Compliments and Men

[mommee]

I actually do once in a while catch a compliment from a female driver. I dress nicely and always look like a professional, never like a slob. Never.

I take the compliment for what its worth, even though I am probably one of the biggest flirts on the planet. Don't open the door too far though...

My flirting days are over. I try not to open any doors. :wink:

[Bandit102]

Oh. Wow. Were my flirting days ever to be over, I fear that it would be that point in life where there were several people sadly standing around as dirt was thrown over my box.

[pigrider]

If I deem that a compliment is in order, I always start by saying "This is a compliment not a come on, but you look very nice, smell nice or etc". Then I go on about my business.

As far as if they are not friends or family don't give a compliment! That is one of the problems facing our society today, we are afraid to say anything nice to the opposite sex unless it is family or friends!

[Roadhog]

My flirting days are over. I try not to open any doors. :wink:

I'd only be confused and need therapy...if you flirted with me mommee.

But compliments...I'll always want to hear.

...and spank me when I'm bad.

[mommee]

If I deem that a compliment is in order, I always start by saying "This is a compliment not a come on, but you look very nice, smell nice or etc". Then I go on about my business.

As far as if they are not friends or family don't give a compliment! That is one of the problems facing our society today, we are afraid to say anything nice to the opposite sex unless it is family or friends!

That's a good way of phrasing things. At least the person will know your intentions or "non-intentions".

[Roadhog]

....what was the question again?

Oh yes.. "How do you give a man a compliment without him thinking that you are interested in him or are hitting on him? It seems if you want to say something nice about their clothes or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.."

[Subtle injection of compliments....see what I'm about to do?]

That is a great topic by the way. More people should consider making others feel better, and this speaks well of you. I really appreciate kindness like this, as it shows strong character. No matter how lousy the day one is having, a simple heartfelt compliment can make a huge difference. No matter how simple a compliments sounds, when it is given freely, it's chances of being passed on are greater.

Once you begin to develop ways of complimenting, you begin to feel more in control of the expression you wish to paint. I showed some subtle strokes. But learn how you express yourself best. For me...it is obviously with humor.

[humorous compliments make you laugh and one feels twice as good]

So my art of complimenting generally is based upon my gift of expression. If I wish to compliment the opposite sex, and want her to be flattered or not want her to be flattered...I have developed my art. Humor either way puts people at ease, or allows me to control the expression I wish to portray.

Think of compliments as an art form. No two people are going to communicate exactly alike. Compliments are expression, mainly in communication. But don't forget the overall picture speaks just as loudly. I can compliment with no words what so ever. From a simple smile, and placement of the eyebrows. Just think of all the different smiles you can express, and what you convey. Body language is also part of communication.

As a comic...I have learned timing. Sometimes you should choose the right moment. It is just as well sometimes spontaneous, but you should keep timing as part of the equation. It's said; timing is everything.

I don't compliment as much as I should, but I do offer compliments regularly, and more than average. As with anything, practice makes perfect. It is a life long learning process, we always have room to grow.

Sometimes it is for my own well-being, as I know when ever I make someone else feel better, I feel better myself. So, you can also find spiritual reward, because what you are doing is giving. This adds a huge ingredient to the art of expression.

Most of us learn it first by how someones compliment to us makes us feel. How did they give it? What made it work on you? Ever get a bad compliment? It all begins to add up. When you are a child, you seek compliments from your elders. I wanted more than anything to have my Dad compliment me. He rarely ever did. Don't let this be you. Look around, someone is wanting your approval right now.

Insincere compliments are just short of an insult...and I am sure you know the caution here.

I hope to not avoid giving compliments, because I consider it too great a risk. You can't live life like that. I mean you can, but life could be so much richer, with spending little to nothing, but some of your own time in learning to develop a simple ...yet almost lost art of communication.

In considering complimenting the opposite sex, if you find this more challenging? Then focus your art in this direction. For it to work positively, it has to be from your own heart. I compliment women all the time, who I do not wish to take my compliment wrong. I do not want to hurt someones feelings with a mixed message any more than you...or have someone stalking me. Females should not think men do not share some of the same concerns as women.

Usually not much harm in a compliment, at least not more than an apology or explanation can fix, and we all have to offer those after a dinged compliment at times. Life is always a challenge.

[Ridge Runner]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.

Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )

Ridge, please report to the MAIN OFFICE ASAP!!!!

:shock: Whoops!!!! Looks like Roadhog is gong to have a new helper with the clean-up in the moderator lounge.

[Orangetxguy]

Heck....I got flirted with last week at a Flying J. Pretty 23 year old waitperson!! Made me feel so good! Especially since I was just starting to feel decent after a run with the flu !!


:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: She had a cute tush!! 8)

[Roadhog]

:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: She had a cute tush!! 8)

Tex...I bet you are real savoirfaire with the Ladies. :mrgreen:

[Sizzle]

Mommee: CUTE HOOTERS!!! The guys put WOW on their trailers to see Hooters. [Whip it out Wens.] The stories they'll tell to see hooters are unbelievable. I should print out those hooters and when I'm asked to show hooters show them the owls. TOO CUTE!!! 8)

[Sizzle]

Roadhog: Quite a dissertation on compliments. Great job!!! I've felt bad in the past because I've had drivers come by my truck and smile real big at me and often they'll say things on the c.b. to me. I usually comment on the c.b. but quite often I've been in a "mood" [not usually moody] but I haven't responded likewise with a smile and the poor guy's smile turned to a frown. I felt so bad-then it's too late to take back a "poor look", once you've projected it.

I compliment both males and females regularly particularly when I see drivers dressed professionally. I'm so used to seeing everyone in jeans and t-shirts that when someone has on dockers [i.e. males] with a nice shirt I always notice and say something. I always notice a nice female shirt since I get sick of what I wear at times. I always compliment them when I see them in really nice shirts, tank tops or other items that I like. I never hesitate to compliment females either because frankly I think we hear more complaints than we do compliments usually. Hence, I realize most people like compliments.

Certainly it isn't appropriate to just be complimenting to flirt. However, when you're not flirting and just wanting to compliiment the opposite sex I think it comes across as sincere. I've actually stopped drivers [male & female] to ask them where they've purchased a particular clothing item. Everyone likes to tell their story about clothing!!!

It's always nice to see a great smile also. Certainly, if we all "paid it forward" this would be a much nicer planet to be on!!! 8)

[mommee]

Yes, we should be a little nicer to each. A compliment to a complete stranger can go a long way. Saying something nice to someone may just may a rotten day better.

[Jackrabbit379]

Yes, we should be a little nicer to each. A compliment to a complete stranger can go a long way. Saying something nice to someone may just may a rotten day better.

Yes, compliments can help someone have a better day.
There is a fine line. Compliments are compliments. For an example.. "Those are nice boots." Nothing wrong with that. Men even tell men how nice their boots are.
Ladies, I wouldnt advise you to walk up to a man, and say, "You look really handsome in those Wranglers." That would not be good. :shock: :P That might get yall in trouble.

[mommee]

Yes, compliments can help someone have a better day.
There is a fine line. Compliments are compliments. For an example.. "Those are nice boots." Nothing wrong with that. Men even tell men how nice their boots are.
Ladies, I wouldnt advise you to walk up to a man, and say, "You look really handsome in those Wranglers." That would not be good. :shock: :P That might get yall in trouble.

I agree there is a fine line. I guess it's how you word it. Don't need to get into trouble, unless your looking for it and he really does look good in those Wranglers. :wink:

[Ridge Runner]

Ridge: Throwing buckets of COLD water on 'um. :P

[Roadhog]

Don't need to get into trouble, unless your looking for it and he really does look good in those Wranglers. :wink:

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I almost chose that as my avatar but the blinking crap seemed original.

[Jumbo]

Yes, we should be a little nicer to each. A compliment to a complete stranger can go a long way. Saying something nice to someone may just may a rotten day better.

How about just saying thankyou when a guy who goes into a building before you holds the door open for you. If I go into a building and someone is behind me i will always hold the door, and for the most part guys will thankyou and girls won't.

[mommee]

I always say thank you when someone hold the door for me. I am usually pushing the stroller, so I am grateful to people who do that. You would be surprised how many people have used another door and walked by while I struggled to get the stroller through the door. :shock:

It's just good manners to say 'thank you'.

[Jumbo]

I held the door for an older lady one time and in a loud voice she told me "I don't need you to hold a door open for me" My lovely and talented wife told her in a louder voice that "He doesn't know any better, He's a gentleman"