HOW CAN A TRUCKER MARRY A GOOD WOMAN?

[LOAD IT]

Too many drivers abandon trucks and run out of route and cant concentrate on the job because they have married an insecure, hoe-bag, tramp who only wanted his paycheck on Fridays and the freedom to spend it while he is on the road.

HOW CAN A TRUCKER MARRY A GOOD WOMAN? :? :?

I need to know the answer :idea: :idea:

[Sabine]

Don't knock all of us women :shock: I agree though, it is way too difficult to get to know someone, when your always gone, just a day here and there doesn't cut it.

While I am not out there looking, not ready yet, I kind of have my feelers out on what to do when the time comes, I really don't know what I will do to meet someone.

When I met my hubby, I had a normal life that involved going home at night. This lifestyle is not conducive to meeting nice guys. Ones that live where you live, since you are never home and don't have time to meet one.

So, if any of you all have an answer, I would love to hear it too.

[GMAN]

I think there are good women out there. Unless a relationship is strong, it isn't going to hold together, whether you are on the road or at home. I believe the most important element in any relationship is communication. Unless you can talk to one another you don't have much of a relationship. You can solve most any conflict or problem with communication. It isn't always the man who fails to communicate. Some women find it difficult to communicate about their feelings. Some people just make the wrong choice in a mate. We see in them what we want, rather than what is actually before us. You will never be able to change someone to be as you want them. You must accept them for what they are. Change must come from within. All too often we have false expectations from our mates. Every relationship has it's bumps. Both must be willing to commit to the relationship and to working things out.

[mommee]

I think there are good women out there. Unless a relationship is strong, it isn't going to hold together, whether you are on the road or at home. I believe the most important element in any relationship is communication. Unless you can talk to one another you don't have much of a relationship. You can solve most any conflict or problem with communication. It isn't always the man who fails to communicate. Some women find it difficult to communicate about their feelings. Some people just make the wrong choice in a mate. We see in them what we want, rather than what is actually before us. You will never be able to change someone to be as you want them. You must accept them for what they are. Change must come from within. All too often we have false expectations from our mates. Every relationship has it's bumps. Both must be willing to commit to the relationship and to working things out.

Well said GMAN. I think anyone who will be in these types of marriages has to know what they are getting into from the start. It's not your ordinary situation. This doesn't just go in trucking, I think it's the same when the other half is missing from the home, whether be it half the day or half the month, AS A NORM. The woman has to be very independent and can run the whole household-from the kids, everyday things and the great extras like leaky roofs or car trouble. It's a lot to put on someone's plate.

Men say they like independent and strong women....we all aren't wimpy and need a man around constantly. I can and do hold down the fort.

[Trukrswyfe]

Honestly the question can be asked both ways.

That said there are too many people out there with the " Someone esle syndrome"

I do believe it is a condition that you always think your going to find someone better then the one you are with. What you end up with is the same or worse and all the garbage you brought from the last relationship.

I am not saying this is everyone, as I am still with my husband, but I am running into so many of my friends that one or the other has abandoned the marriage in pursuit of Mr or Mrs "Perfect".

Here is an idea quit, quiting on your spouse and running away from issues instead of dealing with them as they will just follow you to your next relationship sooner or later.

[4roses]

GMAN..

I think there are good women out there. Unless a relationship is strong, it isn't going to hold together, whether you are on the road or at home. I believe the most important element in any relationship is communication.

I beleive you hit the nail on the head here.

To many people marry because they DON'T want to be alone ... so they jump into a marriage in order to secure the idea there will always be someone to love you. Some people are in love with the idea of 'being in love' and forget that it's a full time job to keep the relationship going strong. ... I personally have met many men in my life that only wanted someone to take care of them and use my money. ... So it does work both ways. ... If someone is going to cheat on you or only wants your money - they would do it no matter what kind of job a person has....

I hate it when people abuse others this way ... it only makes it harder for honest people like me to meet someone. ... I had to learn a long time ago that not all men were bums, cheats, liers and users .... Try not to let one bad apple spoil the whole basket.

Theres no cut and dry answer here ... people just need to take their time to get to know someone before jumping into a relationship.

[GMAN]

My wife and I dated for 4 years and have been married for over 27 years. I think it is best to take your time and not rush into marriage. It takes time to get to know someone.

[DD60]

My wife and I dated for 4 years and have been married for over 27 years. I think it is best to take your time and not rush into marriage. It takes time to get to know someone.

Mike,you make a lot of good points. I married my wife just after six months of dating but I just KNEW she was the one. One way I discovered this was with the RICH test. When we met I told her I was rich.She looked surprised when I told her I own a truck and I am rich. I don't blame her,until I told her I was rich in HEART,NOT in money. We got married this last July and I may have a child on the way.It is a great feeling even though I will have a lot more responsibilties. I wouldn't have it any other way,but that's me.

[nsxman2001]

My wife and I dated for 4 years and have been married for over 27 years. I think it is best to take your time and not rush into marriage. It takes time to get to know someone.

I also agree its great when we take our time and get to know the people we are dating and wanting to marry. Over time one can watch how the other half deals with family and adversity for me this very important. I dated my wife for over 6 years before we got married this year. Most ask why it took so long its because we both wanted a real wedding and that cost $$$ so we waited..

Good luck!

[ToxicWaste]

PRENUP, PRENUP, PRENUP

[Colts Fan]

I don't personally know how someone can be an OTR driver and have enough of a life to meet someone and get to know them well. It would be very hard to get to know someone well while away so much. I'm lucky that my wife is as awesome as she is and can take care of business when I'm gone. I'm a newbie so I haven't been at it long, but things are actually going better now than they were before when I was home. Every time I get home it's like another honeymoon. But I think it helps that I made this career change after we have been married for a couple of years and were able to discuss things frankly and in depth.

[Sassy_1]

bee a GOOD man and you will find a match

[golfhobo]

bee a GOOD man and you will find a match

SEE..... there's my problem!! I'm always looking for a LIGHTER!! :wink:

[wildkat]

Too many drivers abandon trucks and run out of route and cant concentrate on the job because they have married an insecure, hoe-bag, tramp who only wanted his paycheck on Fridays and the freedom to spend it while he is on the road.

HOW CAN A TRUCKER MARRY A GOOD WOMAN? :? :?

I need to know the answer :idea: :idea:

HMMMM... gimme a few days & I'll as my husband

[Mack2]

I have a question for you women. How do you ask a gril out without making a complete fool of yourself? Which I always seem to do.

[Trukrswyfe]

Dont try to hard you will seem desperate, Maybe watch Hitch. I dont really know too much about dating, sorry. Thankfully I missed all that stuff. Just as a person though people who try to hard or ask too many question repel me. Keep thing simple mention things you would like to do and see if she agrees. Then go together. I think we women like jerks the bigger the jerk the more we like them. Crazy I know.


Here is a secret: Act some what interested then ask completely uninterested, We women love a challenge too. Oh I am speaking for myself and the five sister I was brought up with. no one else.

Best of Luck
Trukrswyfe

[golfhobo]

Mommee said:

Men say they like independent and strong women....we all aren't wimpy and need a man around constantly. I can and do hold down the fort.

Men LIE!! And SO do women! Men don't REALLY want a strong woman, because they want to be the dominant one in the relationship. Most men are AFRAID of strong women, because they don't want the hassle of the power struggle!

They only SAY they want a 'strong woman' because, thanks to Women's Lib, women WANT to be appreciated for being STRONG! So, if we SAY we 'appreciate' that in a woman, and play to your self-interests, we MIGHT get "lucky!"

Likewise, women SAY they want a "sensitive" man! There are literally hundreds of magazines proclaiming this! It's a LIE!!! You're lying to US... and to yourselves! Women want a JERK!! GOD only knows WHY.... but it is TRUE (as a rule.)

Problem for US is..... there are LOTS of male "jerks" out there! It is part of their DNA to know how to "act" sensitive just long enough to HOOK their fish! But, a sensitive man, only LOOKS like a jerk, when he tries to ACT like a jerk to get your attention! You see right through him, and pass him by for the REAL jerk.... who is ACTING like he is sensitive because you have promised yourself that THAT is what you are looking for! Aaaargh!! :evil:

Like Truckrswyfe said..... ACT interested just long enough to make them THINK you are interested in their VIRTUOUS facade, because that makes you SEEM like the kind of man who would love the person they WISH they were! Then, pack up your tackle, and let the FISH come to YOU! Because THEY really want an "independant" man, who couldn't care LESS if he had a woman or not! They certainly don't WANT to have to be your MOTHER!

Dang! Now I've given myself a headache!! Trying to figure out women will DO that to a man!

[mommee]

That's why I said-Men say they want an independent and strong woman. I didn't say that's what they really wanted.

After reading that last post, I have a headache myself. I am so confused. :shock:
Please don't explain again

[golfhobo]

That's why I said-Men say they want an independent and strong woman. I didn't say that's what they really wanted.

After reading that last post, I have a headache myself. I am so confused. :shock:
Please don't explain again

Probably couldn't if I WANTED to!! :shock:

I'd get it all confused and backwards, and I would come out knowing LESS than I "THINK" I do NOW!

In the Beginning, God made MAN. THEN..... just to F#CK with him, he made WOMAN! Who says God doesn't have a sense of HUMOR??? :wink:

[Trukrswyfe]

delete response to Golf,

:wink: We made up.