Foolin around on the job.

[tam81]

My husband has been driving now for 8 months. He gets home 2 days a week which is great I have arranged my work schedule so that we can have the2 days a week with each other. I trust my husband completely and I have gone with him for a few days and the women at the yard are of no threat to me that is by far the problem. My husband seems to have become buddies with a young man who is also a married man with 2 small children and it appears he has taken up with an older woman that works there also and is a driver and has told my husband all of the glorified details of his exploits. My husband in return told me this and now I am going with my husband for the week in 2 weeks and this young man wants to meet me and I just don't know how to keep what I think to myself. My husband said to just keep it to yourself which I will try but all I keep thinking is he is a dirt bag. Do drivers stray like this or is he like I figured a dirt bag?

[duck]

Just me but I would keep my mouth shut. What good can possibly come by saying something to this guy? All it will do is strain the relationship your husband has with him. HE is the one who will se the guy more than you.

Let sleeping dogs lie... and usually a guy like that ends up getting theirs in the end.

YMMV...........

[4roses]

I agree .. saying anything to the dirt bag will only bring grief to your husband .... but I wouldn't think twice about dropping the information to his wife .... and NOT tell her who you are ... but give her 'times and places' ... then leave it up to her to check it out ... giving her the chance to take care of him in the divorce courts. Some company's don't allow drivers to date each other .... this could cost them their job if the company found out. ....

naaaa .... not all truck drivers are dirt bags ... there's alot of them that have pride and loyalty to their family. Its just a job ... if someone is going to cheat .... they'll do it even in a 9-5 job ....

[tam81]

Thank you so much I know enough to keep my mouth shut. And yes he will get his in the end and gets taken for everything he has.I don't know if his company allows this dating thing or what ever u call it maybe its just lust. I guess he is just a husband that don't give a rats .... about his wife and small children. My husband told him to tread lightly because he has a lot more to lose then this divorced woman he is with at least her children are grown and her ex did it to her so I guess she feels she can do it to another mans family.

[Mackman]

is he like I figured a dirt bag?

Yeah he is a DIRT BAG.

[whorutommy]

It not your problem, i was once a young man also. I met my wife in 92 and married her in 94. And as a most young guys do, i did. I felt very guilty after words, being i had a child with her. But after 2 yr.s of crossin the fence and c-ing the grass aint greener.. I dedicated myself to her! She to this day is the most important person in my life!

[Windwalker]

As ROSES says. I would have no problem telling his wife about his adventures. Even today, as advanced and knowledgeable as we claim to be, there is still a lot of false information about STD's. What you've brought up is a very serious topic. And, saying something to him will do nothing. But to give you an example...

12 years ago, I worked at a company with another driver. He was always saying that if you do it straight, you'll get AIDS. If you go "oral", you won't, because the virus can not live in the stomach acids. Last November, he was buried. He died of AIDS. Two months ago, his wife was also buried. She also died of AIDS. He got it through oral sex and brought it home to her.

I would try to let his wife know what he's doing. She deserves the option to chose whether she wants to take the risk or not. If this guy is fooling around with another driver, then she's not the only one he's getting close to. It puts his wife at risk. No, he's not a "dirt-bag". The vocabulary to describe how low he is has not been invented yet.