I just tuned in on this and noticed a couple things right off.
#1 "Hubby's lazy and just wants to sleep", Gman addressed this and I concur. It's tough on the stay home parent, after all she's been stuck in that house with TWO toddlers for a week she needs a break from them just like he needs a break from the road.
#2 Trust- In other words wife doubts hubby's faithfulness. Is it possible that he may feel the same way? Try getting some cheap dollar store greeting cards like I love you, Missing you and wish you were here ect. And make a little note on each and pack them in his gear. Put one here or there so he finds them one at a time. he could do the same for you. And the lot lizards? I really wouldn't worry to much about them. Most of the one's I've seen don't look to bad in a dark parking lot 20 feet away but any closer NO WAY!!! I've talked to a few over the years and feel sorry for most, just trying to survive a rough life and then get treated worse and catch STD's.
#3 "His car" That right there speaks volumes! Why is it his car? Why not our car? You shouldn't be stuck in a house for a week at a time with 2 kids without transportation. Explain that to him and mention that if you have the car YOU can take care of things like grocery shopping during the week and that less he has to do on his home time.
#4 No friends & family. If family is out of town then not much you can do, but friends? Take your kids to a local park and strike up a conversation with another mother(avoid male friends see #2), look around to see if there's a young mothers group around, make a friend at your church just remember friendship is a two way street and both friends need to get something out of it, otherwise it's using.
I don't know how long you've been married but marriage can be a rough road with lots of twists turns and potholes and it takes both of you to make it work. You can't do it yourself, you need to get him onboard if not (I really hate to say this) then you may have to cut him loose.
BTW I do know a little bit about marriage, after 37 years to the same woman I've almost got her figured out!
Actually we had some very rough years early on, two kids before I was 19 and she 18 and 1400 miles away from our families, but that made us depend on each other instead of running home with our problems.
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