Has anyone found an honest male driver out there?

[Sizzle]

I've been driving for three years and have found that most guys will telly you anything to get into your pants. They can be married 20 years and have 5 children and they all claim to be single. Do you gals have the same problem?

[Sizzle]

Oops, hate it when I don't spell check well. Sorry for the miss-spelling in the last post.

I guess I'm just sick and tired of being lied to when I meet men. Yes, I am happily single but don't expect to have every guy who wants a woman in his life to lie about whether he is single or not.

I am not religious so don't want some far right conservative person either. However, I would think that honesty and being forthright shouldn't be such hard attributes to find. Why do men find it necessary to constantly lie to be with a female?

Perhaps I just meet the majority of "dawgs" out here but surely there must be some honest single guys out here some where?!? 8)

[terrylamar]

I've been driving for three years and have found that most guys will telly you anything to get into your pants. They can be married 20 years and have 5 children and they all claim to be single. Do you gals have the same problem?

I am not a gal, I am an honest, male driver who is single. I have never and will never lie to get in a womans pants. I am sure there are many men just like me.

[COLT]

I have never and will never lie to get in a womans pants. I am sure there are many men just like me.

Good one terry, :wink:

[Bigmon]

surely there must be some honest single guys out here some where?!? 8)

Right here.

[wot i life]

I never tell lies! Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth and I were just discussing the false perception of drivers being dishonest the other day when I called to the Palace for tea

[4roses]

Sizzle ... does there seem to be a pattern of the men you attract ? .... I don't want to sound mean, but if it is .. maybe you might consider the way your presenting yourself too. :wink: ....

At one point in life all I met were males like the ones you described ... a wise person suggested I take a close look at myself and change what ever I was doing to attract these kind of people ..... A hard thing to do, but over time I started attracting males with more self pride and morals. .... Everyone walks around with an invisiable sign on their body which tells others how they can treat us and what kind of person is welcome in our life. :wink:

There's alot of quality men out there, the kind that won't lie to you ... you just need to be more picky about who you talk to. ... Start to read the sign their carrying across their chest . :wink: ...

Be true to Yourself ...

[Sizzle]

Thanks for your responses. Well if Terrylamar and Bigmon are telling the truth Yahoo to you guys!!!

Colt and Wot I Life, I obviously side with your reponses. So we'll see....

for4roses: Perhaps you're right, about how we present ourselves. However, I don't think looking like a female and acting like a female and looking more like the Accountant that I was for most of my life is presenting myself other then the way that I am.

Perhaps saying that I'm single and don't want commitment makes me look like an easy target. I do agree with that much. However, I have no intention of meeting the far right conservative crowd either. Have some of those in my family and that's just not me. My last boyfriend was a bible thumper and he apparently realized that quoting scripture was a waste of time on me. Particularly, since I have no interest in all the chapters or books or whatever you call them.

So, I've seen the entire gamet of guys from the shabby to the bible thumpers. I must say I do meet far more story tellers than actual bonafide honest guys.

Funny how when guys go home they can't talk on the phone until they're back in their trucks. Gee, you don't suppose there's a wife or girlfriend do ya?

I think I've met someone honest. However, he has a zillion problems with the Ex that interfere with his life. I can't imagine everyone that's divorced has Ex issues. I don't even speak to mine so I definitely don't have any issues. Other than the fact that I let it go without any settlement. I deserved it and walked away. Sick and tired of being sick and tired. I put him through two degrees and he made oodles before the divorce. So not every woman takes "the man" when they get divorced.

So I don't know for4roses perhaps you're right but I don't think that presenting yourself honestly, looking and acting like a lady deserves liars. UM!?!

Perhaps I should lie and say I want commitment. That wouldn't make me any better than the guys with the stories right?!? 8)

[mommee]

for4roses: Perhaps you're right, about how we present ourselves. However, I don't think looking like a female and acting like a female and looking more like the Accountant that I was for most of my life is presenting myself other then the way that I am.

Perhaps saying that I'm single and don't want commitment makes me look like an easy target. I do agree with that much.

Perhaps I should lie and say I want commitment. That wouldn't make me any better than the guys with the stories right?!? 8)

I think there is a fine line between wanting to look like a lady and not wanting to be an easy target, especially in an area dominated by men. You want to be taken seriously, as a professional equal, and not as a "gal". You should dress how want to dress, but maybe as for4roses stated earlier, just tweeking your self image a little.

But...there will always be those "dawgs" who will sleep with anything that moves, as you know. They are in every work place. I have encountered quite a few in my day. Even if they are married or have a girlfriend, they try because they don't think they will get caught.

[LadyNorthStar]

If you don't want a commitment, then what do you want? Not wanting a commitment makes you an easy target for those who are in relationships, very convenient for them.

Why are you specifically looking for drivers? Those who spend tons of time away from home, making it too easy to say they don't have one?

[Sizzle]

Well Thanks Ladies for your suggestions. I am not specifically looking for a driver. I am home for 4-6 days a month, that makes it difficult to meet people from other professions. I don't drink and don't want to hang out in bars, don't particularly want to go online and meet people who may not be who they claim to be either. So that leaves a very limited range of possibilities in my prospective.

I guess I'm so discouraged because I was white collar all my life until recently and never saw the profusion of "lies" that I have in trucking. Perhaps that's the nature of the "beast" since there aren't wives and girlfriends around usually to "monitor" the male egos. I just thought it shouldn't be so difficult to find someone honest. UM!?! Having serious second and third thoughts about that "little theory."

Why don't I want commitment? As I say, "I've been there, done that didn't work, don't want to go back. Was married to someone for half a life time and not interested in finding someone to "settle down with." Had two serious relationships since the divorce. They were both very dependent on me and I can't stand a man who can't take care of himself. Took care of the ex for years and never wanted nor would/will have children. I contend he took more energy than five children probably would have.

Perhaps that does make me an "easy target" because I say I don't want commitment. However, a friend to "run into once in a while-go out to dinner and a movie or something" that isn't married or has a girlfriend shouldn't be that unattainable?!? 8)

[shyykatt]

maybe you are too picky or just looking too hard.

[GrandpaJohn]

I'm not yet a trucker but I've been around A LOT and maybe this will help you.

Some years ago Ann Landers or maybe Dr. Laura or someone else explained it this way...

Step 1) Imagine the type of person YOU want to be attracted to .

Step 2) Think through what kind of person that person would be attracted to.

Step 3) Make yourself into that kind of person.

You see, you can really only change yourself. None of us can change someone else.

Good luck and God bless,
Grandpa John

[vavega]

Well Thanks Ladies for your suggestions. I am not specifically looking for a driver. I am home for 4-6 days a month, that makes it difficult to meet people from other professions. I don't drink and don't want to hang out in bars, don't particularly want to go online and meet people who may not be who they claim to be either. So that leaves a very limited range of possibilities in my prospective.

i beg to differ. you might not be "specifically looking for a driver", but if that's all that's in the pool, that's all you'll find. you're looking in your comfort range because it's easy. time to get yourself out to meet a different class of people. not necessarily better, just different.

since you're only home 4 to 6 days a month why not make the most of that time. what are your hobbies? any clubs in the area devoted to something you like or would like to take up? great way to meet people, male and female who can introduce you to others. how about a gym? favourite coffee shop? any sports? there's a huge range from hiking to bowling. pick one. it doesn't matter that you might not know too much about it, people always love to teach you what they know if you're truly interested in learning.

one example
notice the single hikers section

[LadyNorthStar]

You want someone to just 'run into once in a while', but he shouldn't have someone else? So you don't want a commitment but you want him to be commited to you?
Hum.

Trying to look at this from a mans point of view and I think you are really asking too much. You'd be better off to find someone in your area who would like a girlfriend, yet is independant and busy and doesn't mind you being gone a lot.

Try plentyoffish.com, I hear lots of people have luck there.

[brian]

i`m brutally honest.....















and happily married



I do have a honest brother in law I can hook you up with though, he`s quite the looker and a montana cowboy but good lord is the boy an idiot, but hes a good looking self sustaining idiot, please take him.

[Sizzle]

Vavega and LadyNorthStar great suggestions. I'll try both!!! I went online briefly but every day was getting a zillion guys pictures that supposedly fit my profile. I think they sent me every guy in the Denver area; irregardless of compatability. Consequently, I never responded and gave up. I've heard horror stories about online services. Although, with your high recommedation LadyNorthStar I will get on Plentyoffish.com.

Vavega, when I make the time I will get into the clubs. Probably won't be the next time I'm at home, hoping it will be at Christmas time. Was a huge bowler when I was young. Went to U. of A. [that's Arizona not Arkansas-folks] and placed third in the state one year in the tournaments, when I was in my early 20s. Just gave it up over the years. Wasn't in a league anymore and guess I fell out of interest or something! UM!!! Might be hard now, I'm a terrible Asthmatic and can't be around smoke. Seems to me bowlers are smokers and drinkers. UM!!! 8)

[Sizzle]

Brian, Thanks for your response. You are just too funny!!! Trying to pawn off your brother in law who is a self sustaining idiot. Well at least he doesn't live far from me-too funny.

I was married to quite the looker and a brilliant one at that. I realized through the years that looks aren't everything. The man was a WORKAHOLIC. After he completed his Master's and Doctorate in Aerospace Engineering I assumed the "study days" were over. Oh hell no, then he was in the Wind Tunnel all the time reseraching.

When we're old and sitting in our rocking chairs we're all going to probably have wrinkles and lines. Hence, looks only last so long guys and gals. A sense of humor and ability to converse on numerous subjects will carry you much further than looks. Although, let's face it most of us like to look at something that is easy on the eyes.

I'm definitely into "intelligent men". Although, where they hell do you go from a Rocket Scientist? UM?!? Frankly, don't care about someone having money. Been there-all it means is that you don't have to rob Peter to pay Paul. So money isn't a priority for sure. Although, anyone I'm interested in better take care of their own bills. I had two broke boyfriends who thought I was made of money or something. Too sad when adults can't take care of their own bills. Although, I guess their child support is what did them in.

It's too hard to find a guy who doesn't have child support. Seems at least 1/2 the adult population is divorced with kids. I don't have kids and don't want to pay for some other woman's children. I work too hard to support myself. UM... Frankly, I think the top considerations are: compatibility, mutual interests, mutual respect and he better have a good sense of humor. Oh yeah--NUMBER ONE--he better be honest. Gee, I'm shooting for the stars I guess... UM!!!

My first boyfriend after my divorce was the biggest LIAR, I hope I ever run into. I swear if you told him he'd die if he lied or he'd live if he told the truth. The son of a gun would be dead 10 times over!!!! Hence, my hesitancy about liars.... 8)

[Sizzle]

Just hate miss-spellings! Better start using a better spell checker than the one I'm using. "reseraching" in the last post obviously should have been spelled researching. EECCKK. I can't stand miss-spelled words!!!

Well, I'm leaving today and won't be back for weeks so I don't know if I'll have a chance to respond. Hence, these last three posts. Better put a laptop on the truck soon!!! 8)

[4roses]

Have you considered starting a 'MySpace' .? ... that way you can post your pictures and your interest ... you accept who does and doesn't join your MySpace .. I've heard good stories of adults who have met other people they enjoy being with. :wink: ... just a thought :idea: