What Shoud I Do?

[NascarFan]

I know of a guy that works for our company that goes home every night and yells and cusses at his kids and wife sometimes slaps and beats them.

What should I do? Call the cops, confront him.

[Mackman]

I wouldn't really do anything. You have to work with this guy. As long as it ain't really BAD BEATINGS i would let it go. Do you know how bad the beatings are :?: If his kids are acting up in school or what ever i think alittle smacking on there azz don't hurt. For his wife she needs to get help her self. Just my 2 cents.

[marcel27208]

u may save someones life........u need to call police, u can be anonymous

[yoopr]

As long as it ain't really BAD BEATINGS i would let it go.

Say WHAT????????
I can't believe you actually said that-If you have read anything about Abusers you'd find that they Increase in Intensity and many end in Death.
Personally if I knew a guy that was doing that I'd pound his *****.
Call the Cops or Protective services-You can do it Anonymously.

[Uturn2001]

You need to call either the police or Child services, and the latter would probably be best because unless the police can get someone to talk or actually see it happen there may not be much they can do.

[Splitter]

In WA. if the Police show up, and see's that one of them has any kind of mark. Whether it be a cut, or a bruise, or even a red mark. Someone is going to jail. If children are involved? CPS is going to be notified.
She may never call the Police, because she's living in fear.

[yoopr]

In WA. if the Police show up, and see's that one of them has any kind of mark. Whether it be a cut, or a bruise, or even a red mark. Someone is going to jail. If children are involved? CPS is going to be notified.
She may never call the Police, because she's living in fear.

Have her call a Women's Shelter-They'll take care of her and the Kids.

[NascarFan]

I wouldn't really do anything. You have to work with this guy. As long as it ain't really BAD BEATINGS i would let it go. Do you know how bad the beatings are :?: If his kids are acting up in school or what ever i think alittle smacking on there azz don't hurt. For his wife she needs to get help her self. Just my 2 cents.

The kids are not acting up they wouldn't dare. I have talked to the kids and finally got them to tell me what is going on but I don't think I could get them to tell the police and the wife she hardly ever comes out of the house.

[Mackman]

well if he is just taking anger out on them then i would call the police. Theres no need for that.

[Highwayman]

I know of a guy that works for our company that goes home every night and yells and cusses at his kids and wife sometimes slaps and beats them.

What should I do? Call the cops, confront him.

Call Child Protective services (or whateve that dept is called in your state).

Unlike the police, all they need to investigate this is an anonymous report of possible child abuse. The police will be called in by DCFS if the investigations turns up serious abuse against the children and mother.

[shyykatt]

Thats cruel.
Don't confront the guy, you'll likely only aggitate him. If its as bad as you say, your morals would tell you to report it to the authorities. I'm sure the wife/kids are too afraid to do it themselves. And yes, it may make things worse, or it may not.

[BanditsCousin]

If it was just his wife, I'd say butt out and let it be. I don't condone hitting women, but a single woman should have no excuse to stay. When kids are involved, it definitely complicates things. To understand the kids are getting hit makes this a bad situation. Does this guy brag about this, how did you find out? Is there alcohol/drugs involved?

[dpatt]

If it was just his wife, I'd say butt out and let it be. I don't condone hitting women,....

Yes, you do.

Condone:
This means to overlook or forgive bad behaviour, or to treat it as unimportant; a woman is said to condone her husband's adultery if she continues to live with him as his wife although she knows what is going on. It can be used to mean 'agree to' (perhaps reluctantly), or 'acquiesce'. If using condone in this sense note that it implies a certain amount of shared guilt in failing to punish or prevent something.

[BanditsCousin]

You're right...everyone go beat their spouses

Look, sticking your nose in other people's business isn't always the best thing. In this case its best to blow the whistle on kids being abused, that should never happen. Maybe the mom is cared they'll end up in a shelter without a pot to piss in. Bad times

[NascarFan]

Well I couldn't stand it anymore this morning and when I went to work this morning I confronted him about it right in front of the boss he ended up coming after me but my boss stepped in front of him and pretty well took care of him (boss is 6'8" and weighs at least 350lbs all mussel), then my boss fired him and the guy took off so my boss called the cops told them what happened, sent me home to cool off but as I was driving home I go right passed his house and there was police car there with him in the back of it.

[dpatt]

Well I couldn't stand it anymore this morning and when I went to work this morning I confronted him about it right in front of the boss he ended up coming after me but my boss stepped in front of him and pretty well took care of him (boss is 6'8" and weighs at least 350lbs all mussel), then my boss fired him and the guy took off so my boss called the cops told them what happened, sent me home to cool off but as I was driving home I go right passed his house and there was police car there with him in the back of it.

NOW, you can rest easy and "let it go"...

You did the right thing. 8)

[marcel27208]

Well I couldn't stand it anymore this morning and when I went to work this morning I confronted him about it right in front of the boss he ended up coming after me but my boss stepped in front of him and pretty well took care of him (boss is 6'8" and weighs at least 350lbs all mussel), then my boss fired him and the guy took off so my boss called the cops told them what happened, sent me home to cool off but as I was driving home I go right passed his house and there was police car there with him in the back of it.

you done the right thing, ive been in that situation(ive been the kid whose parents were in that situation)

[shyykatt]

Good for you.
As far as "if just the wife was gettin' abused...'- get real; man, woman, child or even an animal, beatin' on anyone shouldn't be tolerated. And sometimes the ones gettin' beat-on have probably no place to go- or feel like they don't, or they are simply to scared or weak; and that doesn't make them any less of a person, some folks just don't know how or WHO to ask for help from. We're all in this world together, so we gotta' watch-out for eachother.

[Redeemed]

Well I couldn't stand it anymore this morning and when I went to work this morning I confronted him about it right in front of the boss he ended up coming after me but my boss stepped in front of him and pretty well took care of him (boss is 6'8" and weighs at least 350lbs all mussel), then my boss fired him and the guy took off so my boss called the cops told them what happened, sent me home to cool off but as I was driving home I go right passed his house and there was police car there with him in the back of it.

NascarFan you did the right thing. Any man who would do this is no man but a coward. But watch your back because a coward like this will come after you when you aren't looking.

I can't remember exactly where but didn't someone on this board tell a story about confronting a child abuser in public? Seems like it was Dr Who and it turned out the child abuser got his clock cleaned.