any Victoria secret anyday for me.

Hope that helps.

Slimland

[ironeagle_2006]

What Slimland said is VERY true for me. The past 3 weeks for me have been HELL around here called my parents both found out that they have very serious health issues on top of their already bad health. However last night even as I has pulling my hair out and trying not to go insane with all the problems I have been dealing with due to my parents my wife out of the blue goes have I told you lately HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. It was the way she said it that told me that things were going to be fine regardlss of what happens with my parents that she will be there for me. Rebel being romantic is sometimes knowing WHEN to pull your partner back from the edge from all the stress they have been carrying also.

[Rev.Vassago]

However last night even as I has pulling my hair out and trying not to go insane with all the problems I have been dealing with due to my parents my wife out of the blue goes have I told you lately HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. It was the way she said it that told me that things were going to be fine regardlss of what happens with my parents that she will be there for me. Rebel being romantic is sometimes knowing WHEN to pull your partner back from the edge from all the stress they have been carrying also.

What you keep describing is more about a relationship, not specifically what is considered romantic.

BTW, I hope your parents are well, IE.

[ironeagle_2006]

Got the news today by the end of this year more than likely both will be dead. Mom has 4th stage Colon cancer that has spread already. Dad found out that he has Lung Cancer in his ONLY good lung.

[matcat]

Got the news today by the end of this year more than likely both will be dead. Mom has 4th stage Colon cancer that has spread already. Dad found out that he has Lung Cancer in his ONLY good lung.

Wow that sucks! My Grandmother just passed a few months ago from cancer, she had stage 5 lung cancer that had spread to the brain.

[GMAN]

Got the news today by the end of this year more than likely both will be dead. Mom has 4th stage Colon cancer that has spread already. Dad found out that he has Lung Cancer in his ONLY good lung.

I am so sorry to hear about your parents, ironeagle. My wife lost both her parents to cancer.

[everytruckjob.com]

In relationships, to be won or to be renewed, there seems to be stages of romance, appreciation, intimidation, acceptance, raw physical need, and quiet reflection.

I've always looked at relationships a bit like starting and maintaining a fire. You build a strong base of mutual interest, flirtation is the spark to to get the fire started, from there the fire gets it's first taste of real energy and burns hard and bright - but after a time it burns out that initial fuel and comes down to a steady burn; the addition of new material keeps the fire burning, and the occasional throw of gas on the flame get's it to jump - but a strong fire needs a solid fuel to see it through.

Notes in our lunch box, stuffed in our wallet... maybe tell us we don't need to suck it in quite as hard... as men we want to be "your man" and know you want to be with us - not stuck with us...

I had a girl once do the "naked on the bed in just a ****" in the middle of the afternoon, great idea - bad timing - if you have a 20 minute lunch and have to get back....well.... it was hard not to think about her and work, and hardly anything got done.

Do men need dinners and flowers? How about a day where we're told; "...today is your day..do what you want, I won't mind..." a day without a care would be about the most romantic thing a woman could do, a day where we're just men without the fear of losing the house, getting the paycheck or dealing with a boss that seems to less then care.

well, these are just my thought..hold them with a grain of sand. All men are different after all.

[Jackrabbit379]

Sorry to hear, ironeagle. My granddad died of emphysema. He smoked for years. He wouldn't have lived as long as he did, if he had not have quit.

[ironeagle_2006]

Jackrabbit I hear you my father quit 12 years ago however the damage was done. Now it is just spending as much time as I can with them. My wife and I are praying that he lives to see our last child born that is due right about the end of Spetember. My mother we think might have 8 months if so Chirstmas is going to SUCK this year AGAIN considering in 97 I had to bury my grandmother on Christmas EVE without being able to say bye to her since my company did not care enough to get me in so I could say good bye to her.