Compliments and Men

[mommee]

How do you give a man a compliment without him thinking that you are interested in him or are hitting on him? It seems if you want to say something nice about their clothes or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.

Before gears start turning, I am just asking a general question. There are many men here. I would like your opinion, as well as the females, of course.

okay, now it says "clothes" :wink: :lol:

[Fredog]

How do you give a man a compliment without him thinking that you are interested in him or are hitting on him? unless he is a friend or relativeYOU DONT It seems if you want to say something nice about their dress or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.

Before gears start turning, I am just asking a general question. There are many men here. I would like your opinion, as well as the females, of course.

[Ridge Runner]

That's just a chance that you'll take and it works BOTH ways.

[Roadhog]

You slap him first and say "I want you to pay attention."
Then slap him again...to clear his mind.

Tell him your compliment...then slap him even harder... because you know he only heard what he wanted to hear. :?

Before he recovers...slap him a couple more times...just to be sure.

Then ask him if he is okay and did he understand you. If he smiles...then you need to follow through and put your back into those slaps more. :?

[mommee]

That's just a chance that you'll take and it works BOTH ways.

You're right. OMG, a woman admits a man is right :oops: . I am guilty of thinking the same thing when someone pays me a compliment.

Roadhog-I'll try that next time. When are you in town? :lol:

[Orangetxguy]

You slap him first and say "I want you to pay attention."
Then slap him again...to clear his mind.

Tell him your compliment...then slap him even harder... because you know he only heard what he wanted to hear. :?

Before he recovers...slap him a couple more times...just to be sure.

Then ask him if he is okay and did he understand you. If he smiles...slap him some more. :?

LOL... :shock: :shock: what happens if she be slappin one of them guy's what enjoy's it??? :twisted: :twisted: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[Ridge Runner]

How do you give a man a compliment without him thinking that you are interested in him or are hitting on him? It seems if you want to say something nice about their dress or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.

Before gears start turning, I am just asking a general question. There are many men here. I would like your opinion, as well as the females, of course.


Just a thought......but you might be asking the wrong group here. :lol:

[mommee]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.

[Roadhog]

should I slap myself? :?

[Ridge Runner]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.


Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )

[Orangetxguy]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.


Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )



:shock: :shock: Did YOU really type that Ridge??? :wink: :wink:

[wot i life]

How do you give a man a compliment? It seems if you want to say something nice about their dress or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.

How many blokes do you know that wear dresses then? Cor Lummey! Strewth! You,re from Kent aint ya?

[Ridge Runner]

How do you give a man a compliment? It seems if you want to say something nice about their dress or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.

How many blokes do you know that wear dresses then? Cor Lummey! Strewth! You,re from Kent aint ya?


:lol: :lol: :lol:

[Roadhog]

Calling a mans cloths....Dress...that is English...hey Wot! :lol:

actually we have a lot of men who would like a compliment about their dress.
Me?...I'm just into thongs....so I guess I'm kinda European. :D

You Scootish started it with the dresses and no underwear. Kilts? you call them?...and whats that a fanny pack you wear too? only in the front?

You can take our wives...but you cannae tak our FREEDOM!

Ahhhh the Moon over Scootlund!

[shyykatt]

How do you give a man a compliment without him thinking that you are interested in him or are hitting on him? It seems if you want to say something nice about their dress or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.

Before gears start turning, I am just asking a general question. There are many men here. I would like your opinion, as well as the females, of course.

I'd be concerned if he's wearing a dress :P

[mommee]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.


Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )

http://i212.photobucket.com/albums/cc7/mommee318/thumbnailaspx-1.jpg
Hooters!! :lol: :lol:

THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU GUYS :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

[Scoe]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.


Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )

Ridge, please report to the MAIN OFFICE ASAP!!!! :oops:

[Scoe]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.


Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )

http://i212.photobucket.com/albums/cc7/mommee318/thumbnailaspx-1.jpg
Hooters!! :lol: :lol:

THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU GUYS :mrgreen: :mrgreen:


Please put some clothes on those hooters, ok? :oops: I mean we would like to keep this family friendly. :shock:

[Bandit102]

I actually do once in a while catch a compliment from a female driver. I dress nicely and always look like a professional, never like a slob. Never.

I take the compliment for what its worth, even though I am probably one of the biggest flirts on the planet. Don't open the door too far though...

[Drew10]

Cool! So how about a hooter shot? ( Just kidding )



Hooters!!

THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU GUYS

:shock: :lol: :shock: :lol:

NICE come back mommee, your gonna fit in just fine around here.

[mommee]

I actually do once in a while catch a compliment from a female driver. I dress nicely and always look like a professional, never like a slob. Never.

I take the compliment for what its worth, even though I am probably one of the biggest flirts on the planet. Don't open the door too far though...

My flirting days are over. I try not to open any doors. :wink:

[Bandit102]

Oh. Wow. Were my flirting days ever to be over, I fear that it would be that point in life where there were several people sadly standing around as dirt was thrown over my box.

[pigrider]

If I deem that a compliment is in order, I always start by saying "This is a compliment not a come on, but you look very nice, smell nice or etc". Then I go on about my business.

As far as if they are not friends or family don't give a compliment! That is one of the problems facing our society today, we are afraid to say anything nice to the opposite sex unless it is family or friends!

[Roadhog]

My flirting days are over. I try not to open any doors. :wink:

I'd only be confused and need therapy...if you flirted with me mommee.

But compliments...I'll always want to hear.

...and spank me when I'm bad. http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/smile.gif

[mommee]

If I deem that a compliment is in order, I always start by saying "This is a compliment not a come on, but you look very nice, smell nice or etc". Then I go on about my business.

As far as if they are not friends or family don't give a compliment! That is one of the problems facing our society today, we are afraid to say anything nice to the opposite sex unless it is family or friends!

That's a good way of phrasing things. At least the person will know your intentions or "non-intentions".

[Roadhog]

....what was the question again?

Oh yes.. "How do you give a man a compliment without him thinking that you are interested in him or are hitting on him? It seems if you want to say something nice about their clothes or looks, they usually end up getting the wrong idea.."

[Subtle injection of compliments....see what I'm about to do?] :lol:

That is a great topic by the way. More people should consider making others feel better, and this speaks well of you. I really appreciate kindness like this, as it shows strong character. No matter how lousy the day one is having, a simple heartfelt compliment can make a huge difference. No matter how simple a compliments sounds, when it is given freely, it's chances of being passed on are greater.

Once you begin to develop ways of complimenting, you begin to feel more in control of the expression you wish to paint. I showed some subtle strokes. But learn how you express yourself best. For me...it is obviously with humor.

[humorous compliments make you laugh and one feels twice as good] :lol:

So my art of complimenting generally is based upon my gift of expression. If I wish to compliment the opposite sex, and want her to be flattered or not want her to be flattered...I have developed my art. Humor either way puts people at ease, or allows me to control the expression I wish to portray.

Think of compliments as an art form. No two people are going to communicate exactly alike. Compliments are expression, mainly in communication. But don't forget the overall picture speaks just as loudly. I can compliment with no words what so ever. From a simple smile, and placement of the eyebrows. Just think of all the different smiles you can express, and what you convey. Body language is also part of communication.

As a comic...I have learned timing. Sometimes you should choose the right moment. It is just as well sometimes spontaneous, but you should keep timing as part of the equation. It's said; timing is everything.

I don't compliment as much as I should, but I do offer compliments regularly, and more than average. As with anything, practice makes perfect. It is a life long learning process, we always have room to grow.

Sometimes it is for my own well-being, as I know when ever I make someone else feel better, I feel better myself. So, you can also find spiritual reward, because what you are doing is giving. This adds a huge ingredient to the art of expression.

Most of us learn it first by how someones compliment to us makes us feel. How did they give it? What made it work on you? Ever get a bad compliment? It all begins to add up. When you are a child, you seek compliments from your elders. I wanted more than anything to have my Dad compliment me. He rarely ever did. Don't let this be you. Look around, someone is wanting your approval right now.

Insincere compliments are just short of an insult...and I am sure you know the caution here.

I hope to not avoid giving compliments, because I consider it too great a risk. You can't live life like that. I mean you can, but life could be so much richer, with spending little to nothing, but some of your own time in learning to develop a simple ...yet almost lost art of communication.

In considering complimenting the opposite sex, if you find this more challenging? Then focus your art in this direction. For it to work positively, it has to be from your own heart. I compliment women all the time, who I do not wish to take my compliment wrong. I do not want to hurt someones feelings with a mixed message any more than you...or have someone stalking me. Females should not think men do not share some of the same concerns as women.

Usually not much harm in a compliment, at least not more than an apology or explanation can fix, and we all have to offer those after a dinged compliment at times. Life is always a challenge. :lol:

[Ridge Runner]

I'm definitely asking the right group. You guys will give me honest answers, being "guys".

And now I will pay all of you a compliment. All of you have behaved like quite the gentleman towards me and I thank you for it.


Cool! So how about a hooter shot? :mrgreen: :twisted: ( Just kidding )

Ridge, please report to the MAIN OFFICE ASAP!!!! :oops:

:shock: Whoops!!!! Looks like Roadhog is gong to have a new helper with the clean-up in the moderator lounge. :cry:

[Orangetxguy]

Heck....I got flirted with last week at a Flying J. Pretty 23 year old waitperson!! Made me feel so good! Especially since I was just starting to feel decent after a run with the flu !!


:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: She had a cute tush!! 8)

[Roadhog]

:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: She had a cute tush!! 8)


Tex...I bet you are real savoirfaire with the Ladies. :mrgreen:

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[Sizzle]

Mommee: CUTE HOOTERS!!! The guys put WOW on their trailers to see Hooters. [Whip it out Wens.] The stories they'll tell to see hooters are unbelievable. I should print out those hooters and when I'm asked to show hooters show them the owls. TOO CUTE!!! :) 8) :roll:

[Sizzle]

Roadhog: Quite a dissertation on compliments. Great job!!! I've felt bad in the past because I've had drivers come by my truck and smile real big at me and often they'll say things on the c.b. to me. I usually comment on the c.b. but quite often I've been in a "mood" [not usually moody] but I haven't responded likewise with a smile and the poor guy's smile turned to a frown. I felt so bad-then it's too late to take back a "poor look", once you've projected it.

I compliment both males and females regularly particularly when I see drivers dressed professionally. I'm so used to seeing everyone in jeans and t-shirts that when someone has on dockers [i.e. males] with a nice shirt I always notice and say something. I always notice a nice female shirt since I get sick of what I wear at times. I always compliment them when I see them in really nice shirts, tank tops or other items that I like. I never hesitate to compliment females either because frankly I think we hear more complaints than we do compliments usually. Hence, I realize most people like compliments.

Certainly it isn't appropriate to just be complimenting to flirt. However, when you're not flirting and just wanting to compliiment the opposite sex I think it comes across as sincere. I've actually stopped drivers [male & female] to ask them where they've purchased a particular clothing item. Everyone likes to tell their story about clothing!!!

It's always nice to see a great smile also. Certainly, if we all "paid it forward" this would be a much nicer planet to be on!!! :) 8) :roll:

[mommee]

Yes, we should be a little nicer to each. A compliment to a complete stranger can go a long way. Saying something nice to someone may just may a rotten day better.

[Jackrabbit379]

Yes, we should be a little nicer to each. A compliment to a complete stranger can go a long way. Saying something nice to someone may just may a rotten day better.

Yes, compliments can help someone have a better day.
There is a fine line. Compliments are compliments. For an example.. "Those are nice boots." Nothing wrong with that. Men even tell men how nice their boots are. :lol:
Ladies, I wouldnt advise you to walk up to a man, and say, "You look really handsome in those Wranglers." That would not be good. :shock: :P That might get yall in trouble. :lol:

[mommee]

Yes, compliments can help someone have a better day.
There is a fine line. Compliments are compliments. For an example.. "Those are nice boots." Nothing wrong with that. Men even tell men how nice their boots are. :lol:
Ladies, I wouldnt advise you to walk up to a man, and say, "You look really handsome in those Wranglers." That would not be good. :shock: :P That might get yall in trouble. :lol:

I agree there is a fine line. I guess it's how you word it. Don't need to get into trouble, unless your looking for it and he really does look good in those Wranglers. :wink: :lol:

[Ridge Runner]

Ridge: Throwing buckets of COLD water on 'um. :P

[Roadhog]

Don't need to get into trouble, unless your looking for it and he really does look good in those Wranglers. :wink: :lol:

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I almost chose that as my avatar but the blinking crap seemed original.

[Jumbo]

Yes, we should be a little nicer to each. A compliment to a complete stranger can go a long way. Saying something nice to someone may just may a rotten day better.

How about just saying thankyou when a guy who goes into a building before you holds the door open for you. If I go into a building and someone is behind me i will always hold the door, and for the most part guys will thankyou and girls won't.

[mommee]

I always say thank you when someone hold the door for me. I am usually pushing the stroller, so I am grateful to people who do that. You would be surprised how many people have used another door and walked by while I struggled to get the stroller through the door. :shock:

It's just good manners to say 'thank you'.

[Jumbo]

I held the door for an older lady one time and in a loud voice she told me "I don't need you to hold a door open for me" My lovely and talented wife told her in a louder voice that "He doesn't know any better, He's a gentleman"

[Slimland]

One of the problems now days is-- I was holding a door open for a woman one time.. She said thankyou --her voice was sweet.. I said your welcome mame, to which she replied "I am not a woman" :shock: :?

She was a woman, though not the prettiest, none the less she was a she..

As for complements, I see nothing wrong with them. But sadly this day and age, you have to make sure that they are informed it is nothing more than a complement..
When I am told a complement, and I know not the person. I personaly tend to think that there is something more.. Is this because I am man, or is there some type of insecurity due to age or knowing I'm ugly. :lol: I don't know!

If I know the person, I take it for what it is... But then again, if someone is all over me, I can't see it--but the wife can. :shock:

[Roadhog]

One good thing you can do is practice on a dog, because they mostly smile and wag their tail, and this will build your confidence.

But when you give a compliment to a person...

"ohhh yer sooo cute...yes you are...ohhh yes you are!"

might not have the same effect. ...just sayin' :?

[Shawnee]

I held the door for an older lady one time and in a loud voice she told me "I don't need you to hold a door open for me" My lovely and talented wife told her in a louder voice that "He doesn't know any better, He's a gentleman"

One thing that really bothers me in this day and age of feminism, is when a woman will almost feel offended when a man tries to do something nice for her. Men like to feel needed. I will always thank someone for holding the door for me. I will let my man help me fix things even though I can do it myself, because it makes him feel important.

[Ridge Runner]

One good thing you can do is practice on a dog, because they mostly smile and wag their tail, and this will build your confidence.

But when you give a compliment to a person...

"ohhh yer sooo cute...yes you are...ohhh yes you are!"

might not have the same effect. ...just sayin' :?


Did you try scratching her behind the ears when you say it?

[wildkat]

I confess I'm not much for giving compliments to either sex if I don't know them fairly well, as I don't wish to been seen as doing a "come on" or whatever, BUT I have witnessed my gorgeous daughter smile & flirt in ways that make ANY many a man, young or old, follow her & pant for more...she is happliy married with usually 2 kids in tow... I must confess it is fun to watch a master...LOL

But, on the other hand, if I do know the person, I will give compliments & flirt to a point. But, everyone knows where I stand. I like nothing better than to watch a man blush! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Matter of fact I managed to make our young dispatcher do same just before New Year's... :lol: I left for Yellowknife on the 28th, so knew I wouldn't see the group till after New Year's so I simply walked into the dispatch office & threw my arms around him, told him how nice he smelled (cause he has the most WONDERFUL cologne :D ) & wished him Happy New Year! The rest of the guys got a big laugh out of it...he blushed like a school girl! All in good fun! rest of them asked what is was like to be hugged up by a truck driver (I'm the one & only gal where I work)! He laughed & saide "thank God it was you"...pointing at me!

[Roadhog]

Here in Northern Michigan it is more of a general compliment, because you can't tell the men and women apart.
The compliments are usually,...Nice fish eh?
Or...nice Deer strike, good yob I tink, not too much meat damaged, eh? :?

[wildkat]

know the feeling roadhog....hmmm is that a man or a woman under all those layers.

Worked with a group once who never, ever saw me out of a pair of grimy coveralls & a hard hat...my long blonde hair was always encased in a hoody protecting me from the incessant wind. Then in the spring the push wondered who let a woman onto the lease (apparently there was some superstion about that), I laughed & said I'd been there all winter! I had been driving the water truck...funny took me a long time to convince them I'd been there all along in that shacked parked in the corner! :lol: :lol: :lol:

[4roses]

roadhog ..
You slap him first and say "I want you to pay attention."
Then slap him again...to clear his mind.

Tell him your compliment...then slap him even harder... because you know he only heard what he wanted to hear.

Before he recovers...slap him a couple more times...just to be sure.

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y28/4roses/lol101.gif You crack me up dude .... oupsssss 8) I hope that isn't taken the wrong way ... :lol: :lol:

Seriously ~ if a Man opens the door for me - which is almost always at a TS ... I kindly look the man in the eyes and say .. 'Wow, there's still a Gentleman around, thank you" .. it always puts a smile on their face. I have no problem expressing my sincere 'thanks' for anything they may do ~ even if I have to ask for their assistance ... And if I am pulled toward their aftershave .. and it turns my head 8) .. I will ask them what their wearing and tell them it's very nice. Never have I ever had a problem with any Man ... once I've given a compliment. It's done without flirting and I don't believe they take it that way either... Men need to know their appreciated and look nice just as woman do ... :wink: ... I'm just being myself ... besides ... no one ever takes me serious anyway :lol: :lol:

[wildkat]

me too Roses, I was raised in an era when Men were...well MEN!

They openend doors for women, offered to help carry your groceries to your car, etc. I STILL appreciate all of that & STILL thank them kindly when they do! :D :D