My husband hasn't eaten in 36 hours

[mighty3]

Day 2 training Trans Am. I am really pissed off and there's nothing I can do. My husband started with his trainer yesterday. The trainer has all his own food and has not offered to stop somewhere where my husband can get something to eat. When they stop at a terminal the trainer gets his own food, takes it to the microwave and eats and leaves my husband in the truck. He told my husband he would stop at the next Walmart so my husband could get some food. He has no food, no water and has not been offered any by his trainer or been given the opportunity to go to a truck stop or somewhere he can get food or drink. What should he do? I need an answer fast!

[Twilight Flyer]

Have him contact the terminal immediately and explain to a terminal supervisor what the situation is and then request a new trainer. Whether or not is was poor planning on your husband's part regarding food and water, there is absolutely no reason for the trainer's behavior. And why would your husband stay in the truck at a terminal? I don't get that one at all.

[mighty3]

I packed my husband snacky foods for light breakfasts and snacks. He's been in Dallas since Sunday, so needless to say, that food is pretty much gone. They didn't tell us to bring food for the trip. They sent us a list of what to bring and food and drink was not on it, I just packed it anyway. I told my husband (who doesn't want to rock the boat) to tell the trainer "I need to get something to eat!" I told him to call Trans Am immediately, he said he's going to see what happens tonight. I told him to Speak up! This is Bull*****!

[Jackrabbit379]

I'd give that trainer a swift kick in the hind end. There's no call for that!
Just as Twilight Flyer said, I would call a supervisor, or the safety director, and tell them that this trainer isnt allowing your husband to eat.

[Twilight Flyer]

So, he's going to wait and see what happens tonight? That's stupid.

If he truly hasn't had anything to eat or drink for 36 hours, he's running health risks that are potentially fatal. If he doesn't have the spine to stand up to his trainer to get a bloody bite to eat, then he has no business being in the industry. That's not being mean...that's just being honest.

[yoopr]

I'd give that trainer a swift kick in the hind end. There's no call for that!
Just as Twilight Flyer said, I would call a supervisor, or the safety director, and tell them that this trainer isnt allowing your husband to eat.

Ditto and the Scummy so-called trainer can't share what he has until they re-stock?

[Jackrabbit379]

That's just un-called for. He needs to have his bell rung.

[mighty3]

My husband has spoken up. Several times. The trainer keeps saying "we'll stop later", later hasn't come. And what's up with no coffee in the morning? This guy didn't even stop for coffee! Now my husband has a migraine AND he's starving. Totally unsafe. I called Trans Am myself and talked to his recruiter. He didn't want me to call, but something has to be done. He has his phone off now while he's driving, but I just left him a message to ask for a new trainer when he gets to the terminal. I don't mean to be bossy, but I'm here and he's out there stranded with some trainer who obviously could care less about anyone but himself! p.s. I'm sure my husband is gonna be pissed when he finds out I called TransAM.

[yoopr]

Be better if your husband would have asked but seeing you already called I wish him the best of luck.

[Twilight Flyer]

If he has had nothing to drink for 36 hours, a migraine is an extremely serious sign. It can be an indication that the body is beginning to shut down. You can live without food for days as long as you have water. Lack of water will kill you and usually in less than 48 hours.

I'm having a hard time figuring out who's more stupid here. Your husband for silently accepting the treatment or the trainer, who could very easily wind up with charges against him, should something bad happen.

Again, I'll stress that if he has TRULY had nothing to drink for 36 hours, he runs the risk of dying. Period. A few drinks here and there would be enough to remedy the situation, but if he has gone without that whole time, well....

[mighty3]

Do you think I did the wrong thing in calling Trans am myself?

[mighty3]

Oh, no. My husband has had something to drink. He said he was drinking a coke when I talked to him. And he still had some of the snacky stuff left, so I don't think he's in danger of dying at this point, but I know he's in need of a real meal and a chance to stock up some drinks and food. He gets headaches if he doesn't have coffee in the morning like so many of us.

[yoopr]

Do you think I did the wrong thing in calling Trans am myself?

No-Not with the Seriousness that Twilight Flyer has mentioned.

[flood]

a trainer A REAL TRAINER would have taken your husband to walmart before starting out and would have told him HIS rules about when thay would be stopping to buy food for the truck and about stopping to eat and buy drinks on the road that way thay both know what is going on...

and saying he will stop at the NEXT walmart is a lie, if that were true you would not be asking what to do as he would have done it already, after all wal-mart's are everyware.

their is no reason that thay can't stop at fuel stops and get something this trainer is a real ***** and i would do as Twilight Flyer said but i would do it sitting in the front seat in front of him when i called... just to show him what an ***** he is. also calling safety and telling then he is to weak to driver as the trainer will not stop and let he eat may get the point across.

just my .02

[yoopr]

a trainer A REAL TRAINER would have taken your husband to walmart before starting out and would have told him HIS rules about when thay would be stopping to buy food for the truck and about stopping to eat and buy drinks on the road that way thay both know what is going on...

and saying he will stop at the NEXT walmart is a lie, if that were true you would not be asking what to do as he would have done it already, after all wal-mart's are everyware.

their is no reason that thay can't stop at fuel stops and get something this trainer is a real ***** and i would do as Twilight Flyer said but i would do it sitting in the front seat in front of him when i called... just to show him what an ***** he is. also calling safety and telling then he is to weak to driver as the trainer will not stop and let he eat may get the point across.

just my .02

that's why I called him a So-Called Trainer-guy is a joke and needs to be gone.

[Twilight Flyer]

OK, if he's had something to drink, then we're back to his trainer just being a complete *****. Your initial post read like he had been deprived of both food and water for 36 hours.

He gets headaches if he doesn't have coffee in the morning like so many of us.

That's Caffeine withdrawal. It means that your caffeine intake is too much for the body to properly process. Been there, done that. Ain't fun. Getting off a regular coffee/coke routine solves it in a couple of days.

Back to the trainer, your husband still needs to stiffen up his spine. Screw rocking the boat. There are some things that just fall under common human decency.

[mighty3]

Thanks to all of you for responding. I totally agree with the post that said the trainer should have started out at Walmart and told him what to expect. This "trainer" has been a winner since day one. Yesterday he came into the terminal to pick up my husband for his first day and just went about his own business of doing laundry, showering, basically disappearing while my husband sat in the lounge with his thumb up his behind. The guy didn't communicate. I've read a lot of posts about horrible trainers and this guy's not the worst I've heard of, but he's definitely got a lot to be desired. I'm glad I did the right thing by calling. I hope by tonight things are getting on track or he's got a new trainer. I'll keep you posted. Thanks again for the support!

[Jackrabbit379]

Please let us know how things are going. Contact the safety director at TransAm, and tell him what is going on. Like everyone said, that trainer needs to be gone!

Tell the bosses at TransAm if they dont do anything about it, we all are gonna get that trainer, and let him spend the night in north Ft Worth. (he is in Dallas, right?) Maybe at that Pilot on I-35. Be a good place for him :P

[Slimland]

Thanks to all of you for responding. I totally agree with the post that said the trainer should have started out at Walmart and told him what to expect. This "trainer" has been a winner since day one. Yesterday he came into the terminal to pick up my husband for his first day and just went about his own business of doing laundry, showering, basically disappearing while my husband sat in the lounge with his thumb up his behind. The guy didn't communicate. I've read a lot of posts about horrible trainers and this guy's not the worst I've heard of, but he's definitely got a lot to be desired. I'm glad I did the right thing by calling. I hope by tonight things are getting on track or he's got a new trainer. I'll keep you posted. Thanks again for the support!

When I was with Trans Am, I had a trainer by the name of Wayne.. I cannot remember his last name, but he was from Utica, NY. He was an awsome trainer, and a good guy to be around.. Just as long as you don't take his language personal.. Us here in the south are sensitive to that

[mighty3]

I talked to my husband last night and he said they stopped at a Burger King and he ate and stocked up on burgers to put in his trainers cooler. Also got some Mountain Dew in case he couldn't get coffee in the morning. On a positive note, he says his trainer is a good teacher, easy going and they are getting along. So, if he can get the food thing down, things should go pretty good. My husband loves driving the truck and thanks to this forum, we have support and knowledge on what to expect out there on the road. Thanks again for all the tips and support and I'll be in touch!