HELP!!! WIFE'S FEELINGS ARE HURT (POST NUPTIAL AGREEMENT)

[Trukrswyfe]

Teal 95 KW


All I have to say.....

WOW you took my breath away. In a good way. Sweet.

As to the topic: I think he got his answer. BOL to you pigrider. No sarcasim.

[pigrider]

[quote=Teal 95 KW]

I dunno...I keep getting this feeling like you think you are "one up" on her, and "allowing" her to have a car should something happen etc. She is your GAWDAMN wife!! You don't "Allow" her to have anything, and you are surely doing her no favors by "providing" anything for her..she'd be better off leaving your sorry ass and (since apparently she has a successful career) finding someone else who's evolved from the stone age. A marriage is a partnership, and things should be viewed as "y'alls" and not "mine" and her's". I'm not married and that is how I view things with my girlfriend, and have in the past with others. I kinda get the feeling that you'd be the kind of person to where if she didn't already have a decent paying job, and your trucking ruined a marriage, you would say "screw it" and keep the truck and let her fall on her ass.

I'm going to step off of my soap box now, I can't fathom how morons like yourself function in day to day society. I'm going to get off MY computer now, and ALLOW my girlfriend to use it...

First of all I asked for opinions not insults! You don't even have a clue of what type if man or husband I am! For the record I was responding to a comment stating I needed my wife's money to start this adventure!

I NEED HER MORAL SUPPORT, LOVING AND UNDERSTANDING BUT I DON'T NEED HER MONEY! SHE SPENDS HER MONEY ON HER AND I TAKE CARE OF THE HOUSEHOLD! (Keep in mind before everone get cranked up on that, everyone handles their household different). I have always alway taken very good care of my wife ( emotionally, financially, & etc) and plan to continue!

Maybe I am guilty of listening to to much financial tv or Suze Orman & etc.

But as far as the insults! I have yet to insult anyone on this board so I would appreciate the same amount of respect!

[Teal 95 KW]

you're right, I have no idea what kind of husband you are, or person for that matter....but your post shined a huge spotlight on a few key items which make me think I am not too far off base.

[pigrider]

you're right, I have no idea what kind of husband you are, or person for that matter....but your post shined a huge spotlight on a few key items which make me think I am not too far off base.

My post was a question and a thought, that I later admitted, may have been wrong!

And as far as that is concern, a single man trying to give a married man advice might fall in the same category as Orpah trying to give advice on raising children!

But I asked for opinions, now I have to ride it out!!

[RostyC]

pigrider, I'm holding my opinion till I see pictures of the truck you buy.

Nice to see Dr.Freud is alive and well on the internet, now if I could just find Elvis.

[neewah]

PIGRIDER

I have a couple of questions

Is your wife used to you being away a lot or are you home most of the
time. Your lower info suggests military time possibly. If career military
then she won't miss you being gone. If not that takes a lot of getting
used to by both.

Do you plan on making large amounts of money as an o/o? I hope not!
Maybe she is the one who needs a pre-nup. My wife and I have the same agreement. I do the mortgage,taxes,car payments,food,etc. She has all the utilities, plus all her bills,beauty shop,her credit cards, etc. So far it has worked out fairly good till I bought my first truck. Won't go there.

Just a couple of questions, comments, and why do you really need a pre- nup unless you think your career change is going to cause some friction

[Orange Andy]

After some thought, I can see very clearly why she is hurt and upset.

You said you are doing this on your own money, but you have received something far more valuable than her dollars. And that is LOVE, moral support, and understanding. This is selfless giving of ones self.

Now she sees that her "reward" for this self-less giving of love is an option to sign a piece of paper to secure her exclusion from your plan, down the road. What have you offered HER, should you become successfull beyond your wildest dreams in this venture? Sure, she would benefit most likely, from what you have told us about how you care for her currently, but this is the problem when you start bringing contracts into a legal union of two people.

In summary, marriage is a gamble, life a gamble, business a big gamble. Dont try to avoid it. And in the worst case divorce scenario, any judge will allow you to keep your tools to earn a living.

Bad idea, and beyond that, it really is an insult to her. You will see down the road this is true.

You are going to gamble on a new venture, with your money, be gone all the time, adding stress to a marriage, which will most likely require more love, support and understanding than this woman has probably ever given in your first 15 yrs of marriage. Be considerate, and put yourself in her high heels.

Regards and make the sharp u-turn on this if not too late.

[pigrider]

After some thought, I can see very clearly why she is hurt and upset.

You said you are doing this on your own money, but you have received something far more valuable than her dollars. And that is LOVE, moral support, and understanding. This is selfless giving of ones self.

Now she sees that her "reward" for this self-less giving of love is an option to sign a piece of paper to secure her exclusion from your plan, down the road. What have you offered HER, should you become successfull beyond your wildest dreams in this venture? Sure, she would benefit most likely, from what you have told us about how you care for her currently, but this is the problem when you start bringing contracts into a legal union of two people.



In summary, marriage is a gamble, life a gamble, business a big gamble. Dont try to avoid it. And in the worst case divorce scenario, any judge will allow you to keep your tools to earn a living.

Bad idea, and beyond that, it really is an insult to her. You will see down the road this is true.

You are going to gamble on a new venture, with your money, be gone all the time, adding stress to a marriage, which will most likely require more love, support and understanding than this woman has probably ever given in your first 15 yrs of marriage. Be considerate, and put yourself in her high heels.

Regards and make the sharp u-turn on this if not too late.

Now thank you and everyone else for your responses!

This is an example of all the good sound advice I have come to expect from this board, not mean spirited attack from Teal 95Kw and the high five he recieved from TRUKRSWYFE!

I have figured that I will probably be taking a pay cut! I just thought that maybe I needed a post-nup trying to cover all bases!

I WAS WRONG!!

BUT EVERYTHING IS OKAY ON MY END, BECAUSE MY WIFE KNOWS WHO I AM AS A PERSON AND REALIZES I WOULD NEVER DO ANYTHING TO INTENTIONALLY HURT HER OR OUR MARRIAGE!!

[Trukrswyfe]

Pig,

stop shouting at people, We get it YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE. I wasn't high fiving,

I am a woman and guess what I am married so here is my opinion

Talk to your dam wife about this not the message board.

I only admired Teal 95 for so boldly defending YOUR WIFE. It was a sweet gesture. I KNOW she doesn't need defending you are GREAT.
You posted it ..... See why you shouldn't have.

[pepe4158]

he-he....now you see why i have a filipina wife n leave her with her family in the Philippines lol

You're F***ed

[mommee]

he-he....now you see why i have a filipina wife n leave her with her family in the Philippines lol

I love going to the Philippines. My uncle has 3 maids and a driver.

[Doghouse]

You're F***ed

I hate to ever agree with Steve O,....but you may just be F***ed, I know my girl would kill me in my sleep :?

[SoCal79]

I am glad you are tapping into retirement money to fund it and you sport enough change for that 08 lexus, you know what they say the best way to make a small fortune in trucking is to start with a big one. Best of luck to you & your wife!

[DD60]

First of all I am a happily married man of 15 years! But I am on the mentality that life can throw you a curve ball. Just because we are happy now does not mean that 10 years down the road something can not and will not change.

As some might already know, in January of 2008 I plan to retire from my current job and return to trucking.

I explained to my wife that I wanted a post-nuptial to protect one (1) truck and one (1) trailer in the event that something might happen to our relationship over time!

I explained to her that the post-nuptial will only protect the one truck & trailer NOT any other assets that we may obtain over time to include: any monetary assets, additional units, land, buildings or etcs. Just one truck & trailer of my choice!

She has her masters degree in reading and is currently a literacy coach
for the local school district. She is also in the process of getting her principal degree! She has been in the education field for the past 15 years and is very passionate about her career!

In other words she has a career to fall back on!!! And I am just trying to protect my livelihood!!

Am I wrong! Am I being insensitive! She feels that marriages shouldn't have those types of agreements between!

Keep in mind I do love my wife very very much and I plan to grow old with her, but business is business!!

Honest opinions are very welcome and may I please here from some women, because I know men and women think different!!

Thanks in advance!!!

Your wife would be doing you a favor if she would be crazy enough to want to keep a POS truck and trailer. I agree with Gman though. A post-nuptial agreement for a truck and trailer would be moot.