Female interests re: men?

[wildkat]

You same as me Reb? Intimidate the hell outta them?

Until I met my hubby, that was my contention...no man understood me, I thought, worked & played too much like them. They just couldn't understand that I didn't need anybody to take care of me, that if I had a man in my life it was cause I wanted him there, not cause I needed him there. I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

[RebelDarlin]

You same as me Reb? Intimidate the hell outta them?

Yup, that's me! At least according to my male friends!

Until I met my hubby, that was my contention...no man understood me, I thought, worked & played too much like them. They just couldn't understand that I didn't need anybody to take care of me, that if I had a man in my life it was cause I wanted him there, not cause I needed him there. I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

Me again! Oh well, maybe someday I'll get as lucky as you WK!

[RottsATruckin]

I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

Dum-da-da-da-la-la-la

I'm not sayin' a thing...

I'm thinking it, but I'm not saying it. :wink:

any of you other guys want this one?

I just got here and don't want to get into trouble, yet.

[wildkat]

Oh brother....



Here we go again.... GIT YER MIND OUTTA THE GUTTER!!!!! LMAO



Men! HMMM 27 tracks...all lead to the same gutter LOL

[wildkat]

You same as me Reb? Intimidate the hell outta them?

Yup, that's me! At least according to my male friends!

Until I met my hubby, that was my contention...no man understood me, I thought, worked & played too much like them. They just couldn't understand that I didn't need anybody to take care of me, that if I had a man in my life it was cause I wanted him there, not cause I needed him there. I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

Me again! Oh well, maybe someday I'll get as lucky as you WK!

I am lucky Reb....never thought I'd ever find anyone who'd suit me the way he does...had pretty much given up the whole process as a lost cause...

[Jackrabbit379]

That dog aint right. :|
It's gross lookin. :P

[Ridge Runner]

That dog aint right. :|
It's gross lookin. :P

Yea, but he had a purrty mouth.

[Jackrabbit379]

Ridge Runner, you aint right. :P

[Double L]

For being 17 well hell 18, I don't go for looks or parts of the body. What I'm more worried about is personality. I'm a picky guy so don't get me wrong I wouldn't want my wife or gf to smoke or drink. Ok maybe drink once in a while which is what I do not very often though! But what I expect out of the relationship is honest, respect, and faithfulness. I don't tolerate cheaters, abusers, or liars at all. I don't cheat, abuse, or lie so you shouldn't do it to me. I can't stand people who go out with someone for looks or other stupid material things. I mean c'mon looks are not everything, they may look good and be smoking but their personality can be well crap! That is my 2 cents!

[Slimland]

If you want' something to last, and be happy. Don't nag so much, and lift him up. Stroke the ego, don't knock it down.. The man is the head, BUT the woman is the neck, without the neck there is no lifting of the head..
without the head the body cant go in the direction intended.
It is a partnership designed by God. Have any of you who read the bible ever noticed that God tells the man to LOVE the wife. Because we men don't love very well.
But it tells women to Respect their husbands, they already no how to love. But are not that good at respect, and lifting up.

When a wife lifts up her husband, what she is doing is giving him special powers to do what she wants.FOr he fills fulfilled, he feels the king, and he will hunt for her, carress her, Love her, fulfill the needs, Listen to her, and DIE for her. If she puts him down, and nags what she is doing is shutting him down, and he becomes less noticing, and not carring. And eventualy it will be all he can take, and he will stray or leave untill he finds someone who will be the neck to hold him up, a body that will accept him.

just my 2 cents take it for what it is worth to you.
Slimland

[Trukrswyfe]

If you want' something to last, and be happy. Don't nag so much, and lift him up. Stroke the ego, don't knock it down.. The man is the head, BUT the woman is the neck, without the neck there is no lifting of the head..
without the head the body cant go in the direction intended.
It is a partnership designed by God. Have any of you who read the bible ever noticed that God tells the man to LOVE the wife. Because we men don't love very well.
But it tells women to Respect their husbands, they already no how to love. But are not that good at respect, and lifting up.

When a wife lifts up her husband, what she is doing is giving him special powers to do what she wants.FOr he fills fulfilled, he feels the king, and he will hunt for her, carress her, Love her, fulfill the needs, Listen to her, and DIE for her. If she puts him down, and nags what she is doing is shutting him down, and he becomes less noticing, and not carring. And eventualy it will be all he can take, and he will stray or leave untill he finds someone who will be the neck to hold him up, a body that will accept him.

just my 2 cents take it for what it is worth to you.
Slimland

I agree with you 100% Slim, I understand that the sound of my voice does two things to my husband. If I am just casually talking it puts him to sleep. I am complaining(B!@@##$#) it is like the sound of a dripping faucet as the Bible says never ceasing.

So women might ask her self well what am I to do then. If I don't tell him, he won't know. The answer. Tell the Lord. 1. He wants to listen to you, go on and on and on. 2. The Lord speaks better to your husband then any words that you could ever say. 3. Then your husband will want to hear you and should say so. If you are always telling him this and that he will be " Shut up woman" But if you are quiet He will say " Whatya thinkin"

TW

[Drew10]

Excellent replys, Slimland and TW: Just to want to elaborate, these are some of my favorites from the Bible...

Ephesians 5:25.."Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her...."

Christs love is unconditional...Unconditional love is an action given. This love is not a feeling. (IMO, what we "feel" as love is really lust. Within in a marriage, acting on the feeling of "Love" (lust) is good.

This is how we should Love our wifes....Unconditionally, all is an action:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

[4roses]

I've tried 2 times to post a reply ~ guess my Higher Being is telling me what I want to express is not in my best interest right now ... so I'll just say for now !~ I agree with what Drew said ...

Drew ..

1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

" It is not rude, it is not self-seeking" ................ no WHERE does it say anything about 'stroking a man's ego' ... ..

I know Slimline your NOT putting the blame on the lady if her man cheats or strays .... Right ? .... if so, that's hogwash .... We are to honor, love and care for each other. If one person in the relationship strays it could be - - they married for the wrong reasons ... and have nothing to do with Who they married . ......... I could say more but I'm afraid I'll come across more angry than I really am. After being cheated on by someone that I adored, gave him a home to live in, washed his clothes, cooked for him, told him daily how good/great he was to me .... he still cheated :!: I REFUSE to take responsiblity for his cheating :x

that's just my 2cents worth :wink:

[wildkat]

Way to go Rose, sometimes...well let's just say it dies... any relationship takes work, ALOT of work & not matter what or who if both of you are not willing to work at it...it eventually dies.

In my experience, & truly this is not a knock at men, men tend to want things to stay the same..Women on the other hand are constantly growing & changing, that, guys, is just simply how we are wired.

I hear constantly from men, "She's just not the same woman I married"..well DUHHH, of course we aren't :!: :!:

So, if any relationship is to last you MUST grow together...not apart.

Just my 2 cents worth!

[Trukrswyfe]

I've tried 2 times to post a reply ~ guess my Higher Being is telling me what I want to express is not in my best interest right now ... so I'll just say for now !~ I agree with what Drew said ...

Drew ..

1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

" It is not rude, it is not self-seeking" ................ no WHERE does it say anything about 'stroking a man's ego' ... ..

No but what it does say that in a marriage your body is not your own. If my husband wants his ego stroked or whatever It is OK to do that.

Im not saying you have to as every man and woman are unique and individual with their needs. But in a marriage It is my job to find out what his needs are and to the best of my ability do that. No one is perfect and no one can meet all your needs save the Lord. The beauty of marriage is if both parties say they are willing to try.

With the divorce rate it is clear this is not always happening but I still would like to encourage those to try.


I am sorry if what you think I am giving an excuse to men here. I am most definitely am not. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and they will be judged, by themselves with no one to blame.


I know Slimline your NOT putting the blame on the lady if her man cheats or strays .... Right ? .... if so, that's hogwash .... We are to honor, love and care for each other. If one person in the relationship strays it could be - - they married for the wrong reasons ... and have nothing to do with Who they married . ......... I could say more but I'm afraid I'll come across more angry than I really am. After being cheated on by someone that I adored, gave him a home to live in, washed his clothes, cooked for him, told him daily how good/great he was to me .... he still cheated :!: I REFUSE to take responsiblity for his cheating :x

I am sure not saying that. so Sorry Roses if I came off that way. I hope that clears things up and not stirs them up futher.
that's just my 2cents worth :wink:

Say the word and I will delete the post. Not meant to be harmful or hurtful to anyone in anyway.

My apologize Roses,,,Please except.

TW

[4roses]

Truckswyfe .... oh NO friend .... Your just fine :wink: .... and I do agree with all your saying here ....

But in a marriage It is my job to find out what his needs are and to the best of my ability do that. No one is perfect and no one can meet all your needs save the Lord.

100% agree with you :!: ... it's just when males think it's all our fault ~ the ladies~ when they stray because we didn't stroke their ego. That's what gets me upset ...... it's a 2-way street in a relationship ... it's not ... IF I stroke his ego - THEN he will love me and be loyal to me . And I don't stroke it enough he will stray ....

Truckswyfe please continue to speak up ... I like your thoughts on many subjects ... you seem to have the right idea with several area's here ... Who knows, maybe I could learn something from you too :wink:

[wildkat]

Truckswyfe .... oh NO friend .... Your just fine :wink: .... and I do agree with all your saying here ....

But in a marriage It is my job to find out what his needs are and to the best of my ability do that. No one is perfect and no one can meet all your needs save the Lord.

100% agree with you :!: ... it's just when males think it's all our fault ~ the ladies~ when they stray because we didn't stroke their ego. That's what gets me upset ...... it's a 2-way street in a relationship ... it's not ... IF I stroke his ego - THEN he will love me and be loyal to me . And I don't stroke it enough he will stray ....

Truckswyfe please continue to speak up ... I like your thoughts on many subjects ... you seem to have the right idea with several area's here ... Who knows, maybe I could learn something from you too :wink:

You said it all right there Rose....

Two way street is definitely is....

Life is just that Rose...a learning experience....we learn as we go... & hopefully learn NOT to repeat our mistakes!

[Bandit102]

Simland, that was a beautiful reply. I've never heard it put so well, your response was inspiring. Thank you.

[Slimland]

I've tried 2 times to post a reply ~ guess my Higher Being is telling me what I want to express is not in my best interest right now ... so I'll just say for now !~ I agree with what Drew said ...

Drew ..

1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

" It is not rude, it is not self-seeking" ................ no WHERE does it say anything about 'stroking a man's ego' ... ..

I know Slimline your NOT putting the blame on the lady if her man cheats or strays .... Right ? .... if so, that's hogwash .... We are to honor, love and care for each other. If one person in the relationship strays it could be - - they married for the wrong reasons ... and have nothing to do with Who they married . ......... I could say more but I'm afraid I'll come across more angry than I really am. After being cheated on by someone that I adored, gave him a home to live in, washed his clothes, cooked for him, told him daily how good/great he was to me .... he still cheated :!: I REFUSE to take responsiblity for his cheating :x

that's just my 2cents worth :wink:

Who is Slimline??
Roses after all these years, you should know me better than that! I cannot believe you got that out of what I had put down..
Let me explain!
Husbands LOVE your wife's. Simple to the point, and Drew already put the scripture down.. We men have a problem with love, I know I do.. We equate love with lust.. and they are compleetly diffrent, but yet go hand in hand.
Each person has a certain Love language.. FOr example: I like to be told that I am loved by my spouse, I like the simple touching, like her hand on my chest, or the soft brush of her fingertips on my back and neck. This tells me she loves me.
Her love language is for me to listen to her, without trying to fix a problem, just listen with a carring ear. And to help around the house.

The first of her love language is extreemly hard for me to do. the second I can accomplish.
Now for RESPECT, what I mean by this -- is -- Lift him up, tell him what makes him so good, tell him he's hansom, smells good, is a good father and husband. in essence tell him how great he is, and leave it at that.. Don't add any but, cause when you add a but, you know will put him down. and then that is when we will stop listening, and an argument will happen. Men are not as complex as women, you respect us, it strokes our ego automaticaly. Yes it goes to our heads, but that is what you want', for when we are full of ourself's from our women, then we are unstopable, and you mam will get done, what you want done!

A man who leave's this kind of care from a woman, is flat out STUPID!!!!

Now to love a woman-- THis one is hard so bear with me..
Honor her by helping her around the house, and show her appreciation for what she has done. How? Romance her, give her a foot rub, back rub, etc, without wanting anything in return.hmm youknow what I mean.!
Talk to her and listen, don't give advice unless she specificaly ask for it. Hold her, this is a powerful thing. THere is more to love a woman, but as I said, it is hard to explain for Women are Complex.

Roses this man you took care of and loved.. Left you becuase He did not Love you. He used you. You did what you did, and from what you tell me, did nothing wrong.. And toward the end, I am sure you where angry and hurt. You had every right to be..!
What I meant by a man leaving is a spouse who nags, and put him down all the time.. Reread what I said, I think you missunderstood..!

Your friend
Slimland

[4roses]

Slimland if I miss understood you ~ I'm sorry ... it's easy to missunderstand someones thoughts when we have to put it down in words in this cyberworld .............. I knew this didn't sound like the person (you) I thought I knew for quite some time ... guess I'm still a bit bitter about being 'used' by someone I cared deeply for. When I thought I was doing all I could to feed his ego. :wink: ... sorry I missed understood you ........... 'friends still I hope' ..