Here we go agian...

[TruckerChris]

My girlfriend now hates me and won't talk to me. I confused about what to do. I want to come back ON THE ROAD. I don't want to be home it seems latley. I don't want to drive a small local truck going around town seeing the same crap day after day. Here's some random thoughts running around in circles inside my head:

Things I miss about the road...
Driving a BIG truck, theres nothing like a 4axle trailer scraping the ground while trying to U-turn. haha
All the amenities of home inside my truck. My computer, tv, dvd, radio and my bed.
My bed, I don't know about anyone else, but I sleep better in my truck than I do here at home.
I miss my friends. All the guys I've talked to on the road.
It's weird saying this but I miss the "BULL****". Theres so much crap you have to deal with OTR and I miss it. I'm crazy.
OTR is the only thing I know.


When I come home from being OTR I love hanging out with my girlfriend but I'm such a loaner it seems... We can hang out for a couple days but then I'm ready to go back OTR. We do have a lot of fun and one day I think I want to marry her but she doesn't want to marry a trucker I think and I know that I will be driving something or another for the rest of my life. I'm just babbling it seems but I have so many things running through my head. I'm basically screwing myself one way or another. Choose trucking over my girlfriend and ruin 1.5 years of a relationship or not go back OTR and not be happy working a job that I really don't want to be at...


I'm so confused.

[Sheepdancer]

Its very simple....You want to spend time on the road more than spending time with your girlfiend. You love truck driving, you just like your girlfriend. Go with your love....drop the chick and hit the road.

[mike3fan]

Trucks never give you the silent treatment either.

[Twilight Flyer]

Just remember, there is another side to that.

Today, you can drop the chick, hit the road, and be happy...but hometime will hold nothing for you.

But tomorrow when you retire to an empty house, no children, no memories, you'll wonder what might have been.

Think it through and good luck.

[Mr. Ford95]

Dang Twi, when you put it like that.................that would make me more confused. That was deep dude.

I would do what I enjoy the most, who's to say your even going to still be with this girl in 5 years?? Maybe you should try to find something that is regional where your not exactly OTR and gone for a week or more but your not seeing the same sights everyday and you get home every few days if not every night.

[Sheepdancer]

they probably wouldnt be happy with each other in the long run anyway. Just by his short post you can see that they have too many differences.
Hes a truck driver....this is what he chose to do for a living. She doesnt want a truck driver, in fact shes trying to mold him into something hes not. I wouldnt want a woman who wanted to change me. Relationships are hard enough for people who are alike. The only think that opposites attract is divorce.

Signed,
Dr Phil

[shyykatt]

If she cannot support what you want to do, then she's obviously not the one for you. Move on.

[madii'swife]

Would it not be possible to find some sort of middle road? Maybe a regional position, where you're still seeing different things, but also still out "on the road"? It's tougher when you're still in the "girlfriend" stage I"m sure, but my opinion is find out what she really wants, look into yourself to find out WHY you want to go back out so much, and if you love her then do your best to find a happy medium. If she really loves you, she will want you to be happy also.
I suspect my husband will never return truly "local". He's too in love with being on the road, and enjoys the solitude/living in the truck. He does want to be home more often, so we will be finding something where we get to see him at least once a week.
By the way, he says he also sleeps better in the truck, when its not odd hours.

[west_coaster]

PM'd ya Chris.

W.C.

[inmate1577]

Ditch her!
And......find yourself a nice lot lizard to go on the road with you. :wink:

[Rookie McRookerson]

Kona, I think its hopeless. You're hooked!

I don't think you should act on any advice you might get from here. Its too complicated to get one or two lines of advice (e.g. dump her, forget about otr, etc.) You have to sort that out for yourself.

Some pre-marital counseling might help to sort things out and allow both of you to talk freely about your dilemma is a safe way. There might be a compromise you can both live with. Like maybe doing the I-5 north south route that will get you home more often, but still give you what you need.

I wish you the best of luck at what ever you decide to do.

[Cluggy619]

I've been married for 21 years....boy do I have the urge to go OTR. So I can relate to that. I can tell you this.

You lose either way. If you go OTR, you make her mad. If you stay home, you make yourself mad.

In todays world, relationships never last. More than 50% of all marriages end in divorce court.

On the other hand, your truck will never complain to you. Your truck will never leave you. Your truck will never cheat on you. And almost every night, you get to sleep with your truck. And when she is worn out, and no good, you can go get a younger one.

One marriage or the other....which would you like to have? :wink:

[shyykatt]

On the other hand, your truck will never complain to you. Your truck will never leave you. Your truck will never cheat on you. And almost every night, you get to sleep with your truck. And when she is worn out, and no good, you can go get a younger one.

One marriage or the other....which would you like to have? :wink:

Now There's some truckers wisdom-

[BanditsCousin]

Mine dumped me last summer after a year and a half...

...I listened to my pocketbook :wink:

Now she still calls and we talk, because she wants me back. My mom told her to deal with it or dump me There are plenty more women out there, thats my advice.

[ronjon619]

...I listened to my pocketbook :wink:

Now she still calls and we talk, because she wants me back. My mom told her to deal with it or dump me There are plenty more women out there, thats my advice.

Amen Driver......I was in that same boat with you. 8)

[Splitter]

Some years ago, I had a girlfriend that had it in her mind that she was going to change me into the man she wanted.
In her mind, she wanted a guy that wore a suit and tie. Well, she's long gone, and I'm still driving.
For you to give up a dream of yours, all in the name of a girl. That is so not fair to you. As a local driver myself, It will get old, and it will get old fast.
I'm not telling you to dump her. But, at the very least. You two need to sit down, and have a nice long talk.

BOL Kona

[dieselgrl]

Kona, I feel your pain more than you realize.

I've been in two long term relationships where I finally listened to the other half begging and pleading me to come off the truck. The "Baby Come Home" Syndrome if you will. I did it and was miserable. I would get up on the interstate and drive with a few trucks just to feel like I was on the road again. I had stopped talking to many of my driving friends - particularly with me being female he was always concerned I was going to go run away with another driver

Each time though, the relationship eventually imploded because neither of us was happy at all. I'd end up heartbroken and back on a truck - and immediately much happier, and he went and found someone else that could be the homemaker he wanted.

Now I'm in a relationship where he understands my job and my lifestyle. I compromised by finding a company where I'm home every week but still turning a California turnaround running team with one of my best friends. I make great money, have my friends back, still have my truck and see the country - am with a great company... and have a wonderful man who loves me for who I am.

No one on here can tell you what to do... but sometimes you need to sit down and figure out your priorities.

[homer]

if your not 30 you better run till your burned out on it.it wont work if your worried about what someone your not with is doing.alot of people live in a truck and pay alimony and child support and dont have a choice.think of the investing you could do and different women you could meet in 34 hours.i saw one driver who posted that he saved 300000 $ in 7 years. make her hair turn gray.

[yoopr]

Dang Twi, when you put it like that.................that would make me more confused. That was deep dude.

LMAO
Yep Kona-You got the addiction and it doesn't take very long driving to get it. You're hooked.

[TruckerChris]

Well guy's, I just broke up with a girl that I really, really liked after 1.5 years... If only I didn't throw trucking into the relationship 8 months in... doh.
I'll be calling gordon on monday and hopefully getting my job back... It's been done before from other people I know so I have a little bit of hope. If that gig doesn't work out, then I'll be driving for (fill in the name here). I don't know yet, we'll see.

eek.

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