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Originally Posted by Crystal garcia
Yes we ride with him as much as I can stand. It's hard with toddlers but I do try just so I can be with him. But I also need his attention when he is home. Cuddle, movie, take a walk, talk about something other then fuel and another trucker friend... I need me time... When it doesn't happen I get bitchy and start nagging and he just leaves. No communication. My marriage is on the rocks. I'm tired of talking to people who don't understand that it is hard and lonely.
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Perhaps it is time for a new tactic. When he first gets home maybe you could try listening to his week and how things have gone for him. If he is tired, then give him time to take a nap and get a little rest. Drivers deal with a lot on the road. It can help to let off some steam. Allowing him to unwind first might make him more receptive to your needs. Once he unwinds a little he will probably be more receptive. Maybe you could arrange a nice candle lit dinner or some time by yourselves away from the children. When you have a loved one who is on the road and away from the family for extended periods of time you need to do more planning for the two of you. Even taking a walk can help. Walking will get you away from the noise and distractions of the kids and everything that has gone on in the week. My wife and I have been married for more than 34 years and dated 4 years prior to that. I was traveling when we met and I still travel, but to a lesser degree today. Taking small children on the road is very stressful. I am surprised that his company allows small children in the truck. Most won't allow them to go along until they are older.
When I started traveling we had to use pay phones to check in at home, write letters or post cards. Calling home was expensive so calls were rare. Staying in touch today is much easier. You can skype, call or text and stay in touch with one another. It is easier to take a photo of something the children did and share that event immediately with your loved ones. Try to be positive and share positive things that happen. He doesn't need to know all the bad or troublesome things that happen. Women who are married to truckers or anyone who travels away from home for extended times must be strong and independent. That may not be natural for you, but you are the one running things at home. Being apart can be difficult for some couples. It can bring others closer. Communication is critical. But, don't unload on him when he first comes in the door. He does need time to relax and unwind a bit.
Truckers wife and not happy
