No need to fear the Dr. is here... right this way.

[Dr. CAD]

So,,,,,, What seems to be the problem?








Aww..... yes Change...... That's very difficult topic for many. I'd say many of you are experiencing the effects of change and are not adapting to it.

First let me start by saying ..... You have come to the right thread.

Let me see if I can ease your disstress by explaining to you the processes of change.

There am 6 steps in the process of a healthy person's reaction to personal change.

An emotionally healthy person will go through all of these steps, although the time may vary on how much each person spends on each step.
If you fail to go through each of these steps you will likely be missing an important part of the mending process. It is higly likely you will have to go back later to it so I suggest you not skip one.

1. Emotional Standstill....... The first reaction we usually have to a major change is shock.

"Oh No!" or we will say, " How did it happen?" When?" In shock there is gap between rational thinking and emotional thinking. Even if the change is expected, as in a death or divorce the element of shock is still there.


2. Denil and Anger. ........ Often when faced with major tradegy, people often say," I just don't believe it!" Although they will except it in their minds what has happened, the will continue to deny it with their emotions. Idealy, this denial period is short lived but some take longer then others. Keep this in mind. Often denial is replace with Anger, the feeling of being a victim or helpless. I advise that anger is expressed in a way that will not harm others.

3. Helplessness........ With the helplessness step the process of suffering from the " ending" of something is taking place. Often we are afraid of " bottoming out" because despair is the end result. Many people will do almost anything to keep from feeling "despair". Thus mistakes are often made in this step. Either we try to share too much of ourselves or we retreat into isolation. Both extremes are destructive, quick ways to lose friends and essentially self defeating. I advise against either.

4. Bottoming Out....... For the first time since the event you should find yourself able to " Let Go" of the emotional burden that's been weighing you down. NO more shock, denial, and anger they are only memories to you now.

5. Experimenting..... Now that we have "bottomed out" We are well on our way to recovery. Start trying new things and meeting new people. Change is often forced on us but the Dr. says Learn to thrive on change.

6. Completion.... Better know as "rebirth" or "new beginnings" the term may sound a bit overdramatic but it is accurate. Have a new perspective, regression is common but the event should move far from your active memory.



Questions?

[Rev.Vassago]

Now boys and girls are there any questions?

Just one.


Was proper grammar not part of your medical training?


(insert winking smiley here, since I have no idea what the new smiley codes are)

[Dr. CAD]

Just one.


Was proper grammar not part of your medical training?


(insert winking smiley here, since I have no idea what the new smiley codes are)

Actually it was, but computer glitches were not I'm afraid. I was kicked off the forum about 4x before I posted.

Now do you want to question me on my grammar, my motive, or my knowledge?


If so fire at will. :cool:

[RebelDarlin]

Actually it was, but computer glitches were not I'm afraid. I was kicked off the forum about 4x before I posted.

Now do you want to question me on my grammar, my motive, or my knowledge?


If so fire at will. :cool:

Well if you can't help with the computer glitches, I'm afraid you aren't much help Doc. :rolleyes: See it isn't so much what was changed, as much as it was how it was changed and the fact that some things don't work. And your psycho-babble isn't going to help FIX anything now is it?

[Roadhog]

Oh...by the way...:cool:
we're planning to migrate to vBulletin...
just a heads up...
regards Hog

http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/1199633934022.gif

[RebelDarlin]

Oh...by the way...:cool:
we're planning to migrate to vBulletin...
just a heads up...
regards Hog

http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/1199633934022.gif



Thanks for the warning.:D I love that clip!:eek:

[Dr. CAD]

Well if you can't help with the computer glitches, I'm afraid you aren't much help Doc. :rolleyes: See it isn't so much what was changed, as much as it was how it was changed and the fact that some things don't work. And your psycho-babble isn't going to help FIX anything now is it?

Well rebeldarlin,

The site problems are a fact of life, my dear. Online and in real life things happen and not usualy the way we want them to. Unfortunatley the level of anxiety you displayed is far and above my paygrade. My professional opinion would be to take two" ativan" and report immediately to your nearest inpatient mental facility.

If you need a referal let me know. I'd me happy help you on your way to recovery.

[RebelDarlin]

Well rebeldarlin,

The site problems are a fact of life, my dear. Online and in real life things happen and not usualy the way we want them to. Unfortunatley the level of anxiety you displaced is far and above my paygrade. My professional opinion would be to take two" ativan" and report immediately to your nearest inpatient mental facility.

If you need a referal let me know. I'd me happy help you on your way to recovery.

I do believe diagnosing and prescribing medications online is illegal, isn't it? So peddle it somewhere else Doc.

Secondly if you have nothing helpful to say, which you obviously don't, STOP TALKING!

[Dr. CAD]

I do believe diagnosing and prescribing medications online is illegal, isn't it? So peddle it somewhere else Doc. Just for future reference, to diagnosis I would need to objectively exam a patient, and have multiple tests to confirm and properly treat someone. But a prognosis on the other hand is but an educated guess.

If I struck a nerve, then perhaps I am spot on. I am permitted to give educated guesses.
If you wish to give legal advice then you might want to know your subject matter.

Secondly if you have nothing helpful to say, which you obviously don't, STOP TALKING!
Well rebel,

I am not talking I am typing. So STOP TALKING really isn't relevant now is it?
Are you hearing voices? You should make sure you let your primar care physician know about that.

[vavega]

rev,

user CP

at the bottom is message editor interface

change from the default of basic editor to either standard or WYSIWYG and they'll come back. they look like the teletubbies designed them, so the smiley 5 project (http://www.smileyxtra.co.uk/) helps a lot. http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h276/DianneOnly/wink3.gif

[vavega]

oh and dr. cad? will you be adding a shout out feature?

[RebelDarlin]

Just for future reference, to diagnosis I would need to objectively exam a patient, and have multiple tests to confirm and properly treat someone. But a prognosis on the other hand is but an educated guess.

If I struck a nerve, then perhaps I am spot on. I am permitted to give educated guesses.
If you wish to give legal advice then you might want to know your subject matter.

Well rebel,

I am not talking I am typing. So STOP TALKING really isn't relevant now is it?
Are you hearing voices? You should make sure you let your primar care physician know about that.

Oh yeah you struck a nerve. You hit the one that triggers my utter disdain for arrogant azzhats like yourself. It is illegal to impersonate a Dr., it is also illegal to prescribe Ativan or any other medication without examining someone and since you will never examine me, keep your meds and your educated guesses where the sun don't shine Doc.

BTW this is a Truckers message board, so your psycho BS babble is irrelevant. Go play doctor somewhere else.


Note to Admins: Please start clearing out the Mults and Spammers as soon as possible. Thank you!

[Dr. CAD]

oh and dr. cad? will you be adding a shout out feature?

It's and idea to consider but I think some need to find their happy place first.

[Rev.Vassago]

Now do you want to question me on my grammar, my motive, or my knowledge?

No. I have no need, nor desire, to play with mults.

[golfhobo]

Well rebeldarlin,

The site problems are a fact of life, my dear. Online and in real life things happen and not usualy the way we want them to. Unfortunatley the level of anxiety you displayed is far and above my paygrade.

Really?? Well then,

My professional opinion would be ....

IRRELEVANT!

If you need a referal let me know.

Why? You get an extra scoop of ice cream with your meds?

I'd me happy [sic] help you on your way to recovery.

Yeah.... just as soon as YOU get out of rehab!
:rolleyes:



Is this 10 letters long?

[RebelDarlin]

About Dr. CAD
Biography Psuedo PhD



I see Dr. Feelgood had the sense to change his info. I guess someone convinced him that impersonating a Dr. (even on the internet) is illegal. :rolleyes:

[Roadhog]

About Dr. CAD
Biography Psuedo PhD
I see Dr. Feelgood had the sense to change his info. I guess someone convinced him that impersonating a Dr. (even on the internet) is illegal. :rolleyes:
http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/DrPhil.gif

What makes you believe this Doctor is a male?

Anyway, thing is...we do understand people coming here under a new user name, because of the migration difficulties we all experienced. There is no need for that any longer. Let me say... I encourage you to drop the mult, and come back with your original user name.

I know who you all are...even if you try hiding behind 7 Proxies. http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/iconcool5lw.gif

[BigDiesel]

http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/DrPhil.gif

I know who you all are...even if you try hiding behind 7 Proxies. http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/iconcool5lw.gif

Ha !!!

You wanna make a wager on that statement ???

[Scoe]

Is this 10 letters long?


Welcome back my friend, it looks like you picked a bad week to quit (fill in the blank) .

[Dr. CAD]

Dr. CAD is Trukrswyfe…..

I didn’t mult maliciously but due to log in problems like everyone else.
Forgive me for using my imagination with a unique username I should have carbon copied my old one.
If my poor spelling and bad grammar didn’t give me away then WAKE UP people cause your sleep web surfing.
Thanks for calling me out on the grammar, but the post was an attempt to be helpful.
The info is still sound despite my typing errors.

I guess I should have had a mental break down and hysterically posted all over the board insults to CAD, CAD staff, and added fuel to the fire at the same time pointing members to other sites.
But instead of being part of the problem I tried to help those having a hard time with change, I guess it didn't go over as well as I had hoped.

My Fffin mistake. , chalk that up to life time of them! :cool: (where are the laughing smilie?)

I didn’t flame on anyone but I do operate under these “RULEs OF ENGAGEMENT” Fire only when fired upon… .
The only netiquette rule I broke was spelling errors. Telling me that my lack of computer skills don’t solve the CAD problem is BS.
Even if I had them, I am not authorized to perform any tasks here at CAD and neither are you.

I didn’t break any laws, I didn’t impersonate a Dr. you twit. Do yourself a favor and shut up for a change, you only make yourself sound stupider.
Especially with you continuing to visit my thread and arguing with me, you better believe others know who the fool is, but I like your sig anyway.
It makes me laugh every time I read it.*twisted evil smile*!;)

FYI I prescribed you nothing, not on the web and in person.

Golfhobo :)

Dude your so cool, where you been? I was missing you. Hey you will always be a silvertongued sweety, sticking up for your lady friend is gentleman like in my book.
There is no accounting for taste. Pick on me if you like, I'm still and always will be a fan.:D

[Dr. CAD]

PS Ladies:

Sorry to disappoint not male here.

5280 is one mile in ft MSL is mean sea level.

Mile High



Better luck next time with the detective work.

[golfhobo]

Welcome back my friend, it looks like you picked a bad week to quit (keeping your mouth shut) .

How's that? :D

[golfhobo]

Dr. CAD is Trukrswyfe…..

D'OH!!! I KNEW I should have stayed out of this one! :eek:

I didn’t flame on anyone but I do operate under these “RULEs OF ENGAGEMENT” Fire only when fired upon… .

What fun is that? Obviously, I prefer to shoot first and ask who got killed later. ;)


Golfhobo:


Dude your so cool, where you been? I was missing you.


I been um...er..... uh...down on the farm (making little rocks out of big ones.)


Hey you will always be a silvertongued sweety, sticking up for your lady friend is gentleman like in my book.


As I have and would always do for you.


Pick on me if you like, I'm still and always will be a fan.


Well, I wasn't picking on you. I wrongly assumed you might be a disgruntled formerly banned member here to stir things up. Not so much from your initial post, but from what followed. You gotta admit, claiming to be a psychologist or whatever, then saying that helping a disturbed person is above your paygrade..... well..... I couldn't pass THAT up! :D

Wow!! I didn't even use my 4th and final smilie!! :cool:

Ooops.

[vavega]

damn

does this mean i won't get my shoutout feature? :eek:

http://img185.imageshack.us/img185/7581/moskingqa5.gif i have to admit you had me fooled. :o good to see you back! :D

p.s.
someone needs to clean out their pm box

[mommee]

scoe-

where's the caveman? that's not the real scoe.:eek: did the caveman learn how to use a razor?:rolleyes: he does clean up well though.

[mommee]

Dr. CAD is Trukrswyfe…..


glad to see you back.

[Trukrswyfe]

Dr. CAD and I (one in the same) or parts of a whole*scratching head* both.

Well I came across this and decided we(I) are(am) in good company when it comes to poor spelling.


I don't see any use in having a uniform and arbitrary way of spelling words. We might as well make all clothes alike and cook all dishes alike. Sameness is tiresome; variety is pleasing. I have a correspondent whose letters are always a refreshment to me, there is such a breezy unfettered originality about his orthography. He always spells Kow with a large K. Now that is just as good as to spell it with a small one. It is better. It gives the imagination a broader field, a wider scope. It suggests to the mind a grand, vague, impressive new kind of a cow.
- speech at a spelling match, Hartford, Connecticut, May 12, 1875. Reported in the Hartford Courant, May 13, 1875



Why, there isn't a man who doesn't have to throw out about fifteen hundred words a day when he writes his letters because he can't spell them! It's like trying to do a St. Vitus dance with wooden legs.
- The Alphabet and Simplified Spelling speech, December 9, 1907



...simplified spelling is all right, but, like chastity, you can carry it too far. So true
- The Alphabet and Simplified Spelling speech, December 9, 1907



I have had an aversion to good spelling for sixty years and more, merely for the reason that when I was a boy there was not a thing I could do creditably except spell according to the book. It was a poor and mean distinction and I early learned to disenjoy it. I suppose that this is because the ability to spell correctly is a talent, not an acquirement. There is some dignity about an acquirement, because it is a product of your own labor. It is wages earned, whereas to be able to do a thing merely by the grace of God and not by your own effort transfers the distinction to our heavenly home--where possibly it is a matter of pride and satisfaction but it leaves you naked and bankrupt.*exactly*
- Mark Twain's Autobiography


I never had any large respect for good spelling. That is my feeling yet. Before the spelling-book came with its arbitrary forms, men unconsciously revealed shades of their characters and also added enlightening shades of expression to what they wrote by their spelling, and so it is possible that the spelling-book has been a doubtful benevolence to us.
- Mark Twain's Autobiography


...ours is a mongrel language which started with a child's vocabulary of three hundred words, and now consists of two hundred and twenty-five thousand; the whole lot, with the exception of the original and legitimate three hundred, borrowed, stolen, smouched from every unwatched language under the sun, the spelling of each individual word of the lot locating the source of the theft and preserving the memory of the revered crime.
- Mark Twain's Autobiography


( and that's all I have to say about that)

[Rev.Vassago]

Tough poo.:p

My analytical mind gets stuck on bad grammar, and therefore the writer's message tends to get lost behind it. After all, if nobody can understand you, then your "freedom and creativity" has just been completely lost in translation.

[Trukrswyfe]

Tough poo.:p not really.

My analytical mind gets stuck on bad grammar, Thank you for sharing. I totally agree.



Spelling is the writing of a word or words with all necessary letters and diacritics present in an accepted standard order. It is one of the elements of orthography and a prescriptive element of language. Most spellings attempt to approximate a transcribing of the sounds of the language into alphabetic letters; however, these phonetic spellings are often exceptional, due to drifts in pronunciations over time and irregular spellings adopted due to common usage.


Grammar is the study of the rules governing the use of a given natural language, and as such a field of linguistics. Traditionally, grammar included morphology and syntax, in modern linguistics commonly expanded by the subfields of phonetics, phonology, orthography, semantics, and pragmatics.


I did that to help your analytical mind.. welcome.


and therefore the writer's message tends to get lost behind it. After all, if nobody can understand you, then your "freedom and creativity" has just been completely lost in translation.Your right. Your right. Your right. Your right. Your right. Your right.

BTW: I spelled (your) wrong on purpose well it isn't misspelled but the word usage is wrong....pst.... my message isn't lost.
I am antagonistic and stubborn too among other things.*smile*

[Rev.Vassago]

Your right. Your right. Your right. Your right. Your right. Your right.

BTW: I spelled (your) wrong on purpose well it isn't misspelled but the word usage is wrong....pst.... my message isn't lost.

Sure was. I never got past the wrong word usage.