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[Rawhide]

I've been out here for 2 years and Ive teamed up twice while being out here. I'm not going back team ever again. I was accused of sleeping with someone in saftey at my last company and now I'm scared to go back with that company due to this rumor. The company is a freaking great company I would love to go back I just don't want this to haunt me when I have to walk into that terminal.
I've tried blowing it off ignoring it and I've removed myself from the website completely now, I even canceled myspace so I just don't have to deal with it anymore.
This man is married and I know he doesn't know about the rumor and he if does he has not said anything. I don't mess with people at my work if I was to mess with anyone it sure as hell wouldn't be with another driver or someone thats in the driving field.
Has anyone had this problem before. I've talked to this man a total of 5 times in the year I worked for that company. I have been offered my job back through them I just worried about this problem I don't want him to lose his job because of a rumor because hes really good at his job.
Thnks

[4roses]

Since there's no truth to this rumor ... the man in safety shouldn't have any problem proving it if need be. ..... Sounds like you really like the company you worked for ... so go back to them and continue to hold your head high. What will be - will be. With time this will all go away. :wink:

[malaekat]

Since it is a rumor both parties are covered but how strong are you? I've found that rumors like that will totally disrupt your work environment. The gossip always affects how you are treated by others in the company. Its great the company wants you back but how far are they willing to go to end the rumor? Are they willing to catch the instigator and make an example of them? Are you and the company willing to have the company put up a notice that this type of rumor is unacceptable and will not be tolerated? Is the company just saying 'we know its not true' but leaving you to hang in the wind? Is your working relationship with the other party now damaged beyond working capability - even though the rumor is false sometimes the male in the party will avoid any contact with you to prevent any further rumors but this always leads to more rumors? Are you prepared for the 'don't be alone with her' treatment(You know the 'I don't want to be accused of the same thing so I just won't be alone with her' type behaviour)? Is your job gonna be affected because no one will be alone with you without feeling uncomfortable? Basically how much of your job requires being alone with someone of the opposite sex? Gossip like this is horrible and doesn't in my experience ever work out for the girl. Either she gets labeled a rat or she gets labelled a **** neither of which makes work pleasant.

[Rawhide]

Are you prepared for the 'don't be alone with her' treatment

This is what I'm afraid of. When I had state authority take care of my trainer touching me at Central Refrigerated this was what everyone though. I had to go to safety one day and I was told I had to wait out side untill they could have a female escort me and sit with me in a meeting. I should of sued but was unsure of my rights then.

The company has said nothing about this and as far as I know right now the rumor has not gotten too high up into saftey just several of the drivers and a few dispatchers has heard of it.

I don't know what I'm going to to I'm really confused

continue to hold your head high

this is something I'm afraid I cannot do. At least not now I hope maybe taking a break and going somewhere else will change my mind.
Thnks for all the info I really appricate it

[malaekat]

I am really sorry you are going through this. None of us should ever have to go through it. Especially when we are new it seems to happen. I personally long for the day when I have enough time under my belt not to seen in this light. I have noticed truckers with years of experience aren't subjected to this kind of behaviour. Its almost like its a rite of passage - a wrong one - but a rite of passage nonetheless. Hang in the times they still are a changing.

[RedRaven]

Rumors can destroy careers, and jobs... But, it appears now, not for the person the rumor is directed toward.

In the past week, a neighboring state just fired 4 woman from their jobs who were working for a particular town, in the towns offices.

The rumor wasn't created by these woman, but, they participated in perpetuating, and discussing the rumor.

The rumor was that a male town official was having an affair with a woman who worked on his staff...

They were all fired basically for being involved in gossip. The woman took their case to court. The woman appealed their firings, 2 got their jobs back, and 2 were able to turn the firings into resignations.

Spreading rumors about anyone in the work place, or else where is wrong, in my opinion. If you do your job, are professional, and work hard, you shouldn't have to be the brunt of any rumor.

I'm not a religious person, but, there is a saying an idle mind is the devils work shop... You can't do anything about those who should be spending more time focussing on their job, and their work performance, rather than on what you are doing.

But, it is an unfortunate activity that some woman, and men participate in, in the work place, and else where...

If you are interested in going back to this company, be up front with them, tell them your concerns, and see what their response is regarding them. Maybe they know the individual who started the rumor. You would be surprised at how much the "Boss", knows about his, or her workers.

If they are not aware of the rumor, discuss it with them. Depending on their response, then decide whether you want to return to this company...

No one wants to work in unpleasant working conditions. So, the choice is really up to you...

I can say this, usually the person who creates issues in the work place, eventually is found out, and eventually shown the door by the company. If the company wants to maintain a good reputation with not only their employees. But, in the business community as well...

There is a lot of competition out there, and it is in the best interest of that company to maintain good relations all around... :wink:

[Sabine]

At the risk of getting blasted here, I would like to add my 2 cents.

While I am not suggesting any of this is your fault, I would like to suggest you examine your behavior, and be honest with yourself, if there is a chance you are contributing to the problems you are having.

You made an issue of quitting MySpace, have had apparently several problems of this nature. Seems there is a lot of drama in your life, maybe some of it was directly contributed by your own behavior. While things like this can and do happen, please consider my suggestion, you may be giving signals to these guys, ask a couple of your friends if that may be the case.

Otherwise, good luck to you. I hope things will work out for you.

[larz0142]

I was hoping to but all I work with is men so I'm not going down that path....

[person]

Just drive the truck and don't worry about a thing. You hardly ever have to even talk to anybody but your dispatcher. You don't have to have your social life at work. Ignore or don't even find out what anybody thinks of you. Just drive the truck. Your outside social things can be done on your phone and laptop.

[SouthBound93]

Girl.................if your heart is true (bleep) em..........go back, stand tall, walk proud and get the job done. At least if they are talking about you, they are leaving someone else alone!!! :moose:

Don't let them win!!!!!

[4roses]

yooooo Rawhide ,... where did you go girl ... you've been gone 5 months. Just like to know your still rollin upright and all is fine with you. :wink:

[LOAD IT]

At the risk of getting blasted here, I would like to add my 2 cents.

While I am not suggesting any of this is your fault, I would like to suggest you examine your behavior, and be honest with yourself, if there is a chance you are contributing to the problems you are having.

You made an issue of quitting MySpace, have had apparently several problems of this nature. Seems there is a lot of drama in your life, maybe some of it was directly contributed by your own behavior. While things like this can and do happen, please consider my suggestion, you may be giving signals to these guys, ask a couple of your friends if that may be the case.

Otherwise, good luck to you. I hope things will work out for you.

Sabine, I think you hit the nail on the head. Rawhide (even your name is enticing), you are probably sending the wrong signals, remove your picture from the avatar or is that Rikki Lake? I think you like publicity or drama or notoriety. Guys dont start those kind of rumors about GOOD girls. Some guy that you probably did DO, started this rumor. Be careful who you DO and how you DO them. Go back to the great company and behave yourself.

[Soladad]

Not hijacking this post but "HI" Sabine. Glad to see that you are still around and out trucking. Thought of you a lot. Hope things are going well for you.

Soladad

[ladykatrina]

At the risk of getting blasted here, I would like to add my 2 cents.

While I am not suggesting any of this is your fault, I would like to suggest you examine your behavior, and be honest with yourself, if there is a chance you are contributing to the problems you are having.

You made an issue of quitting MySpace, have had apparently several problems of this nature. Seems there is a lot of drama in your life, maybe some of it was directly contributed by your own behavior. While things like this can and do happen, please consider my suggestion, you may be giving signals to these guys, ask a couple of your friends if that may be the case.

Otherwise, good luck to you. I hope things will work out for you.

Sabine, I think you hit the nail on the head. Rawhide (even your name is enticing), you are probably sending the wrong signals, remove your picture from the avatar or is that Rikki Lake? I think you like publicity or drama or notoriety. Guys dont start those kind of rumors about GOOD girls. Some guy that you probably did DO, started this rumor. Be careful who you DO and how you DO them. Go back to the great company and behave yourself.

this is good advice hon, just do the job...ignore the crap, trust me on this it never is easy to do but you will get used to it. I worked in a factory for 14 years, it took me about 10 of those years to learn how to survive at a job without going totally insane...good luck with your career.

kate

[Sizzle]

Rawhide:

I read some of the posts briefly. The rumor was probably started by some S.O.B. who wanted to have you. Or better yet, a jealous ugly woman. My bet is on a woman. They are just nasty creatures when it comes to better looking, better figured, smarter, richer women. It's too damn bad that women can't just get along. Remember there's no such thing as a "good ole girls' network." Women just can't get along and don't even attempt to most of the time! Girl, you will always have that kind of crap when you're good looking.

Look at it this way, if you were a dog no one would spread such crap. Be proud, stand tall and look at everyone in the eye. Don't let these petty ass, hopeful guys and/or petty ass women bother you.

It's amazing what crap Petty Little Boys and Girls can start. That's why I don't work in an office anymore. Couldn't stand the petty crap that women start. They would sooner scratch your eyes out then to work with you peacefully. Although, I must say that men do their fair share of gossip also. I would make a ton more money back as an Accountant [have two degrees] but just couldn't stand working with Bitchy Ass Women. Guess I sound sexist towards my own sex-well perhaps I am; due to very painful experiences for years in offices!

My ****tiest non-good looking friend growing up was thought of as a nice girl by my parents. On the other hand, my best friend who was a virgin and drop dead gorgeous and happend to be very friendly was thought of as a **** by my parents. Point proven.

Don't let anyone tell you you are a drama queen. Don't you dare take your picture off your avatar. I've wanted to put mine on their as well. But haven't figured out how to get it on there. I look 15-20 years younger than I am and am damn proud of it.

Hang tough Girl. We don't need to be ashamed of being good looking. Go back to the company and STAND TALL. 8)

[Shawnee]

Rawhide:

I read some of the posts briefly. The rumor was probably started by some S.O.B. who wanted to have you. Or better yet, a jealous ugly woman. My bet is on a woman. They are just nasty creatures when it comes to better looking, better figured, smarter, richer women. It's too damn bad that women can't just get along. Remember there's no such thing as a "good ole girls' network." Women just can't get along and don't even attempt to most of the time! Girl, you will always have that kind of crap when you're good looking.

Look at it this way, if you were a dog no one would spread such crap. Be proud, stand tall and look at everyone in the eye. Don't let these petty ass, hopeful guys and/or petty ass women bother you.

It's amazing what crap Petty Little Boys and Girls can start. That's why I don't work in an office anymore. Couldn't stand the petty crap that women start. They would sooner scratch your eyes out then to work with you peacefully. Although, I must say that men do their fair share of gossip also. I would make a ton more money back as an Accountant [have two degrees] but just couldn't stand working with Bitchy Ass Women. Guess I sound sexist towards my own sex-well perhaps I am; due to very painful experiences for years in offices!

My ****tiest non-good looking friend growing up was thought of as a nice girl by my parents. On the other hand, my best friend who was a virgin and drop dead gorgeous and happend to be very friendly was thought of as a **** by my parents. Point proven.

Don't let anyone tell you you are a drama queen. Don't you dare take your picture off your avatar. I've wanted to put mine on their as well. But haven't figured out how to get it on there. I look 15-20 years younger than I am and am damn proud of it.

Hang tough Girl. We don't need to be ashamed of being good looking. Go back to the company and STAND TALL. 8)

What a bunch of bulls@$t!!!! I know that Sizzle has this hate on for all other women and likes to remind everyone that she is better looking than the rest of us, but to blame women for all problems is ridiculolus. Not just another woman, but it has to be an ugly woman.

I know people who like drama and they bring on their own trouble by how they act. By the way Sizzle, I am 29 years old and good looking too ( I don't like to say that because I don't like to sound like I am full of myself because I am not, believe me I am more interested in working on motorcyles or my truck than worrying about my looks) I have NEVER had trouble like that in my life, EVER!!!

I have been on the road since I was 20 years old, I was very young and good looking, but I never let attention go to my head, a lot of women do though. I was the only woman driver at the company where I started and I never had problems like that with people. I got along well with everyone, even the women in the office, imagine that I got along with other women.

[4roses]

Sizzle ...

I read some of the posts briefly. The rumor was probably started by some S.O.B. who wanted to have you. Or better yet, a jealous ugly woman. My bet is on a woman. They are just nasty creatures when it comes to better looking, better figured, smarter, richer women.

Come on girl . :nervous: ..... what's there to gain by putting down other ladies .... that's not what we're about ...... If you would of read Rawhides post closer - you would of understood that she was TALKING ABOUT A MAN ! .... a lone time ago I read Rawhides MySpace before she canceled it .... she showed pictures of her man she was dating while at the company ...... Rawhide is a nice person, plain and simple.... The rumor could of and probably was started by a MALE DRIVER ... at the company. I know who she was working for .... anything is possible when you get a group of male truckers together and their starving for a female attention .... and watch out ... if they don't get what they want. - (not all of them :!: ) - but there's always 'that' group of males that don't care who they hurt in their path.

If it makes you feel prettier, smarter and richer putting other ladies down ... then I guess you've accomplished what you set out to do.

Drive safely - be nice to others.

[mommee]

Shawnee-you are still young at 29. I wish I was 29 again.

Rawhide-
I get along better with the male species. I do get along with women, but I still can't stand some of the cattiness and cliques that women form, even amongst other moms. I have grown up with all boys being around and not many girls to place with. I never really got on well with girls because they always made me feel like outsider. I wasn't a girly girl. I played hockey with the boys-goalie. And you have to hold your own or they will thrown you out of the game(kinda like on this board sometimes). :wink: The girls weren't as fun. I used to work where it was mostly males that dominated the work place. They can gossip just as bad as the women, just don't give anyone any ammo.

If you didn't do anything wrong, then walk straight with your head high. I don't care what people think of me because I know the truth and that's what matters.

The question about your avatar-do what you like. I just don't like to post personal pictures on the web. You never know who is looking.

[Sizzle]

Wow!!! You two women just proved my point about not getting along with other women. Seems to me that I was responding to Rawhide trying to help her out.

Shawnee you just make me laugh girl. I was trying to make a point about how women don't play well together. You just proved my point girl.

I am not the one that posted glamour shots on C.A.D. Funny how you didn't go after the other woman for that stunt! She's the one that went on and on about how she's aged like a fine wine. Please Shawnee get over yourself. I mentioned I'm attractive because I was emotionally abused for years and didn't think very highly of myself due to the abuse my husband bestowed on me.

It has taken me years to get over it and I'm still working on it. I'm beautiful inside and don't really give a damn about the outside. I was making a point about how petty women can be. You have proved my point over and over EVER TIME YOU COME AFTER ME WITH THAT B.S. ABOUT HOW I SAY I'M SO GOOD LOOKING. Seems to me you say that over and over yourself. So who is calling the kettle black little girl? I don't tell everyone I'm better than everyone else. Get over yourself girl.

If you weren't emotionally abused for years you couldn't possibly understand how much work it took to realize that I was a good person inside as well as out.

So the next time you want to assault me on C.A.D. do it privately. I'm sick and tired of your B.S. girl.

[wildkat]

Wow!!! You two women just proved my point about not getting along with other women. Seems to me that I was responding to Rawhide trying to help her out.

Shawnee you just make me laugh girl. I was trying to make a point about how women don't play well together. You just proved my point girl.

I am not the one that posted glamour shots on C.A.D. Funny how you didn't go after the other woman for that stunt! She's the one that went on and on about how she's aged like a fine wine. Please Shawnee get over yourself. I mentioned I'm attractive because I was emotionally abused for years and didn't think very highly of myself due to the abuse my husband bestowed on me.

If you would have actually READ the thread.... oh well not worth worrying about!

It has taken me years to get over it and I'm still working on it. I'm beautiful inside and don't really give a damn about the outside. I was making a point about how petty women can be. You have proved my point over and over EVER TIME YOU COME AFTER ME WITH THAT B.S. ABOUT HOW I SAY I'M SO GOOD LOOKING. Seems to me you say that over and over yourself. So who is calling the kettle black little girl? I don't tell everyone I'm better than everyone else. Get over yourself girl.

If you weren't emotionally abused for years you couldn't possibly understand how much work it took to realize that I was a good person inside as well as out.

Yes, Sizzle...I was & do understand...BUT I don't use it as an excuse...

So the next time you want to assault me on C.A.D. do it privately. I'm sick and tired of your B.S. girl.

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Been there done that Sizzle....sounds like you're using it as an excuse. DON'T fall into that trap....