Female interests re: men?

[Sizzle]

It seems to me whenever I meet men that a majority of them are interested in "certain parts of the female anatomy". It's always a breath of fresh air when a guy says I like someone for their personality or the whole person.

Frankly, I don't look at men in "parts". I think personally that is a "male thing" to break someone down by "parts of the anatomy". I usually hear women say things like, "he's got a great smile", "he has a wonderful personality", "he's short" or "he's tall". Rarely do I hear women stipulate that he must have certain features that appeal to her.

I definitely have preferences but nothing to do with "parts of the male anatomy". It's about personality, sense of humor and I usually like tall or heavier men. Although, there is someone on the board who is average height and weight whom/who I am very close to, I've been talking to for probably acouple months. He knows whom/who I am talking about!

O.K. ladies what's your preference, is it parts or the total package? :) 8) :roll:

[Roadhog]

(Hog disguising his voice to sound female)

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I like a man with a cute butt.....and a foreign accent is nice too....replied S-s-s-sarah.

[kahlana]

Total package... the older i get the more i realise.. its not about the looks so much but the atitude, personality (having one is always so refreshing), and whether or not they are a decent human being. Now i'm not discounting looks altogether cus tall (6' or taller), dark hair, a fit body and a sexy smile are definitely pluses in my book... but if Mr. TallDarknHandsome is a total jerk then no amount of "hottie-ness" can make up for the ugly in his soul.

[Sizzle]

Roadhog: You are just too funny Honey!!! I swear that's what I hear from men all the time is it's all about parts.

You made me laugh as usual. I'm getting absolutely nothing done but playing on C.A.D. I'm supposed to be getting ready to go over to my cousin's for Christmas.

Little does anyone know that I'm playing on C.A.D. I'm sure they'd all be so understanding why I'm not there yet if they knew. HA-HA!!! Well it's nice not having to be responsible for a change and worrying about the rig. I'm glad my biggest responsibility today is wrapping, cooking, cleaning and making it across Denver in the snow storm. Maybe I should get the chains out-NOT!!!

:) 8) :roll:

[Sizzle]

Kahlana: I have been remiss and haven't welcomed you aboard yet. Glad to see another female has arrived in our midst!!! Welcome aboard and happy posting.

Thanks for your response. I too concur about looks. I had a drop dead gorgeous husband who was very narcissistic and it was ONLY ABOUT HIMSELF. I agree that personality ranks up there big time. Particularly a sense of humor. There's a couple of guys on the board that make me laugh everytime I see their posts. They know who there are!!!

Remember when we're old and sitting in our rocking chairs looks don't mean squat, it will be wonderful to have a partner with a sense of humor whom/who can converse on several different topis. By then we probably won't care what we did for professions but we will be interested in what keeps us "active and thinking about the future." :) 8) :roll:

[golfhobo]

(Hog disguising his voice to sound female)

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I like a man with a cute butt.....and a foreign accent is nice too....replied S-s-s-sarah.

Z-z-z-a-r-a-h, ma cherie.... Pourquoi muzd you do zis to moi?? Embarrazz me zees wah? :cry:

Iz not my foh, zat I no have zee plump buttocks!! I fear NOW.... zat you cherchez zat HOG!! Shirley.... HE haz zee big butt!! :shock: :evil:

[kahlana]

Sizzle thanks for the welcome. This board is a lot of fun. I spent most the morning giggling like a schoolgirl at some of the posts. Makes my day to come on here and chat with everyone.

[Sizzle]

Golf: Don't worry Honey. You have all the right parts-the best one being your sense of humor. You and Roadhog need to start a standup routine somewhere.

Although, I guess it would be a toss up where you would start it since you're many states apart.

You are too funny as usual Golfhobo. You and Hog are the funniest two guys on the board. Have a Merry Christmas. My cousins' will be putting out an A.P.B. for me soon. I better logout!

Golf keep up the good work, Honey!!! You too Hog!!! :) 8) :roll:

Sizzle

[golfhobo]

Sizzle said:

Golf: You and Roadhog need to start a standup routine somewhere.

Wouldn't work..... I can NEVER remember Who's on First! :wink:


You are too funny as usual Golfhobo. You and Hog are the funniest two guys on the board.

That's because the OTHER guys have WIVES!!! :shock: :lol:

[Sizzle]

No a little flirting never hurt anyone even married guys. No one has you guys' senses of humor. Think I just made up a word!!! Oh well, no one will know since the spell checker is too sophisticated for us to figure out right? :) 8) :roll:

[golfhobo]

Sizzle thanks for the welcome. This board is a lot of fun. I spent most the morning giggling like a schoolgirl at some of the posts. Makes my day to come on here and chat with everyone.


Never mind! I edited my post out, and sent myself to my room! :shock: :lol:

[terrylamar]

You are too funny as usual Golfhobo. You and Hog are the funniest two guys on the board. Sizzle

Yeah, I find myself laughing at both of them myself. :lol:

[golfhobo]

You are too funny as usual Golfhobo. You and Hog are the funniest two guys on the board. Sizzle

Yeah, I find myself laughing at both of them myself. :lol:

Oh.... NOT AGAIN!!!! Is this REAL blood?? Or is my hotdog leaking?

[kahlana]

Sizzle thanks for the welcome. This board is a lot of fun. I spent most the morning giggling like a schoolgirl at some of the posts. Makes my day to come on here and chat with everyone.


Never mind! I edited my post out, and sent myself to my room! :shock: :lol:

dang.. i always miss the good stuff

[wildkat]

Personally, I prefer a man with the same interests as me, same ideals, morals, goals, etc.

Looks aren't important. My hubby of 10 years, to me, is the best looking guy on the planet, but to most he looks the rough, tough rig pig (the kind you wouldn't want to meet in a dark alley), BUT he cleans up real good! :lol:

We have the same goals, same ideas on life, etc. We are also best friends, we can talk about literally everything! When you get to be our age (nearly 50), that's really important!

He didn't drive a truck when we met over 20 years ago, but he admired my drive & ambition & didn't feel the need to compete with me nor was he intimidated by me (so many are :cry: :cry: ). He operated heavy equipment back then & did until he decided it was time for him to quit working on the rigs (he wasn't home alot) & we bought a second truck last May. We still don't get super amounts of time, but when we do we make the most of it.

Here's a pic my daughter took of us last summer...it's my favorite of all :D :D

http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s160/katparadis/me/KathyClaude2.jpg

[Bandit102]

Any time anyone needs to know what a lady wants in a man, you need look no farther than me. I'll be happy to take any questions you may have at this time.

[wildkat]

oh brother....

:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

lol bandit!! :lol:

[4roses]

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y28/4roses/Hoildaysnags430.jpg

Ok Bandit I'll take the bait ..... What does a woman want in a man? 8) :lol:

[Fredog]

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y28/4roses/Hoildaysnags430.jpg

Ok Bandit I'll take the bait ..... What does a woman want in a man? 8) :lol:


I know what a man wants in a woman wink wink :oops:

[LadyNorthStar]

Thats a great pic Wk.

[golfhobo]

No a little flirting never hurt anyone even married guys. ) 8) :roll:

I didn't say anything about FLIRTING. I said being "married" kills your sense of humor! :wink:

[Bandit102]

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y28/4roses/Hoildaysnags430.jpg

Ok Bandit I'll take the bait ..... What does a woman want in a man? 8) :lol:

Why, me, of course! I thought you knew...

[Sizzle]

O.K. Hobo... I get it now. Thanks for enlightening me! :roll: 8) :)

[wildkat]

Thats a great pic Wk.

Thanks LNS, I really liked it, it was one of the best shots I've ever had of the 2 of us!

Neither one of us cares to much for the posed type of things, casual is the best...tho, I must admit, I DID crop the bottom...LOL

[wildkat]

No a little flirting never hurt anyone even married guys. ) 8) :roll:

I didn't say anything about FLIRTING. I said being "married" kills your sense of humor! :wink:

Now hobo...I beg to differ with you.... :lol: :lol: If being married killed your sense of humour, then you just didn't marry the right woman. According to MY hubby, his sense of humour vastly improved after marrying me... :lol: :lol: :lol: He finds watching me trying to fix things at home VASTLY amusing!!! LMAO

[golfhobo]

No a little flirting never hurt anyone even married guys. ) 8) :roll:

I didn't say anything about FLIRTING. I said being "married" kills your sense of humor! :wink:

Now hobo...I beg to differ with you.... :lol: :lol: If being married killed your sense of humour, then you just didn't marry the right woman. According to MY hubby, his sense of humour vastly improved after marrying me... :lol: :lol: :lol: He finds watching me trying to fix things at home VASTLY amusing!!! LMAO

Wow!! THAT'S the understatement of the decade!! :lol:

Hey.... I meant to tell you.... I don't look much like your hubby, but we DO share the same Ideals, morals and GOALS!!! It just looks like HE got his hands on them first!!! :wink: :wink:

[Don't get mad..... I just couldn't resist!] :oops: :oops: :lol:

[wildkat]

No a little flirting never hurt anyone even married guys. ) 8) :roll:

I didn't say anything about FLIRTING. I said being "married" kills your sense of humor! :wink:

Now hobo...I beg to differ with you.... :lol: :lol: If being married killed your sense of humour, then you just didn't marry the right woman. According to MY hubby, his sense of humour vastly improved after marrying me... :lol: :lol: :lol: He finds watching me trying to fix things at home VASTLY amusing!!! LMAO

Wow!! THAT'S the understatement of the decade!! :lol:

Hey.... I meant to tell you.... I don't look much like your hubby, but we DO share the same Ideals, morals and GOALS!!! It just looks like HE got his hands on them first!!! :wink: :wink:

[Don't get mad..... I just couldn't resist!] :oops: :oops: :lol:

LMAO hobo...yup, yup TAKEN! AND happily so... :lol: :lol: :lol: No offense taken :D :D

[Shawnee]

I have never really thought too much about a man's looks, looks are the least important thing to me. I grew up around some very manly, hardworking men so that's the kind of man I've always looked for, I don't like pretty boys, if a man won't get his hands dirty like me, or if he is afraid of hard work, he's not the man for me.

My man and I get along great, we both come from the same hardworking farming background, we have the same interests, we both like the outdoors, ride snowmobiles together, ride motorcycles together, and we work on our trucks together. His looks were not what attracted me to him, it was his personallity, attitude, and interests.

[wildkat]

I have never really thought too much about a man's looks, looks are the least important thing to me. I grew up around some very manly, hardworking men so that's the kind of man I've always looked for, I don't like pretty boys, if a man won't get his hands dirty like me, or if he is afraid of hard work, he's not the man for me.

My man and I get along great, we both come from the same hardworking farming background, we have the same interests, we both like the outdoors, ride snowmobiles together, ride motorcycles together, and we work on our trucks together. His looks were not what attracted me to him, it was his personallity, attitude, and interests.

AHHHH Shawnee, you are a lady who thinks just like ME! :lol: :lol:
...couldn't have said it better myself! My hubby qipped once that he was suprised I didn't check his teeth before I agreed to go out with him! LOL I once told him a man who could not WORK was useless to me! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[RottsATruckin]

Well, as a man I’d have to slightly disagree about the “parts” thing, on our first date my (future) wife cooked home made pizza, it was then that I realized “hey, I might not always be horny, but I’ll always be hungry” :wink:

[BamaMom]

You know there isn't another female trucker anywhere who has more of my respect than you do, right? However on this subject I have to be honest and let you know I'm as bad as the guys your talking about. There are 'certain parts of the male anatomy' [height and a nice butt] that I just can't make myself stop checking out no matter how hard I try. Ofcourse 'nice teeth' and a 'six pack' will do it for me every time.
Guys are people too........ and any guy who works hard on his looks deserves to be complimented just as a woman does. [I already know you agree on this one].

"Frankly, I don't look at men in "parts". I think personally that is a "male thing" to break someone down by "parts of the anatomy".
Hmmmm, ok. All I can add is perhaps you should pick a day and just try it out. I promise, it can be quite fun.

"I usually hear women say things like, "he's got a great smile", "he has a wonderful personality", "he's short" or "he's tall". Rarely do I hear women stipulate that he must have certain features that appeal to her."
Ok, unless you are hearing me saying "No way... he was so S H O R T i could look him in the eyes and we both know any man that short is really short!"

[mommee]

Well, as a man I’d have to slightly disagree about the “parts” thing, on our first date my (future) wife cooked home made pizza, it was then that I realized “hey, I might not always be horny, but I’ll always be hungry” :wink:

Now I wouldn't mind a man who knew how to cook, but it has to be something that I would eat. :lol:

[RottsATruckin]

Oh I can cook alright! but there’re only a few things my wife will let me prepare for dinner.

[cmegobye]

Give me a 'real' man any time. One who is honest, respectful, funny, kind and employed. (Parts can be purchased along the road.)

[RebelDarlin]

Give me a 'real' man any time. One who is honest, respectful, funny, kind and employed. (Parts can be purchased along the road.)


http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u134/rebeldarlin/laughing-so-hard-ag1.gif


Can you tell us where?

[wildkat]

Give me a 'real' man any time. One who is honest, respectful, funny, kind and employed. (Parts can be purchased along the road.)


http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u134/rebeldarlin/laughing-so-hard-ag1.gif


Can you tell us where?

My thoughts exactly to both of you! :lol: :lol: :lol:

[Roadhog]

http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/cloning.jpg
Slu-r-r-r-p. dig-dig-dig...snuffle snuffle snif...lick.
It may please some of you ladies to know, even though most men are dogs...we can be useful at keeping your lap warm...or fetching stuff.

But if you are just looking for parts... I keep a spare tire, and usually have a loose screw. I have a couple love handles, ...besides my ears. :?
Most of my previous ladyfriends always called me a tool. I'm not just a pretty face...I also have a mind which contains mostly pictures. :)

I mean yer right though. Why buy the whole Bull, just for a little sausage? 8)

I must warn you though. I am an oxymoron. A big baby.. a butt head.. considering sex, as most men, I am a criminal mastermind. Other than that,
I am an honest cheater, filled with random logic, and can thrill you with knowledge about string cheese. :?

[RebelDarlin]

http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l236/Leland10/cloning.jpg
Slu-r-r-r-p. dig-dig-dig...snuffle snuffle snif...lick.
It may please some of you ladies to know, even though most men are dogs...we can be useful at keeping your lap warm...or fetching stuff.

But if you are just looking for parts... I keep a spare tire, and usually have a loose screw. I have a couple love handles, ...besides my ears. :?
Most of my previous ladyfriends always called me a tool. I'm not just a pretty face...I also have a mind which contains mostly pictures. :)

I mean yer right though. Why buy the whole Bull, just for a little sausage? 8)

I must warn you though. I am an oxymoron. A big baby.. a butt head.. considering sex, as most men, I am a criminal mastermind. Other than that,
I am an honest cheater, filled with random logic, and can thrill you with knowledge about string cheese. :?


Is that your ad in the personals? I must have skipped that one....

[Roadhog]

Is that your ad in the personals? I must have skipped that one....

Just as well...I have a feeling, you wouldn't understand me anyway. :?

[RebelDarlin]

Actually it sounds a LOT like some of the men I've dated...but I contend that they didn't understand ME!

[wildkat]

You same as me Reb? Intimidate the hell outta them? :lol: :lol: :lol:

Until I met my hubby, that was my contention...no man understood me, I thought, worked & played too much like them. They just couldn't understand that I didn't need anybody to take care of me, that if I had a man in my life it was cause I wanted him there, not cause I needed him there. I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

[RebelDarlin]

You same as me Reb? Intimidate the hell outta them? :lol: :lol: :lol:

Yup, that's me! At least according to my male friends!

Until I met my hubby, that was my contention...no man understood me, I thought, worked & played too much like them. They just couldn't understand that I didn't need anybody to take care of me, that if I had a man in my life it was cause I wanted him there, not cause I needed him there. I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

Me again! Oh well, maybe someday I'll get as lucky as you WK!

[RottsATruckin]

I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

Dum-da-da-da-la-la-la

I'm not sayin' a thing...

I'm thinking it, but I'm not saying it. :wink:

any of you other guys want this one?

I just got here and don't want to get into trouble, yet.

[wildkat]

Oh brother....

:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

Here we go again.... GIT YER MIND OUTTA THE GUTTER!!!!! LMAO

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Men! HMMM 27 tracks...all lead to the same gutter LOL

[wildkat]

You same as me Reb? Intimidate the hell outta them? :lol: :lol: :lol:

Yup, that's me! At least according to my male friends!

Until I met my hubby, that was my contention...no man understood me, I thought, worked & played too much like them. They just couldn't understand that I didn't need anybody to take care of me, that if I had a man in my life it was cause I wanted him there, not cause I needed him there. I was never good at stroking a guy's ego!

Me again! Oh well, maybe someday I'll get as lucky as you WK!

I am lucky Reb....never thought I'd ever find anyone who'd suit me the way he does...had pretty much given up the whole process as a lost cause...

[Jackrabbit379]

That dog aint right. :|
It's gross lookin. :P :lol:

[Ridge Runner]

That dog aint right. :|
It's gross lookin. :P :lol:

Yea, but he had a purrty mouth. :lol:

[Jackrabbit379]

Ridge Runner, you aint right. :P :lol: :lol:

[Double L]

For being 17 well hell 18, I don't go for looks or parts of the body. What I'm more worried about is personality. I'm a picky guy so don't get me wrong I wouldn't want my wife or gf to smoke or drink. Ok maybe drink once in a while which is what I do not very often though! But what I expect out of the relationship is honest, respect, and faithfulness. I don't tolerate cheaters, abusers, or liars at all. I don't cheat, abuse, or lie so you shouldn't do it to me. I can't stand people who go out with someone for looks or other stupid material things. I mean c'mon looks are not everything, they may look good and be smoking but their personality can be well crap! That is my 2 cents!

[Slimland]

If you want' something to last, and be happy. Don't nag so much, and lift him up. Stroke the ego, don't knock it down.. The man is the head, BUT the woman is the neck, without the neck there is no lifting of the head..
without the head the body cant go in the direction intended.
It is a partnership designed by God. Have any of you who read the bible ever noticed that God tells the man to LOVE the wife. Because we men don't love very well.
But it tells women to Respect their husbands, they already no how to love. But are not that good at respect, and lifting up.

When a wife lifts up her husband, what she is doing is giving him special powers to do what she wants.FOr he fills fulfilled, he feels the king, and he will hunt for her, carress her, Love her, fulfill the needs, Listen to her, and DIE for her. If she puts him down, and nags what she is doing is shutting him down, and he becomes less noticing, and not carring. And eventualy it will be all he can take, and he will stray or leave untill he finds someone who will be the neck to hold him up, a body that will accept him.

just my 2 cents take it for what it is worth to you.
Slimland

[Trukrswyfe]

If you want' something to last, and be happy. Don't nag so much, and lift him up. Stroke the ego, don't knock it down.. The man is the head, BUT the woman is the neck, without the neck there is no lifting of the head..
without the head the body cant go in the direction intended.
It is a partnership designed by God. Have any of you who read the bible ever noticed that God tells the man to LOVE the wife. Because we men don't love very well.
But it tells women to Respect their husbands, they already no how to love. But are not that good at respect, and lifting up.

When a wife lifts up her husband, what she is doing is giving him special powers to do what she wants.FOr he fills fulfilled, he feels the king, and he will hunt for her, carress her, Love her, fulfill the needs, Listen to her, and DIE for her. If she puts him down, and nags what she is doing is shutting him down, and he becomes less noticing, and not carring. And eventualy it will be all he can take, and he will stray or leave untill he finds someone who will be the neck to hold him up, a body that will accept him.

just my 2 cents take it for what it is worth to you.
Slimland

I agree with you 100% Slim, I understand that the sound of my voice does two things to my husband. If I am just casually talking it puts him to sleep. I am complaining(B!@@##$#) it is like the sound of a dripping faucet as the Bible says never ceasing.

So women might ask her self well what am I to do then. If I don't tell him, he won't know. The answer. Tell the Lord. 1. He wants to listen to you, go on and on and on. 2. The Lord speaks better to your husband then any words that you could ever say. 3. Then your husband will want to hear you and should say so. If you are always telling him this and that he will be " Shut up woman" But if you are quiet He will say " Whatya thinkin"

TW

[Drew10]

Excellent replys, Slimland and TW: Just to want to elaborate, these are some of my favorites from the Bible...

Ephesians 5:25.."Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her...."

Christs love is unconditional...Unconditional love is an action given. This love is not a feeling. (IMO, what we "feel" as love is really lust. Within in a marriage, acting on the feeling of "Love" (lust) is good.

This is how we should Love our wifes....Unconditionally, all is an action:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

[4roses]

:) I've tried 2 times to post a reply ~ guess my Higher Being is telling me what I want to express is not in my best interest right now :lol: ... so I'll just say for now !~ I agree with what Drew said ...

Drew ..1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

" It is not rude, it is not self-seeking" ................ no WHERE does it say anything about 'stroking a man's ego' ... :roll: ..

I know Slimline your NOT putting the blame on the lady if her man cheats or strays .... Right ? .... if so, that's hogwash .... We are to honor, love and care for each other. If one person in the relationship strays it could be - - they married for the wrong reasons ... and have nothing to do with Who they married . ......... I could say more but I'm afraid I'll come across more angry than I really am. After being cheated on by someone that I adored, gave him a home to live in, washed his clothes, cooked for him, told him daily how good/great he was to me .... he still cheated :!: I REFUSE to take responsiblity for his cheating :x

that's just my 2cents worth :wink:

[wildkat]

Way to go Rose, sometimes...well let's just say it dies... any relationship takes work, ALOT of work & not matter what or who if both of you are not willing to work at it...it eventually dies.

In my experience, & truly this is not a knock at men, men tend to want things to stay the same..Women on the other hand are constantly growing & changing, that, guys, is just simply how we are wired.

I hear constantly from men, "She's just not the same woman I married"..well DUHHH, of course we aren't :!: :!:

So, if any relationship is to last you MUST grow together...not apart. :D

Just my 2 cents worth!

[Trukrswyfe]

:) I've tried 2 times to post a reply ~ guess my Higher Being is telling me what I want to express is not in my best interest right now :lol: ... so I'll just say for now !~ I agree with what Drew said ...

Drew ..1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

" It is not rude, it is not self-seeking" ................ no WHERE does it say anything about 'stroking a man's ego' ... :roll: ..

No but what it does say that in a marriage your body is not your own. If my husband wants his ego stroked or whatever It is OK to do that.

Im not saying you have to as every man and woman are unique and individual with their needs. But in a marriage It is my job to find out what his needs are and to the best of my ability do that. No one is perfect and no one can meet all your needs save the Lord. The beauty of marriage is if both parties say they are willing to try.

With the divorce rate it is clear this is not always happening but I still would like to encourage those to try.


I am sorry if what you think I am giving an excuse to men here. I am most definitely am not. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and they will be judged, by themselves with no one to blame.


I know Slimline your NOT putting the blame on the lady if her man cheats or strays .... Right ? .... if so, that's hogwash .... We are to honor, love and care for each other. If one person in the relationship strays it could be - - they married for the wrong reasons ... and have nothing to do with Who they married . ......... I could say more but I'm afraid I'll come across more angry than I really am. After being cheated on by someone that I adored, gave him a home to live in, washed his clothes, cooked for him, told him daily how good/great he was to me .... he still cheated :!: I REFUSE to take responsiblity for his cheating :x

I am sure not saying that. so Sorry Roses if I came off that way. I hope that clears things up and not stirs them up futher.
that's just my 2cents worth :wink:


Say the word and I will delete the post. Not meant to be harmful or hurtful to anyone in anyway.

My apologize Roses,,,Please except.

TW

[4roses]

Truckswyfe .... oh NO friend .... Your just fine :wink: .... and I do agree with all your saying here ....

But in a marriage It is my job to find out what his needs are and to the best of my ability do that. No one is perfect and no one can meet all your needs save the Lord.

100% agree with you :!: ... it's just when males think it's all our fault ~ the ladies~ when they stray because we didn't stroke their ego. That's what gets me upset ...... it's a 2-way street in a relationship ... it's not ... IF I stroke his ego - THEN he will love me and be loyal to me . And I don't stroke it enough he will stray :roll: ....

Truckswyfe please continue to speak up ... I like your thoughts on many subjects ... you seem to have the right idea with several area's here ... Who knows, maybe I could learn something from you too :wink:

[wildkat]

Truckswyfe .... oh NO friend .... Your just fine :wink: .... and I do agree with all your saying here ....

But in a marriage It is my job to find out what his needs are and to the best of my ability do that. No one is perfect and no one can meet all your needs save the Lord.

100% agree with you :!: ... it's just when males think it's all our fault ~ the ladies~ when they stray because we didn't stroke their ego. That's what gets me upset ...... it's a 2-way street in a relationship ... it's not ... IF I stroke his ego - THEN he will love me and be loyal to me . And I don't stroke it enough he will stray :roll: ....

Truckswyfe please continue to speak up ... I like your thoughts on many subjects ... you seem to have the right idea with several area's here ... Who knows, maybe I could learn something from you too :wink:

You said it all right there Rose....

Two way street is definitely is....

Life is just that Rose...a learning experience....we learn as we go... & hopefully learn NOT to repeat our mistakes! :D :D

[Bandit102]

Simland, that was a beautiful reply. I've never heard it put so well, your response was inspiring. Thank you.

[Slimland]

:) I've tried 2 times to post a reply ~ guess my Higher Being is telling me what I want to express is not in my best interest right now :lol: ... so I'll just say for now !~ I agree with what Drew said ...

Drew ..1 Corinthians 13:4-8...Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

" It is not rude, it is not self-seeking" ................ no WHERE does it say anything about 'stroking a man's ego' ... :roll: ..

I know Slimline your NOT putting the blame on the lady if her man cheats or strays .... Right ? .... if so, that's hogwash .... We are to honor, love and care for each other. If one person in the relationship strays it could be - - they married for the wrong reasons ... and have nothing to do with Who they married . ......... I could say more but I'm afraid I'll come across more angry than I really am. After being cheated on by someone that I adored, gave him a home to live in, washed his clothes, cooked for him, told him daily how good/great he was to me .... he still cheated :!: I REFUSE to take responsiblity for his cheating :x

that's just my 2cents worth :wink:

Who is Slimline?? :lol:
Roses after all these years, you should know me better than that! I cannot believe you got that out of what I had put down..
Let me explain!
Husbands LOVE your wife's. Simple to the point, and Drew already put the scripture down.. We men have a problem with love, I know I do.. We equate love with lust.. and they are compleetly diffrent, but yet go hand in hand.
Each person has a certain Love language.. FOr example: I like to be told that I am loved by my spouse, I like the simple touching, like her hand on my chest, or the soft brush of her fingertips on my back and neck. This tells me she loves me.
Her love language is for me to listen to her, without trying to fix a problem, just listen with a carring ear. And to help around the house.

The first of her love language is extreemly hard for me to do. the second I can accomplish.
Now for RESPECT, what I mean by this -- is -- Lift him up, tell him what makes him so good, tell him he's hansom, smells good, is a good father and husband. in essence tell him how great he is, and leave it at that.. Don't add any but, cause when you add a but, you know will put him down. and then that is when we will stop listening, and an argument will happen. Men are not as complex as women, you respect us, it strokes our ego automaticaly. Yes it goes to our heads, but that is what you want', for when we are full of ourself's from our women, then we are unstopable, and you mam will get done, what you want done!

A man who leave's this kind of care from a woman, is flat out STUPID!!!!

Now to love a woman-- THis one is hard so bear with me..
Honor her by helping her around the house, and show her appreciation for what she has done. How? Romance her, give her a foot rub, back rub, etc, without wanting anything in return.hmm youknow what I mean.!
Talk to her and listen, don't give advice unless she specificaly ask for it. Hold her, this is a powerful thing. THere is more to love a woman, but as I said, it is hard to explain for Women are Complex.

Roses this man you took care of and loved.. Left you becuase He did not Love you. He used you. You did what you did, and from what you tell me, did nothing wrong.. And toward the end, I am sure you where angry and hurt. You had every right to be..!
What I meant by a man leaving is a spouse who nags, and put him down all the time.. Reread what I said, I think you missunderstood..!

Your friend
Slimland

[4roses]

Slimland if I miss understood you ~ I'm sorry ... it's easy to missunderstand someones thoughts when we have to put it down in words in this cyberworld .............. I knew this didn't sound like the person (you) I thought I knew for quite some time ... guess I'm still a bit bitter about being 'used' by someone I cared deeply for. When I thought I was doing all I could to feed his ego. :wink: ... sorry I missed understood you :) ........... 'friends still I hope' ..http://deephousepage.com/smilies/itsokay.gif

[mommee]

Slimland-

Now I understand what you were saying. I have to admit I had trouble at first, but I get it. All you say are true about how we can show love to one another. I think my husband is getting it slowly. I have told him we are parents, plural. Most of the time I have felt as if I was a single parent. He helps more around the house. I in turn have tried to tell him what a better job he has been doing around the house and kids, etc.

[Slimland]

Slimland if I miss understood you ~ I'm sorry ... it's easy to missunderstand someones thoughts when we have to put it down in words in this cyberworld .............. I knew this didn't sound like the person (you) I thought I knew for quite some time ... guess I'm still a bit bitter about being 'used' by someone I cared deeply for. When I thought I was doing all I could to feed his ego. :wink: ... sorry I missed understood you :) ........... 'friends still I hope' ..http://deephousepage.com/smilies/itsokay.gif

Roses-- A friend Loves at all times.

Yes you missunderstood me, but I even misunderstand myself sometimes.. :?
I dont blame you for being bitter, you stroked this guy's ego, he left, He's stupid. Plan and simple.
You will find someone who realy loves you, and when you do, don't become jaded for what this guy has done to you, Not all men are like that..
I if I wern't married, would take someone who treated me with respect and love over any supermodel anyday.
As we get older our priority's change, we don't seem to look at the outward apearances as much as we used to, we tend to look at the inward. Which is as it should be.. We want the one's who we can joke with, tell our fantasies to without jelousy. A friend who is not only a friend but a lover, and someone who will be thier for better or for worse. No matter.
That person is out there for you, He might not be handsome, but he might. But his personality and love will cover that area.

Slimland

[Slimland]

Slimland-

Now I understand what you were saying. I have to admit I had trouble at first, but I get it. All you say are true about how we can show love to one another. I think my husband is getting it slowly. I have told him we are parents, plural. Most of the time I have felt as if I was a single parent. He helps more around the house. I in turn have tried to tell him what a better job he has been doing around the house and kids, etc.

Sometimes I put things where only men can understand, at least that what my wife tells me..
I call it the simple. She tells me it needs to be more complex for women to understand it. :lol:

But I think the Word says it clearly and to the point.
Men LOVE your wife's as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it.
Women Respect your husbands. For Sarah respected Abraham, to the point of calling him lord.

I am not saying you should call your husband lord, that was just the way it was back then. So don't beat me. :shock: :lol:

[Windwalker]

Slimland-

Now I understand what you were saying. I have to admit I had trouble at first, but I get it. All you say are true about how we can show love to one another. I think my husband is getting it slowly. I have told him we are parents, plural. Most of the time I have felt as if I was a single parent. He helps more around the house. I in turn have tried to tell him what a better job he has been doing around the house and kids, etc.

Sometimes I put things where only men can understand, at least that what my wife tells me..
I call it the simple. She tells me it needs to be more complex for women to understand it. :lol:

But I think the Word says it clearly and to the point.
Men LOVE your wife's as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it.
Women Respect your husbands. For Sarah respected Abraham, to the point of calling him lord.

I am not saying you should call your husband lord, that was just the way it was back then. So don't beat me. :shock: :lol:

For me, it's really very simple...

A WOMAN IS TO A MAN AS A FLOWER IS TO A WOMAN

Now, watch and see how a woman nurtures her plants in the flower garden. She talks to them, and does her best to give them what they need., And what a woman should be getting from a man sort of parallels that. I do not understand how a man can say he loves a woman, and beat the holy crap out of her. I've yet to see a woman take a WEED-WHACKER to a bed of roses. Yet, husbands and boy-friends seem to be beating up on women all the time.

Did I say boy-friends or boy-fiends???

[mommee]

For me, it's really very simple...

A WOMAN IS TO A MAN AS A FLOWER IS TO A WOMAN

Now, watch and see how a woman nurtures her plants in the flower garden. She talks to them, and does her best to give them what they need., And what a woman should be getting from a man sort of parallels that. I do not understand how a man can say he loves a woman, and beat the holy crap out of her. I've yet to see a woman take a WEED-WHACKER to a bed of roses. Yet, husbands and boy-friends seem to be beating up on women all the time.

Did I say boy-friends or boy-fiends???

From what I understand, when a man beats his 'other', it's about power. He feels inferior in some way, so he has to make himself feel superior. By beating his wife/GF, he then feels better because someone else is weaker than he is.

[Double L]

Windwalker don't forget that domestic abuse can be caused by women hitting men too, So it works both ways!

[4roses]

Windwalker A WOMAN IS TO A MAN AS A FLOWER IS TO A WOMAN

That was simply the most beautiful way of expressing it. Love it :wink:

[Windwalker]

Thanks, Roses. I can't take credit for that as my own. It was something I heard from my father many years ago. Something I never forgot.

But, I also have another thought for all of you.

Even if you have not been married, you've very likely been to a wedding in church. Do you remember the wording of the vows, word for word?

The man's vow says: "LOVE, HONOR, AND CHERISH."

The woman's vow says: "LOVE HONOR AND OBEY."

Now, I'll grant you that a lot of men do not manage to keep that "CHERISH" thing for a lifetime, but tell me just how many women do not manage to keep the "OBEY" thing going through their wedding day?

Now, when my wife and I got married, there was no "OBEY" in either of our vows, and so neither of us has to obey the other, but we don't seem to have any problem keeping going with the "CHERISH" thing.

Another thing I've found. My wife is not perfect, and neither am I. But, she's smart enough to know her faults. Lord knows, the guys she's been married to in the past reminded her of them often enough. I don't have to. I simply concentrate on her GOOD QUALITIES, and I'm not even going to try to list them here. But, it makes the marriage work a whole lot better, and she feels so much better about herself, that... Well.... It's almost like "STROKING" my ego almost seems to come naturally to her too. If you don't concentrate on your spouse's faults so much, you have more time to discover more of the good qualities. And it does FAR MORE good.

[Drew10]

Alright Windwalker, your making the rest of us (men) look bad. :P

Honestly, though, sounds like you and yours have a great marriage, and you seem to hold the "key" to what really makes a marriage work. Keep up the good work. :)

[Slimland]

Thanks, Roses. I can't take credit for that as my own. It was something I heard from my father many years ago. Something I never forgot.

But, I also have another thought for all of you.

Even if you have not been married, you've very likely been to a wedding in church. Do you remember the wording of the vows, word for word?

The man's vow says: "LOVE, HONOR, AND CHERISH."

The woman's vow says: "LOVE HONOR AND OBEY."

Now, I'll grant you that a lot of men do not manage to keep that "CHERISH" thing for a lifetime, but tell me just how many women do not manage to keep the "OBEY" thing going through their wedding day?

Now, when my wife and I got married, there was no "OBEY" in either of our vows, and so neither of us has to obey the other, but we don't seem to have any problem keeping going with the "CHERISH" thing.

Another thing I've found. My wife is not perfect, and neither am I. But, she's smart enough to know her faults. Lord knows, the guys she's been married to in the past reminded her of them often enough. I don't have to. I simply concentrate on her GOOD QUALITIES, and I'm not even going to try to list them here. But, it makes the marriage work a whole lot better, and she feels so much better about herself, that... Well.... It's almost like "STROKING" my ego almost seems to come naturally to her too. If you don't concentrate on your spouse's faults so much, you have more time to discover more of the good qualities. And it does FAR MORE good.

This is spoken with great insight and is the Truth , well done WindWalker.

[Windwalker]

From what I understand, when a man beats his 'other', it's about power. He feels inferior in some way, so he has to make himself feel superior. By beating his wife/GF, he then feels better because someone else is weaker than he is.

Now, there again. Superior... Infurior... How about, think of it as an equal and complimentary PARTNERSHIP. She has certain talents that she can do better, and he has talents that he can do better. They may overlap, but not all are the same. Ever see, or hear of, a man giving birth to a baby? Or how about a woman getting anybody else pregnant? Without the two of them getting together, there would be no kids and no future.

She cooks and I fix the car. She's working with the grandkids, I do the cooking. (And, the grandkids like my cooking better. So what.) But, you should see when I try my hand at knitting... The cat does a better job with the ball of yarn. The guys have tp accept the fact that there are some areas where the woman will excell. In other areas, the man will excell. Just the way of nature.

So, SUPERIOR? IN WHAT? Brute force? All he has to do is stand next to the woman to prove that. That might have meant something back when they used logs for wheels and mastadons to pull it, instead of 18-wheelers, but not today.

Let me know when you see a woman take a WEED-WHACKER to her rose garden. Unless she's coming after him with a gun or a knife, that's how often a man should hit a woman. It's as simple as that.

[Roadhog]

I've had plenty of weed wacker attacks.
I have mated up with Barracudas more than once. I am more attracted to the too hot to handle type. So, I am not complaining, but let me tell you, ladies I have known can be just as aggressive as any man.

One example, she was a very gorgeous hot-blooded Greek. Her name was even exotic... Zaharula. Oh, man, I still stand in awe of this woman. But she was so fiery, she would make most Italian, or Spanish wimmin seem like a cow chewing her cud.
I finally dumped her, because her drama was escalating into defcon 1. Actually, I think I dumped her a couple times earlier and allowed her back if she'd control herself somewhat. Anyway, the last time I dumped her, she came back on my birthday, and I entertained her as a gentleman, but kept telling her no, sorry, it's over. She gave me a birthday present, and insisted, when I said I didn't want to lead her on, by accepting any gift. I graciously accepted finally, and once I did, and still refused to take her back... I was a dead man. She destroyed the gift, then started in on me, and busted up some more of my things, and I tried to control her, and she got more violent, taking gouges of flesh off my face with those once beautiful ass scratching nails, beating my chest with her fists and lit my hair on fire. :shock:
I go the hell out of there, and stood outside, as she then took my guitar and used it to smash up the rest of my stuff. Well, long story short, it was the last time I opened my door to her. She did do all my friends in a final effort to hurt me, but it actually made me more popular with my Bro's. :lol:

I seem to find these wimmin, and frankly think God bless them. It's worth the loss of blood. 8)

[mommee]

From what I understand, when a man beats his 'other', it's about power. He feels inferior in some way, so he has to make himself feel superior. By beating his wife/GF, he then feels better because someone else is weaker than he is.

Now, there again. Superior... Infurior... How about, think of it as an equal and complimentary PARTNERSHIP. She has certain talents that she can do better, and he has talents that he can do better. They may overlap, but not all are the same. Ever see, or hear of, a man giving birth to a baby? Or how about a woman getting anybody else pregnant? Without the two of them getting together, there would be no kids and no future.

She cooks and I fix the car. She's working with the grandkids, I do the cooking. (And, the grandkids like my cooking better. So what.) But, you should see when I try my hand at knitting... The cat does a better job with the ball of yarn. The guys have tp accept the fact that there are some areas where the woman will excell. In other areas, the man will excell. Just the way of nature.

So, SUPERIOR? IN WHAT? Brute force? All he has to do is stand next to the woman to prove that. That might have meant something back when they used logs for wheels and mastadons to pull it, instead of 18-wheelers, but not today.

Let me know when you see a woman take a WEED-WHACKER to her rose garden. Unless she's coming after him with a gun or a knife, that's how often a man should hit a woman. It's as simple as that.

I think you misunderstood me. Men and women in these types of relationships aren't "normal". He will seek out the weaker women, who have low self worth. She is usually attracted to these type of men because they seem strong. These people have issues. It's a vicious cycle in abuse. There is no complimentary relationship in that situation. I hope I cleared things up.

You and your wife seem to have a balanced relationship, which we all strive for.

[Double L]

I've had plenty of weed wacker attacks.
I have mated up with Barracudas more than once. I am more attracted to the too hot to handle type. So, I am not complaining, but let me tell you, ladies I have known can be just as aggressive as any man.

One example, she was a very gorgeous hot-blooded Greek. Her name was even exotic... Zaharula. Oh, man, I still stand in awe of this woman. But she was so fiery, she would make most Italian, or Spanish wimmin seem like a cow chewing her cud.
I finally dumped her, because her drama was escalating into defcon 1. Actually, I think I dumped her a couple times earlier and allowed her back if she'd control herself somewhat. Anyway, the last time I dumped her, she came back on my birthday, and I entertained her as a gentleman, but kept telling her no, sorry, it's over. She gave me a birthday present, and insisted, when I said I didn't want to lead her on, by accepting any gift. I graciously accepted finally, and once I did, and still refused to take her back... I was a dead man. She destroyed the gift, then started in on me, and busted up some more of my things, and I tried to control her, and she got more violent, taking gouges of flesh off my face with those once beautiful ass scratching nails, beating my chest with her fists and lit my hair on fire. :shock:
I go the hell out of there, and stood outside, as she then took my guitar and used it to smash up the rest of my stuff. Well, long story short, it was the last time I opened my door to her. She did do all my friends in a final effort to hurt me, but it actually made me more popular with my Bro's. :lol:

I seem to find these wimmin, and frankly think God bless them. It's worth the loss of blood. 8)

Damn it boy!!

[Roadhog]

Damn it boy!!

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[Double L]

Roadhog,

You'll find someone eventually, I believe there is someone for everyone. Best bet is to let her come to you, don't go find her! Atleast that is what I'm doing anyway. :wink:

[Windwalker]

I've had plenty of weed wacker attacks.
I have mated up with Barracudas more than once. I am more attracted to the too hot to handle type. So, I am not complaining, but let me tell you, ladies I have known can be just as aggressive as any man.

One example, she was a very gorgeous hot-blooded Greek. Her name was even exotic... Zaharula. Oh, man, I still stand in awe of this woman. But she was so fiery, she would make most Italian, or Spanish wimmin seem like a cow chewing her cud.
I finally dumped her, because her drama was escalating into defcon 1. Actually, I think I dumped her a couple times earlier and allowed her back if she'd control herself somewhat. Anyway, the last time I dumped her, she came back on my birthday, and I entertained her as a gentleman, but kept telling her no, sorry, it's over. She gave me a birthday present, and insisted, when I said I didn't want to lead her on, by accepting any gift. I graciously accepted finally, and once I did, and still refused to take her back... I was a dead man. She destroyed the gift, then started in on me, and busted up some more of my things, and I tried to control her, and she got more violent, taking gouges of flesh off my face with those once beautiful ass scratching nails, beating my chest with her fists and lit my hair on fire. :shock:
I go the hell out of there, and stood outside, as she then took my guitar and used it to smash up the rest of my stuff. Well, long story short, it was the last time I opened my door to her. She did do all my friends in a final effort to hurt me, but it actually made me more popular with my Bro's. :lol:

I seem to find these wimmin, and frankly think God bless them. It's worth the loss of blood. 8)

And, now we all know why he is the way he is.....

AAAAAAIIIIIIIEEEEEEAAAAAAAAHHHhhh......... she says....... :wink:

Maybe I should write a story about two lady truckers I know. Both are now married, and won't let go of their husbands even if HELL freezes over. One even says when he dies, she's not going to bury him. She's going to have him "STUFFED" so that she can still have him.